Most annoying modern parenting lingo

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OK if housewife or SAHM is not descriptive enough, how about kept woman? Its accurate. Unless you had alot of money from inheritance or other means or are on welfare, you are are being taken care of financially by your spouse or partner.

No one said neither was descriptive enough, only that "housewife" isn't any more accurate than "stay-at-home mom," so need to prefer the former over the latter. Way to go with the meanspiritedness, though. You are one of the reasons that this site degenerates into name-calling and that the so-called "mommy wars" exist.

another PP here

I felt like a "kept woman" for two years when I took leave, and it drove me crazy. I HATED being financially dependent upon my husband, and once we were able to find solid childcare again (b/c that was the main problem), I immediately returned to work.

So I don't think it's a Mommy War argument in some cases. There are plenty of us who are so independent that staying at home isn't an option - at least not for very long.

I think "kept woman" implies that you are living on easy street. That is not the case. I don't mind saying I'm a SAHM. I take care of our kids, and I don't get paid to work. It's just the current name. When our kids have kids of their own, there will probably be a new name.

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Anonymous wrote:There's nothing new or modern about this. Is this just becoming an all purpose complaint thread?

Do you really have to ask?

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Anonymous wrote:I think this thread is definitely just another way to vent and bring each other down. Ugh.[/b]

I strenuously agree.

I also agree. I do not understand the daycare/school kerfluffle at all, and I am a teacher with a Ph.D. Before someone starts telling me that I am just bragging, I bring this up to make the point that I don't feel disrespected that the two wonderful teachers that spend every day helping my daughter learn life skills, letters, etc. call themselves teachers, regardless of how many years of education they have had. They are teachers. How many years we all went to school is not what it is all about.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM. Am I the only person who thinks that this word is slightly pornographic?

My husband always says, "Are you on D-cum again?" Cracks me up.

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Anonymous wrote:I second the "put down" note from PP. Whenever I say I am going to put my son down, my husband says, "But he's such a nice baby. Do we really have to put him down?" Or something like, "Well, DS, you had a nice time so far..." He's right. The term is ridiculous!

Love this one! And agreed, I can see my husband saying the same thing! LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:I loathe both paci and binky. They are loathesome rather than just annoying babyish words because invariably, the women who use these terms are the ones with 3 yr olds who "need" the "paci."

What they really meant to say is Mommy "needs" the PACI in her life so she doesn't have to deal with helping her growing *child* to cope, nor does she need to listen to him whine.

ouch!

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Anonymous wrote:"Which is exactly what I'm saying happens. These are women who are saying that other women are not informed, or are implying they are stupid for making the decision they did no matter ow well informed they really were at the time.

One woman makes the well informed decison to have an epidural or a c-section or whatever. Another decides not to. It is the woman who said no who is implying the stupidy. If they're pissed at the medical community then be pissed at the medical community. Those women need to stop implying that anyone who disagrees with them is not informed.

I can think of a few in particular who regularly imply that anyone who chooses to agree to medical information simply did not have enough information to make the "right" choice. Then they use the phrase "informed consent" like it's some big mystery half of us are missing out on. "

Where are you getting this? The examples are women who were not informed. Some would have made the same decision but were not happy they did not have all the information to consider. Some women would have made different decisions for THEMSELVES if they had been informed. My friend who can not have 4 kids does not in anyway feel that no one should have a c-section. She is friends with the other women who also was not informed but would have made the same choice. The one who would have still had a c-section is fully supportive of the one who would not have it and just as ticked off at the doctor for both cases.

I guarantee you that, unless it was emergency, your friend signed an "informed consent form" prior to having a c-section. I did. You think doctors don't know about informed consent? You're crazy if you do not think that. So, good luck with that law suit of hers.

Not any of the prior posters here, but I couldn't help but run into this gem. A signed consent form is not a guarantee of informed consent.

You're right. That is entirely the fault of the person signing. Would you buy a car without reading before you sign? A house? How about a daycare contract? Then why the hell would ANYONE sign a form for any kind of medical procedure without understanding it? If the woman isn't in a frame of mind to understand it herself then someone else who can stand in needs to be aware of what it actually says before a signature ever goes on the piece of paper.

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It goes to personal responsibility. If a person says they didn't get a chance to read the forms or didn't understand them, then for some reason they aren't responsible for the decision they made.

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Anonymous wrote:"Jimmy, you aren't making good choices" as little Jimmy is tearing through Target being a brat.

Yeah, that one is priceless. Does Jimmy give a damn that his choices suck? Probably not or he wouldn't be making them.

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Anonymous wrote:"Jimmy, you aren't making good choices" as little Jimmy is tearing through Target being a brat.

Yeah, that one is priceless. Does Jimmy give a damn that his choices suck? Probably not or he wouldn't be making them.

Totally agree. There are some preschools that push this way of thinking and every family is supposed to ingest and regurgitate it until Jimmy goes to college. Same schools are the ones that go batshit crazy over using "bad" words like stupid, or idiot. I've been called out for remarking "ugh, how stupid of me to drop that coffee" because Jimmy's choices will be much more endangered by my using that word than by seeing Mommy shame another adult for using a word she doesn't like.

I don't like "well-child visit." What's wrong with check-up??

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Anonymous wrote:WTH is it a Play Yard instead of a Play Pen? Be real, its a place to stash your kid so they can play without you having to worry about them getting into everything.

Ha! I call it a baby cage.

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Moms who talk about their (private) school as "a good fit," as though it were a pair of shoes.

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The question is good fir for whom? The child or the social climbing mother?

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The SAHM hasthe TOUGHEST job in the world.

Who started this shit? How could anyone believe it?

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"My kids are just THRIVING at such and such school"

and gushing in general.