Please stop forcing me to say 'no gifts'

[Anonymous]

Yea, OP. This is all in your head.

[Anonymous]

This is a truly bizarre thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is forcing you to say anything. Based on what you've posted, I don't think they were trying to get you to respond to their question with 'no gifts.'

Even if they were angling to get you to say 'no gifts' you didn't have to do that.

Other parent: "Can I bring anything....like food?"
You: "Thank you for offering but no, thank you, we will have plenty of food!"
end of interaction.
Or maybe the other parent who is working so hard to get you to say 'no gifts' responds with: "Ok, what about anything else...like a gift?"
You: "That's so nice of you to ask. Of course it's not required to bring a gift but if you want to, I'm sure DC would love that!"

This is not the topic. No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party.

No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party except the person this whole thread is about whose question about bringing food to the party was (mis)interpreted by OP as “forcing” OP to say it is a no gifts party.

the person offered 'food' as an option after i didn't say anything to the question of "should we bring anything".

Because she wasn't asking about gifts. She was asking about bringing something to the party. When we go to kids' parties we bring a present for the kids and sometimes a six-pack for the 'party,' depending on the vibe/attendees/location/age of the kids/whether it's dropoff or not.

You are misinterpreting the situation. You are creating a problem out of thin air.

who does this? i can imagine doing it with my actual friends or relatives who have kids but these are my kid's classmates and their parents. some have been to our home before (playdates) but we are not close.

there is no problem. i am just venting and perhaps raising awareness of how asking for permission not to bring a gift can be (mis)interpreted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is forcing you to say anything. Based on what you've posted, I don't think they were trying to get you to respond to their question with 'no gifts.'

Even if they were angling to get you to say 'no gifts' you didn't have to do that.

Other parent: "Can I bring anything....like food?"
You: "Thank you for offering but no, thank you, we will have plenty of food!"
end of interaction.
Or maybe the other parent who is working so hard to get you to say 'no gifts' responds with: "Ok, what about anything else...like a gift?"
You: "That's so nice of you to ask. Of course it's not required to bring a gift but if you want to, I'm sure DC would love that!"

This is not the topic. No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party.

No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party except the person this whole thread is about whose question about bringing food to the party was (mis)interpreted by OP as “forcing” OP to say it is a no gifts party.

the person offered 'food' as an option after i didn't say anything to the question of "should we bring anything".

Because she wasn't asking about gifts. She was asking about bringing something to the party. When we go to kids' parties we bring a present for the kids and sometimes a six-pack for the 'party,' depending on the vibe/attendees/location/age of the kids/whether it's dropoff or not.

You are misinterpreting the situation. You are creating a problem out of thin air.

who does this? i can imagine doing it with my actual friends or relatives who have kids but these are my kid's classmates and their parents. some have been to our home before (playdates) but we are not close.

there is no problem. i am just venting and perhaps raising awareness of how asking for permission not to bring a gift can be (mis)interpreted.

The only thing you're raising awareness of is your social awkwardness. Nobody asked you for permission to not bring a gift.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is forcing you to say anything. Based on what you've posted, I don't think they were trying to get you to respond to their question with 'no gifts.'

Even if they were angling to get you to say 'no gifts' you didn't have to do that.

Other parent: "Can I bring anything....like food?"
You: "Thank you for offering but no, thank you, we will have plenty of food!"
end of interaction.
Or maybe the other parent who is working so hard to get you to say 'no gifts' responds with: "Ok, what about anything else...like a gift?"
You: "That's so nice of you to ask. Of course it's not required to bring a gift but if you want to, I'm sure DC would love that!"

This is not the topic. No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party.

No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party except the person this whole thread is about whose question about bringing food to the party was (mis)interpreted by OP as “forcing” OP to say it is a no gifts party.

the person offered 'food' as an option after i didn't say anything to the question of "should we bring anything".

Because she wasn't asking about gifts. She was asking about bringing something to the party. When we go to kids' parties we bring a present for the kids and sometimes a six-pack for the 'party,' depending on the vibe/attendees/location/age of the kids/whether it's dropoff or not.

You are misinterpreting the situation. You are creating a problem out of thin air.

who does this? i can imagine doing it with my actual friends or relatives who have kids but these are my kid's classmates and their parents. some have been to our home before (playdates) but we are not close.

there is no problem. i am just venting and perhaps raising awareness of how asking for permission not to bring a gift can be (mis)interpreted.

+1, its not a BBQ, its a birthday party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is forcing you to say anything. Based on what you've posted, I don't think they were trying to get you to respond to their question with 'no gifts.'

Even if they were angling to get you to say 'no gifts' you didn't have to do that.

Other parent: "Can I bring anything....like food?"
You: "Thank you for offering but no, thank you, we will have plenty of food!"
end of interaction.
Or maybe the other parent who is working so hard to get you to say 'no gifts' responds with: "Ok, what about anything else...like a gift?"
You: "That's so nice of you to ask. Of course it's not required to bring a gift but if you want to, I'm sure DC would love that!"

This is not the topic. No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party.

No one is offering to bring food to a birthday party except the person this whole thread is about whose question about bringing food to the party was (mis)interpreted by OP as “forcing” OP to say it is a no gifts party.

the person offered 'food' as an option after i didn't say anything to the question of "should we bring anything".

Because she wasn't asking about gifts. She was asking about bringing something to the party. When we go to kids' parties we bring a present for the kids and sometimes a six-pack for the 'party,' depending on the vibe/attendees/location/age of the kids/whether it's dropoff or not.

You are misinterpreting the situation. You are creating a problem out of thin air.

who does this? i can imagine doing it with my actual friends or relatives who have kids but these are my kid's classmates and their parents. some have been to our home before (playdates) but we are not close.

there is no problem. i am just venting and perhaps raising awareness of how asking for permission not to bring a gift can be (mis)interpreted.

+1, its not a BBQ, its a birthday party.

I've definitely been to birthday parties that were BBQs. Hence the bolded.

[Anonymous]

OP has issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?

Ahahaha that would be their last visit with me! Hope they don’t bring siblings!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do your children really NEED more stuff?
You sound selfish and greedy. Just tell them to give Larla a gift card.
Tacky

They don’t need piano lessons or clean sheets every week either. There are very few true needs.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate that question too. Obviously they want to get your kid something they will like, but I think getting something that another kid likes or something I never thought of or heard of makes it so much more exciting for my kid.

Oh please. I always ask and truly appreciate an honest response, the more precise the better! I have enough on my mind without thinking what to give your kid!

[Anonymous]

what I hate is when they ask what your child likes, and then give something completely different.
It’s fine if you don’t ask. But this????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I've definitely been to birthday parties that were BBQs. Hence the bolded.

Same. A "Bounce House BBQ" bday party was one of the most fun that our family went to when kids at age when parents stuck around - host family had huge yard and amazing set up for parents & kids!

[Anonymous]

Is this party at your house? Are parents staying? I often ask what we can bring. Others ask me as well. I may respond with beer or dessert.

I think op misinterpreted the conversation.

[Anonymous]

And what kind of socially awkward person would hint and ask host about not bringing a gift.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was absolutely made to make me say no gifts. One said “do I need to bring anything (pause) like food...? What do you say to tho? Shopkins?

Ahahaha that would be their last visit with me! Hope they don’t bring siblings!

Haha! If anyone asked me that question--"Do I need to bring anything...like food...?" I would respond "Thanks, but we are all set with food and drink!" and skirt the topic of a gift. If the conversation moved to "Should we bring a gift?" (I cannot imagine this happening) then I'd say "Totally fine either way! But if you do want to get him something, Larlo loves My Little Pony and he's always looking for new books. I'm so glad your Lardyn can make the party!"