Says the person with less empathy than a golden retriever. You can have your facility for fajitas; I'll take my theory of mind. |
+1000 something tells me no one is bringing PP much of anything anyway, can't imagine she has many friends with that worldview. |
Human connections are always important, but even more so following childbirth. It is exhausting to give birth and exhausting getting through those first weeks - it's among the biggest adjustments that we make as humans over the course of our lives. People with money can throw it at the challenge by ordering food to be delivered. Without money, that's a challenge, particularly given that most maternity leaves are unpaid. Moreover, the power of human connection can be conveyed with delicious food. Could I order in sushi, Greek food, pizza, whatever? Yes, of course. Does it have the same degree of comfort, meaning, and deliciousness as a full meal delivered to my door by a caring friend? No, not even close. When my second DC was born years ago and I was struggling to BF, waking up every few hours, fighting with DH, and helping my toddler adjust, it was the most amazing thing to have a full meal delivered every day for a couple of weeks. Just amazing. Brisket, roasted chicken, lasagna, stir-fry with rice, homemade pies and cut-up fruit - no food had ever been so welcome or tasted so good. In the midst of the bleeding nipples, toddler tantrums, exhaustion, my family and I basked in the love and support we received from our friends and family - and I've returned that love and support many times over. It's not all about the food itself. |
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I love the ravioli lasagna from Costco - with a Ceasar salad and some dessert is my usual go-to for bringing something to a new mom. I also usually grab some movie tickets from Costco while I'm there to throw in with it so the older kids can get out and do something fun with a parent or babysitter.
I've also done GrubHub and Galley giftcards which were well received. |
You get it, PP. Make a dish in your own kitchen, and deliver it with a smile and a hug to your friend. You won't regret this at all. |
Just no fajitas or anything like that. That would be inflicting a huge amount of work on a busy new mom. Don't punish her with all of that work and the burden of washing a pan. |
| I would have loved fajitas. |
Actually it's washing like 6-8 dishes. If you want to wash one pan drop of a lasagna like a normal person. |
| Fondu |
Why are you assuming it’s the mom who washes the pan?? |
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Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.
There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc. If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control |
I agree with the PP. if you have a normal birth and a spouse, you really don’t need friends and family serving you dinners. Meal trains were a thing back when delivery didn’t even exist or it was limited to pizza. Now we can have our groceries delivered. There truly isn’t any need for a meal train in DC. |
| Why don’t people on DCUM bring meals in disposable pans? |
| A gift voucher for Grub Hub so they can order whatever they like, whenever they need. |
| Yes, now day and age this kind of thing is kind of not a thing anymore. People really prefer food cooked by professionals in their restaurant kitchens. |