Think back to your teen self? Would you be upset?

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Anonymous wrote:Whoa! I am getting creepy vibes from your stepdad. You are not his biological child, you are not the same gender as him. He is looking at your shapewear and sleeping in your bed? This is major pedo and pervert behavior.

I am sure that there is no way you could move with your real dad, because you would have done so already, amiright? This means that your stepdad also knows that he has power over you. I would talk to your school counselor and then get CPS involved. I would also insist on family therapy etc where your stepdad, mom and dad are also present.

Get ready for your life to become very hard now because you are in the crosshair of an adult male who has power over you. Your future, your college, your dreams and aspirations - everything can get impacted.

THIS!! Super inappropriate behavior and very creepy. Definitely talk to a school counselor, even if nothing is done right away, at least you’ll have a record if things escalate. Document this, and maybe email your dad about what happened so there’s a paper trail. I would have been livid if this had happened to me at 15.

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THIS!! Super inappropriate behavior and very creepy. Definitely talk to a school counselor, even if nothing is done right away, at least you’ll have a record if things escalate. Document this, and maybe email your dad about what happened so there’s a paper trail. I would have been livid if this had happened to me at 15.

+1 Talk to your guidance counselor as soon as possible. Today. Lock your door. at night. Avoid being alone with him. If you have time and the ability to do this, I strongly encourage you to consider taking a self defense class. I had both my daughters take karate and they both have black belts now. It has given them a great degree of confidence. If he ever tries to touch you fight back, Go for his eyes and groin. Scream and run to the neighbors. Do not think about whether your mother would approve. Even if your mother takes his side, there are many woman who will support you. This is a lot for a 15 year old to handle but you are not alone.

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Anonymous wrote:PS please do NOT follow the advice to try to talk to them about this. Mom will repeat what you say. He will double down on his behavior to prove he was right. All you can do is descalate. Do no react. You are a grey rock. Google "grey rock".

Also I repeat, I would move out. Only a matter of time before he does something very serious. Then says "I was just playing", "you are being oversensative" whatever. And your relationship with your mom will be forever broken because she will not support you.

I agree. This will backfire.

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OP this is very creepy and I don’t like the ramping up. However you live there now and have 3 more years. I would confide in trusted adults. And ask Jeff to delete this thread. Your stepdad doesn’t need to read this. It will only make him more defensive and maybe more likely to show off in a bad way. I hope this is a troll post.

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Your stepdad is wrong for not checking the condition of your room before going in, but then since you are such a good girl, he probably didn't feel like he would need to. You are wrong for not keeping a clean room. While it would have been respectful for him to ask you first, it is his house and he says that he just wanted to show off your painting work. Now, if that was all that you typed, then I wouldn't be the least bothered with clicking submit. The fact that your stepdad slept in your bed (sounds like to prove a point in a rather creepy way) is odd behavior that your mom should address. A nanny cam in the hallway (pointed at your doorway, but not in your room) would shed some light on this.

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Anonymous wrote:Your stepdad is wrong for not checking the condition of your room before going in, but then since you are such a good girl, he probably didn't feel like he would need to. You are wrong for not keeping a clean room. While it would have been respectful for him to ask you first, it is his house and he says that he just wanted to show off your painting work. Now, if that was all that you typed, then I wouldn't be the least bothered with clicking submit. The fact that your stepdad slept in your bed (sounds like to prove a point in a rather creepy way) is odd behavior that your mom should address. A nanny cam in the hallway (pointed at your doorway, but not in your room) would shed some light on this.

+1 with a slightly different take on the bed sleeping. I too think the showing of your room was the sort of minor conflict that happens between teens and parents commonly and not really a big deal. The later action to sleep in your bed to prove a point just strikes mes as very immature and petty and mean. I definitely would have been upset by this as a teen but I think at root, I would have been disappointed and shaken by the strange adult behavior. That said, adults aren't perfect. We all do stupid stuff sometimes. Some adults, perhaps your step dad, are not entirely mentally healthy. Do take care of yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:PS please do NOT follow the advice to try to talk to them about this. Mom will repeat what you say. He will double down on his behavior to prove he was right. All you can do is descalate. Do no react. You are a grey rock. Google "grey rock".

Also I repeat, I would move out. Only a matter of time before he does something very serious. Then says "I was just playing", "you are being oversensative" whatever. And your relationship with your mom will be forever broken because she will not support you.

I agree. This will backfire.

I also agree, this will backfire. New poster here. When I was 15, my mom was dating a guy who moved in with us during a few years while I was in High School. I never liked him, my gut instinct told me something was off. I was right, he was a creep who controlled my mom. She did a lot of things she now regrets including not standing up for me and my sister. I know this is hard, because your mom doesn't have her spidey senses on so she isn't protecting your emotional well being. Now that I'm 50 and have 2 kids of my own, a 14 year old and a 12 year old, I have the experience and wisdom to know that my gut instinct was spot-on My mom was being intensive and downright irresponsible when it came to protecting us. Your mom doesn't see herself right now, she doesn't want to rock the boat with her 2nd husband. Your emotional well being is very important so please make sure you are sharing this with a counselor, trusted teacher and maybe a cousin, aunt, best friend, uncle or someone close you can trust. Your dad can only do so much, I'm glad you told him. Not sure how your dads relationship is with your mom and step-dad but it's important to shine a light on anything that is inappropriate - you dad can't be the only person you tell. Your step dad is acting inappropriate, and you must continue to stand up for yourself. Back to your question, my teen self would have been very upset. You are right to be upset, but try to get more support to help you draw some boundaries. It's hard to know if your step dad is a joker or is serious about the power trip, but do consider a nanny cam.

Hugs - good luck