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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PS please do NOT follow the advice to try to talk to them about this.  Mom will repeat what you say. He will double down on his behavior to prove he was right.  All you can do is descalate.  Do no react.  You are a grey rock.  Google "grey rock".

Also I repeat, I would move out.  Only a matter of time before he does something very serious.  Then says "I was just playing", "you are being oversensative" whatever.  And your relationship with your mom will be forever broken because she will not support you.  [/quote]
I agree. This will backfire. [/quote]

I also agree, this will backfire.  New poster here. When I was 15, my mom was dating a guy who moved in with us during a few years while I was in High School.  I never liked him, my gut instinct told me something was off.  I was right, he was a creep who controlled my mom.  She did a lot of things she now regrets including not standing up for me and my sister.  I know this is hard, because your mom doesn't have her spidey senses on so she isn't protecting your emotional well being.  Now that I'm 50 and have 2 kids of my own, a 14 year old and a 12 year old, I have the experience and wisdom to know that my gut instinct was spot-on  My mom was being intensive and downright irresponsible when it came to protecting us.  Your mom doesn't see herself right now, she doesn't want to rock the boat with her 2nd husband.  Your emotional well being is very important so please make sure you are sharing this with a counselor, trusted teacher and maybe a cousin, aunt, best friend, uncle or someone close you can trust.  Your dad can only do so much, I'm glad you told him. Not sure how your dads relationship is with your mom and step-dad but it's important to shine a light on anything that is inappropriate - you dad can't be the only person you tell.  Your step dad is acting inappropriate, and you must continue to stand up for yourself.  Back to your question, my teen self would have been very upset. You are right to be upset, but try to get more support to help you draw some boundaries.  It's hard to know if your step dad is a joker or is serious about the power trip, but do consider a nanny cam.

Hugs - good luck[/quote]

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