Nanny demanding extra money 2 days before my scheduled c section

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

Maybe the nanny didn’t realize it was undercompensation and a friend pointed out the exploitation. There isn’t a courteous time limit on protecting yourself from unfair labor practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

Maybe the nanny didn’t realize it was undercompensation and a friend pointed out the exploitation. There isn’t a courteous time limit on protecting yourself from unfair labor practices.

No. This is more than discourteous - it’s extortion. And it’s wrong.

[Anonymous]

I know that it is stressful but you could call an agency and get a temporary nanny. If you are willing to pay more you could get someone who is certified or experienced as a baby nurse.
The temp nanny/baby nurse would stay with you for a few weeks until you find a new permanent nanny.

I would rather spend double on someone else than give money to an extortionist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

Maybe the nanny didn’t realize it was undercompensation and a friend pointed out the exploitation. There isn’t a courteous time limit on protecting yourself from unfair labor practices.

No. This is more than discourteous - it’s extortion. And it’s wrong.

No, extortion is illegal. We have a wholeConstitutional amendment that allows the nanny to negotiate the terms of her employment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

Actually it does matter. And once again, we have one side of the story. Who knows what the actual truth is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know that it is stressful but you could call an agency and get a temporary nanny. If you are willing to pay more you could get someone who is certified or experienced as a baby nurse.
The temp nanny/baby nurse would stay with you for a few weeks until you find a new permanent nanny.

I would rather spend double on someone else than give money to an extortionist.

x1000 you cannot trust the nanny taking care of your child. This is an emergency now and ask for friends help until you come back from hospital and go baby nurse and nanny route

[Anonymous]

The one good thing about keeping your nanny on for a little bit is that she knows your kids routines and your kids know her already. You're about to add another baby, which is already a major change for the whole family, so adding a new provider at this time might not be best choice. However, I agree with PPs who said something about using her to get through this period and once you are up to it, begin interviewing for a replacement. I think it's extra important to be able to rely on childcare arrangements that were made given the new baby. I think you will find great candidates, but it's up to you about when to replace her. Good luck OP

[Anonymous]

Why is she working 24/7 after a scheduled c-section? Send your husband home in the evenings go take care of the older kids.

[Anonymous]

I guess she learned the Art of the Deal!

[Anonymous]

If you have money to throw at the situation, is fire nanny and hire a baby nurse. Then use your mat leave to hire a nanny. I’d give the nanny zero notice and zero severance and zero reference.

- Longtime nanny who would never do this my employer!!!

[Anonymous]

Pay her what she wants, and then quietly replace her as soon as you can. I would also share this with her future employers if she expects a reference (along with the positives about her, of course, to give a fair and balanced picture of who they are getting). She can't possibly think she can do this 2 days before your C section and still stay on good terms with her.

[Anonymous]

Good for her! You were exploiting her and got what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

I’d been unavailable for a friend who decided to fire her nanny rather than pay the woman fairly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I can tell you that your nanny is 100% in the wrong here. I am sorry this is happening to you, OP. Give her the extorted money and then fire her ass ASAP. She is making such a stupid, short-sighted error here as she will need you for a reference.

+1. Another nanny here who thinks your nanny sucks. You do not do this.

+2. Another nanny here. I’ve read all the posts and OP’s updates, and I feel that this nanny is wrong. Sorry, OP. You sound fair.

You have no idea what Op offered to her nanny and her general package. We have one side of the story. We still need the nanny’s side and then the truth.

Makes absolutely no difference what OP is offering. You do not wait until two days before OP’s surgery to demand more money and fewer responsibilities. It’s wrong and stunningly unprofessional. If the nanny didn’t like the arrangement or money, she should have said so in the beginning.

This nanny is dead wrong. Nannies like this give us all a bad name.

Actually it does matter. And once again, we have one side of the story. Who knows what the actual truth is.

This sums it up pretty well.