Husband screamed at me and never apologized or acknowledged it

[Anonymous]

I suspect this is he same OP of my husband called me a monster, and the my husband has been gone for brunch all day celebrating a birthday.

The clock is ticking for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, was anyone else (other than you) in the home at the time your husband, if that's who it was, entered the house? Does anyone else have a key? TIA

WTF am I missing in this thread???

Think that the question is whether or not the person who screamed at OP was actually her husband, or someone else. More info needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious conversations need the right time and place. Following your drink husband around while you are in a pissy mood and refusing to back off when asked is all on you. Ambushing someone is guaranteed to fail.

Instead of waiting for an apology (yours too?) Find the right time to discuss your feelings, and allow him to have his feelings too.

I agree with this. Your husband can opt out of talking at any given moment and so can you. It wasn't the best time when he's drunk and you are pissy. Also, you need to respect his boundaries. Agreed on the approach to how to resolve it.

That being said, ideally, he shouldn't have screamed at you. But you pushed him there. If he normally doesn't scream at you, then chalk it up to pushing him too far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On Wednesday evening my husband came home after drinking with a friend. I was in a pissy mood and made a comment about how I feel we are behind and all our friends are moving on, growing up, buying houses, having babies etc.

He grows cold and snaps at me saying he’s not dealing with this again.

I am taken aback by his sudden change of tone and tell him I’d like for him to listen to me.

He refuses and walks out of the room. I follow him in the living room and he tells me to go away. I feel confused and ask why. He says leave me alone. I say no you have to talk to me. He started yelling and screaming at me to leave him alone. I tell him to stop acting that way. I go over and touch him saying I love him and it’s ok and that he needs to calm down. He screams in my face, “ go away!!! Leave me alone!!! I want to bash my head against a wall!”

I start crying and go hide in the bedroom.

The next morning I leave for work. He texts me at noon as if it’s another ordinary day.

It’s Friday now and he still hasn’t apologized.

Next time, go do something productive when you're in a pissy mood. Meditate, do yoga, watch a funny show, anything but harass your DH.

[Anonymous]

OP, is it worth asking your husband if he was the one who blow up at you? Is he familiar with the situation?