ending on a low note

[Anonymous]

op: Should I spend time with her without pressuring her to talk about her problems? Does that send the message that if she's behaving erratically at school she gets a special day with mom as a reward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op: Should I spend time with her without pressuring her to talk about her problems? Does that send the message that if she's behaving erratically at school she gets a special day with mom as a reward?

If she thinks a “special day with mom” is simply a day you spend time together without you pressuring her to talk about her problems, you are going about parenting all wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op: Should I spend time with her without pressuring her to talk about her problems? Does that send the message that if she's behaving erratically at school she gets a special day with mom as a reward?

I'm sorry, is she in school still? Spend time with your child who is clearly hurting. Don't push her to talk about it. Be there with her. She is unhappy and you are worried about all the wrong things. I have a feeling that your expectations are out of whack and that you are going to do this day with her and then when she has another bad day in the future you will blame it on her and say that getting a day with you did not help at all.

You really need support from your therapist or another therapist who can help you with parenting a child who is unhappy and has mental health problems.

[Anonymous]

Last day is tomorrow. Seeing my therapist Friday

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They said it isn’t one specific incident, there is no returning as it ends at 6th

Don't waste your time being insulted about things they said (because maybe they are true?)

I would be glad that you are done with them, since it seems they waited until there was nothing more to do on their part to bother bringing this up to you.

Very typical of private schools to become unhealthy places for anyone who doesn't fit the school's image of what a kid should be like. Good riddance.

All that said, they did choose to talk about your daughter's mental health. Take that as a warning that there may be something going on and try to figure it out this summer so that the fall goes better and so that any potential problem is addressed/has professionals in place.

This. Instead of being insulted -what's the point of that, esp when you're done with the school- take a close look at what they said. I say this as a relative of a teen who by all counts seemed fine but tried to commit suicide last week. Take it seriously.

The parents didn’t know their child was struggling?