Donor embryo, how do you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genetics is a crapshoot even with your own DNA. Kids don’t necessarily look like parents. Kids aren’t necessarily as academic as parents. You can’t control what you think you can by choosing the perfect donors. Think about how the universe has given you this opportunity. Think about the money saved. I really hope this works out for you. Good luck.

My DD looks just like my husband (her stepfather). When people hear we are a blended family we regularly get laughs and people saying they would have bet money that DD is biologically related to him and not me.


My point is you never know what you’re going to get. Go for it. Have a beautiful baby or two

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Genetics is a crapshoot even with your own DNA. Kids don’t necessarily look like parents. Kids aren’t necessarily as academic as parents. You can’t control what you think you can by choosing the perfect donors. Think about how the universe has given you this opportunity. Think about the money saved. I really hope this works out for you. Good luck.

My DD looks just like my husband (her stepfather). When people hear we are a blended family we regularly get laughs and people saying they would have bet money that DD is biologically related to him and not me.


My point is you never know what you’re going to get. Go for it. Have a beautiful baby or two

Me again. I forgot to add the relevant info in here. I’m Irish background (black hair). Kid is same all Northern European. And DH is.....drumroll......Latino! He’s from Argentina. He does bear a resemblance to Pope Francis in his younger years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ not sorry and you are ignorant. Many families have been stable generation after generation. It’s a simple fact. They have also been more or less healthy living well into their 80s. Many families like that in the DCUM area. Don’t know where you live. Perhaps it is very polluted where you live and people have short lives?

No. Born and raised in the southern half of Virginia. Family on both sides are Virginians dating back to the early 1700s. No one from industrialized, polluted areas. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents lived well into their 80s. Great grandparents all died in their 80s or 90s. And yet, still, there are family members with cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, even some dementia. Most people I know have at least a family member or 2 who have some health issues, someone in the family tree who died young, whatever. And, yes, that includes quite a few people here in DCUM-land. So, yes, it is surprising to me to see someone indicate otherwise.
I think you misunderstood my response to the initial PP, but you are incredibly rude in attempting to make your point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ not sorry and you are ignorant. Many families have been stable generation after generation. It’s a simple fact. They have also been more or less healthy living well into their 80s. Many families like that in the DCUM area. Don’t know where you live. Perhaps it is very polluted where you live and people have short lives?

No. Born and raised in the southern half of Virginia. Family on both sides are Virginians dating back to the early 1700s. No one from industrialized, polluted areas. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents lived well into their 80s. Great grandparents all died in their 80s or 90s. And yet, still, there are family members with cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, even some dementia. Most people I know have at least a family member or 2 who have some health issues, someone in the family tree who died young, whatever. And, yes, that includes quite a few people here in DCUM-land. So, yes, it is surprising to me to see someone indicate otherwise.
I think you misunderstood my response to the initial PP, but you are incredibly rude in attempting to make your point.

Why would anyone want to know your family history? Your family has nothing to do with the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ not sorry and you are ignorant. Many families have been stable generation after generation. It’s a simple fact. They have also been more or less healthy living well into their 80s. Many families like that in the DCUM area. Don’t know where you live. Perhaps it is very polluted where you live and people have short lives?

No. Born and raised in the southern half of Virginia. Family on both sides are Virginians dating back to the early 1700s. No one from industrialized, polluted areas. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents lived well into their 80s. Great grandparents all died in their 80s or 90s. And yet, still, there are family members with cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, even some dementia. Most people I know have at least a family member or 2 who have some health issues, someone in the family tree who died young, whatever. And, yes, that includes quite a few people here in DCUM-land. So, yes, it is surprising to me to see someone indicate otherwise.
I think you misunderstood my response to the initial PP, but you are incredibly rude in attempting to make your point.

Why would anyone want to know your family history? Your family has nothing to do with the thread.

Are you dense? You're the one prattling about "stable" families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ not sorry and you are ignorant. Many families have been stable generation after generation. It’s a simple fact. They have also been more or less healthy living well into their 80s. Many families like that in the DCUM area. Don’t know where you live. Perhaps it is very polluted where you live and people have short lives?

No. Born and raised in the southern half of Virginia. Family on both sides are Virginians dating back to the early 1700s. No one from industrialized, polluted areas. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents lived well into their 80s. Great grandparents all died in their 80s or 90s. And yet, still, there are family members with cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, even some dementia. Most people I know have at least a family member or 2 who have some health issues, someone in the family tree who died young, whatever. And, yes, that includes quite a few people here in DCUM-land. So, yes, it is surprising to me to see someone indicate otherwise.
I think you misunderstood my response to the initial PP, but you are incredibly rude in attempting to make your point.

Why would anyone want to know your family history? Your family has nothing to do with the thread.

Are you dense? You're the one prattling about "stable" families.

+1

[Anonymous]

PP has given more information about her family on an anonymous forum than OP has about an anonymous donor embryo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP has given more information about her family on an anonymous forum than OP has about an anonymous donor embryo.

And so? If you’re that uncomfortable with uncertainty, what are you doing on an infertility treatment board?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP has given more information about her family on an anonymous forum than OP has about an anonymous donor embryo.

Yes, as a counter to the "most families are stable and perfectly healthy, generation after generation. If yours isn't, something's wrong" PP.

If you don't agree with doing DE/donor embryo due to the lack of knowledge about the donors' family medical history, that's your call. OP needs to make her own decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ not sorry and you are ignorant. Many families have been stable generation after generation. It’s a simple fact. They have also been more or less healthy living well into their 80s. Many families like that in the DCUM area. Don’t know where you live. Perhaps it is very polluted where you live and people have short lives?

No. Born and raised in the southern half of Virginia. Family on both sides are Virginians dating back to the early 1700s. No one from industrialized, polluted areas. 3 out of 4 of my grandparents lived well into their 80s. Great grandparents all died in their 80s or 90s. And yet, still, there are family members with cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, even some dementia. Most people I know have at least a family member or 2 who have some health issues, someone in the family tree who died young, whatever. And, yes, that includes quite a few people here in DCUM-land. So, yes, it is surprising to me to see someone indicate otherwise.
I think you misunderstood my response to the initial PP, but you are incredibly rude in attempting to make your point.

Your family seems really unhealthy. You are not a donor are you? Of course not. You would never pass the physical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can I ask this gently? Let’s see...

If you had clearer photos of the sperm donor, say at 7, 18, and 30 and could see how “Latino” he appeared, would that change your mind?

People in this area tend to think mestizo when they hear Latino, but it is a non-racial ethnic category. One can be a blond, blue eyed fair-skinned Latino; an ebony-skinned, kinky haired one; or a dead-ringer for Tupac Amaru.

It’s not unreasonable for you to worry that your child will look ethnically different enough that people will assume one or both of you isn’t the biological parent. You just have to decide if that is a secret worth being a barrier to getting a baby ASAP.

eh, I am biologically related to to my child and people ask me all the time if he is mine because he is biracial, its mildly annoying, but if I were in OP's situation, a mild annoyance in exchange for the chance to be a mother...I'd use the donated embryo