DCUM, please give me strength to cut this guy off

[Anonymous]

Thanks for these responses. It's a wake up call. He's not looking out for me, he's looking out for himself- and it's time for me to do the same.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for these responses. It's a wake up call. He's not looking out for me, he's looking out for himself- and it's time for me to do the same.

-OP

Now dump him and book yourself a spa day!

[Anonymous]

Done. Ripped off the band-aid. Making space to find a man who wants me without reservations. DCUM FTW!

[Anonymous]

DTMFA!

[Anonymous]

You know what you have to do.

[Anonymous]

Run. Away. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Done. Ripped off the band-aid. Making space to find a man who wants me without reservations. DCUM FTW!

So glad for you, OP.

Now find someone who deserves you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Done. Ripped off the band-aid. Making space to find a man who wants me without reservations. DCUM FTW!

You did the right thing. I was you 12 years ago. But something else happened. I did find a guy who wanted to be with me. Problem is I never felt the same. I was flattered he was serious. Unfortunately, I married him even though I was not sure. It has been a miserable marriage. I really never got over the other guy. If you find someone else who wants you without reservations, do not be blinded by that. Make sure you want him too and not just because the last guy was noncommittal. Single is better than commitment from the wrong guy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you tell him you love him? Does he know? Do you think he loves you?

We are dating and we love each other, openly. Last night when I said I wanted to confirm that this is as far as it will go between us, he said “you never know, it keeps evolving [between us],” which I took to mean as ‘I don’t want to give you what you want but I don’t want you out of my life.’ I just don’t want to waste any more of my time, and I know ending it will only be harder as time goes on.

This seems ridiculous. Just tell him what you want and check what he wants. Try to make it work.