DCUM, please give me strength to cut this guy off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is married.

Are you married?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Are there kids involved?

Early thirties. No kids.

Get out. It doesn't matter whether you love him if he is unwilling or unable to meet your needs. If you want a committed future together and he won't provide that, then move on. Do not waste another day on him.

+1

Are you expecting him to leave his wife for you? If he is not willing to contemplate the next move then your love for him could backfire in a big way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is married.

He is not married.

[Anonymous]

OP here - he is NOT married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you tell him you love him? Does he know? Do you think he loves you?

We are dating and we love each other, openly. Last night when I said I wanted to confirm that this is as far as it will go between us, he said “you never know, it keeps evolving [between us],” which I took to mean as ‘I don’t want to give you what you want but I don’t want you out of my life.’ I just don’t want to waste any more of my time, and I know ending it will only be harder as time goes on.

Instead of constantly wishing for something "more", why can't you just enjoy what you have?

I have been enjoying what we have, but we’re coming up on a year of this formless whatever and I want more security.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is married.

He is not married.

Even more reason to move on!! It is clear he is not into you as much as you are him.

Live your life and enjoy the one who is crazy about you. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Are there kids involved?

Early thirties. No kids.

Get out. It doesn't matter whether you love him if he is unwilling or unable to meet your needs. If you want a committed future together and he won't provide that, then move on. Do not waste another day on him.

+ 100 Please heed this advice, OP.

[Anonymous]

Maybe in your 40s and divorced it is different because I literally do t see anything wrong with his answer. I’d have no problem with that reply but maybe that’s because I have children and I am in no rush to get married.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him what you want and if he can’t meet your needs you need to move on. Time is not on your side.

[Anonymous]

You've posted here before.

Just get on with it. Set a date by which you will break up with him and then pull the plug.

Work out, diet, get your hair did, and get back in the game like a warrior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to tell him what you want and if he can’t meet your needs you need to move on. Time is not on your side.

This, just tell him that you need more or it's over. You'll have your answer.

[Anonymous]

this is a booty call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you tell him you love him? Does he know? Do you think he loves you?

We are dating and we love each other, openly. Last night when I said I wanted to confirm that this is as far as it will go between us, he said “you never know, it keeps evolving [between us],” which I took to mean as ‘I don’t want to give you what you want but I don’t want you out of my life.’ I just don’t want to waste any more of my time, and I know ending it will only be harder as time goes on.

Instead of constantly wishing for something "more", why can't you just enjoy what you have?

I have been enjoying what we have, but we’re coming up on a year of this formless whatever and I want more security.

Girl. He's been playing you for a YEAR? Why do you even care about this loser? Get your head right, dump him and go to a therapist to figure out why you wasted a year with him.

[Anonymous]

You need to be open and direct. "Mike, I love you and love spending time with you, but I'm not going to be happy in my life without a commitment to a long term relationship. If that's not where you are right now, that's fine, but I think that means that you and I are not right for each other."

And rip off the bandaid.

[Anonymous]

Don’t cut off. He needs it!