What would you have done in this situation?

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

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Have you child go climb all over the ladies car.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

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I would have physically removed the child from the bike, asked where her mom was, then told her I had to go inside, and she needs to run back to her mom. Holding it for her to climb on, then giving her a ride seems like kind of an odd thing to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

What a truly shitty parent you are.

How is this sh*tty? I feel the same way. PP stated that she parented her child and I do as well, but it is incredibly annoying that all of a sudden instead of your kid playing on the play equipment you're having to block them from getting into other people's stuff. Of course I will put the effort in to keep my kid away from the stroller full of snacks or the toy that belongs to the other kid, but I can also feel annoyed about it too.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

That was me. Nobody needs to be snacking constantly, not even toddlers. If your kid needs a snack, go to a space off to the side, eat the snack, then come back and play. I brought my daughter (then 18-months) to a children’s nature center this summer. The place is designed for toddlers to roam free and play. The plan was for her to explore the center, play with the toys, touch the exhibits, etc. But there was a kid there who had an open container of cheerios on his stroller bc he apparently he couldn’t live without cheerios for more than 5 seconds. So now instead of playing, my 18-month-old is being drawn like a magnet over and over to these cheerios, and I have to redirect her over and over and over. That’s not why I came to the children’s nature center.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you say the truth, "I don't want her on the bike" or "Please make sure she does not get on the bike".

Sure Mom shouldn't have let her. However, say ALL that you mean.

+1 The mom gave you the in with "are you not okay with her on the bike?" You should have been polite but firm and direct in your expectation. "You are right, I don't want her to touch the bike and this is the only place I have to put it. Please make sure she does not touch the bike. Thanks for understanding!"

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

That was me. Nobody needs to be snacking constantly, not even toddlers. If your kid needs a snack, go to a space off to the side, eat the snack, then come back and play. I brought my daughter (then 18-months) to a children’s nature center this summer. The place is designed for toddlers to roam free and play. The plan was for her to explore the center, play with the toys, touch the exhibits, etc. But there was a kid there who had an open container of cheerios on his stroller bc he apparently he couldn’t live without cheerios for more than 5 seconds. So now instead of playing, my 18-month-old is being drawn like a magnet over and over to these cheerios, and I have to redirect her over and over and over. That’s not why I came to the children’s nature center.

That says more about you plan and simple. Your job is to redirect and teach, two things you don’t want to do. Clearly your child is hungry if they are so interested in the Cheerios instead of playing.

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

What a truly shitty parent you are.

How is this sh*tty? I feel the same way. PP stated that she parented her child and I do as well, but it is incredibly annoying that all of a sudden instead of your kid playing on the play equipment you're having to block them from getting into other people's stuff. Of course I will put the effort in to keep my kid away from the stroller full of snacks or the toy that belongs to the other kid, but I can also feel annoyed about it too.

Here’s the thing, that’s what being a parent to a toddler means. If your child needs to be redirected so often to the point that you are annoyed by it then stay at home. It’s no one else’s problem or concern but your own.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

That was me. Nobody needs to be snacking constantly, not even toddlers. If your kid needs a snack, go to a space off to the side, eat the snack, then come back and play. I brought my daughter (then 18-months) to a children’s nature center this summer. The place is designed for toddlers to roam free and play. The plan was for her to explore the center, play with the toys, touch the exhibits, etc. But there was a kid there who had an open container of cheerios on his stroller bc he apparently he couldn’t live without cheerios for more than 5 seconds. So now instead of playing, my 18-month-old is being drawn like a magnet over and over to these cheerios, and I have to redirect her over and over and over. That’s not why I came to the children’s nature center.

That says more about you plan and simple. Your job is to redirect and teach, two things you don’t want to do. Clearly your child is hungry if they are so interested in the Cheerios instead of playing.

So, let’s say I go to a 2-year-old’s bday party. The party’s in a backyard and it’s just parents and a bunch of 2-year-olds. All the dads decide to sit at a table and drink beer (so, there’s a bunch of open glass bottles on the table) and play chess. All the 2-year-kids are now super interested in the open glass bottles and chess pieces, and the moms have to spend the entire party keeping them away from this table. Is the problem here the dads who decided to get this stuff out at a children’s party, or do the moms just need to suck it up and “parent”?

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

That was me. Nobody needs to be snacking constantly, not even toddlers. If your kid needs a snack, go to a space off to the side, eat the snack, then come back and play. I brought my daughter (then 18-months) to a children’s nature center this summer. The place is designed for toddlers to roam free and play. The plan was for her to explore the center, play with the toys, touch the exhibits, etc. But there was a kid there who had an open container of cheerios on his stroller bc he apparently he couldn’t live without cheerios for more than 5 seconds. So now instead of playing, my 18-month-old is being drawn like a magnet over and over to these cheerios, and I have to redirect her over and over and over. That’s not why I came to the children’s nature center.

That says more about you plan and simple. Your job is to redirect and teach, two things you don’t want to do. Clearly your child is hungry if they are so interested in the Cheerios instead of playing.

So, let’s say I go to a 2-year-old’s bday party. The party’s in a backyard and it’s just parents and a bunch of 2-year-olds. All the dads decide to sit at a table and drink beer (so, there’s a bunch of open glass bottles on the table) and play chess. All the 2-year-kids are now super interested in the open glass bottles and chess pieces, and the moms have to spend the entire party keeping them away from this table. Is the problem here the dads who decided to get this stuff out at a children’s party, or do the moms just need to suck it up and “parent”?

Ok so you’re that kind of person/parent. Completely makes sense why you want others to bend for you.

You ask if they are finished and throw away the bottles. They aren’t finished with the bottles and unwilling to throw them away? You leave as that isn’t a safe environment for your child.

I went to the park a of week or so ago and kids around age 3-5 had snack bags of goldfish and fruit snacks. They were carrying around these bags and of course leaving them everywhere. My baby (17 mos) picked up a bag that hadn’t been opened yet and started walking around with it. You know what I did...I threw the bag away, he cried, and I continued to follow him around.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a bike in the entrance or a place where other kids will bother it. Why did you leave it there?

Right. Because lack of parenting is always the fault of the person wholly unconnected to your child.

About twenty people have made this point. Your stubbornness in not listening to them says more about you than them.

Twenty ppl just proved why children are unruly in public, at school, restaurants, the mall, etc. Most parents don’t want to parent. They want society to provide a “safe space” where their precious child can do whatever they want while they sit and watch.

i don’t want all of society to be a “safe space” for my child. But I do expect a place that’s designated for children to be a safe space for my child. However, based on OP’s latest post, I think OP was mostly in the right. It sounds like the activity center she was at was a place meant for older children, so the toddler mom should’ve been more on guard.

You should expect to discipline and teach your child. Someone really posted that they couldn’t believe snacks were at a park bc their child was getting into them. If you cannot/choose not to control your child in public then stay in your home.

That was me. Nobody needs to be snacking constantly, not even toddlers. If your kid needs a snack, go to a space off to the side, eat the snack, then come back and play. I brought my daughter (then 18-months) to a children’s nature center this summer. The place is designed for toddlers to roam free and play. The plan was for her to explore the center, play with the toys, touch the exhibits, etc. But there was a kid there who had an open container of cheerios on his stroller bc he apparently he couldn’t live without cheerios for more than 5 seconds. So now instead of playing, my 18-month-old is being drawn like a magnet over and over to these cheerios, and I have to redirect her over and over and over. That’s not why I came to the children’s nature center.

That says more about you plan and simple. Your job is to redirect and teach, two things you don’t want to do. Clearly your child is hungry if they are so interested in the Cheerios instead of playing.

So, let’s say I go to a 2-year-old’s bday party. The party’s in a backyard and it’s just parents and a bunch of 2-year-olds. All the dads decide to sit at a table and drink beer (so, there’s a bunch of open glass bottles on the table) and play chess. All the 2-year-kids are now super interested in the open glass bottles and chess pieces, and the moms have to spend the entire party keeping them away from this table. Is the problem here the dads who decided to get this stuff out at a children’s party, or do the moms just need to suck it up and “parent”?

Ok so you’re that kind of person/parent. Completely makes sense why you want others to bend for you.

You ask if they are finished and throw away the bottles. They aren’t finished with the bottles and unwilling to throw them away? You leave as that isn’t a safe environment for your child.

I went to the park a of week or so ago and kids around age 3-5 had snack bags of goldfish and fruit snacks. They were carrying around these bags and of course leaving them everywhere. My baby (17 mos) picked up a bag that hadn’t been opened yet and started walking around with it. You know what I did...I threw the bag away, he cried, and I continued to follow him around.

Wow.... so you don’t think it’s the dads who are asking everyone to bend to them, by doing something inappropriate for toddlers at a toddler’s bday party? And you think it’s your job to clean up they’re bottles...? Also, shouldn’t the parents of the 3-5 year olds have been teaching their children that you don’t leave your food around in a public place? I would never let my daughter just leave her unfinished food around like that. She’s not even allowed to do that in our own house. I’m not arguing with you that if you find yourself in these situations that it’s your job to control your toddler or leave (what other choice do you have at that point?). All I’m asking is, you aren’t annoyed with the other parents in these situations, since you were doing what you were supposed to but they weren’t? You don’t think they’re putting an unfair burden on you?