What would you have done in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Remove the child leave. Parents need to watch their kids.

[Anonymous]

I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

You got really annoyed about having to parent? Really?

[Anonymous]

Why would you have held the bike for her to climb?

I would have said no and asked where her mom was and left. Maybe take bike with us if she was a nuisance.

I have a 2yo. I would never be more than 2 steps behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

What a truly shitty parent you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM at its finest. Now we can't leave bikes outside because they are an "attractive nuisance"? There aren't enough eye rolls in the world for this.

Sounds like OP brought the bike INSIDE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a child's bike outside a children's activity class is an "attractive nuisance." Find a better arrangement. Since you dropped off your child, leave the bike in your car, or tell her she can't bike to class.

It's just a silly and irresponsible thing to do. A two year old cannot appreciate the risk or consequences of playing on a bike. And she doesn't have the impulse control to make those decisions rationally.

It would be great if her mom stopped her, but your decision making is poor here. Why would you do this?

This is what is wrong with society. No one should bike because you have a two year old??
This comment is stunningly off base.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

You got really annoyed about having to parent? Really?

PP. This is admittedly getting away from OP’s example, but yes, I do get annoyed when I bring my daughter to an age-appropriate place where she should theoretically be able to have “free reign,” and instead there is something unnecessary there that is beyond her level of self control and I have to keep her away from it repeatedly. For example, it annoys me when I bring her to the children’s section in the library to play with blocks, read books, etc, but instead there is a kid sitting there with an ipad and an open container of cheerios, and now I have to spend a bunch of time keeping my daughter away from this kid’s ipad and cheerios. In OP’s case, I think she’d be in the wrong if she was for some reason bringing her daughter and her bike to a 2-year-old’s bday party and parking it in the backyard where all the toddlers are and then expecting the other parents to keep their toddlers away from the bike. But it sounds like there was actually a random toddler at an event designed for older kids, and OP parked the bike outside away from the action, so in that case I think the burden was on the 2-year-old’s mom to step in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

What a truly shitty parent you are.

Why? Say you brought your 8-month-old crawling baby to the part of the children’s museum that’s just for little babies, but then you get there and there is an older kid who’s decided to play with marbles in that section. Wouldn’t you be annoyed that you thought your infant would be able to explore freely, and now you just have to keep them away from these shiny marbles they could choke on? Again, it’s really not related to OP’s example. I’m just saying the attractive nuisance idea has merit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mostly agree that it’s weird that’s the girl’s mom didn’t at least come over and tell her “we don’t ride other people’s bikes.” It’s weird that she just stood there.

I have to say though, re: attractive nuisances: it did bother me when my daughter was 12-24 months (and not very good yet at remembering rules) when parents would bring strollers full of snacks and toys, fun big wheels-type things, etc, to the playground or library kids area or whatever. I got really annoyed that I brought my daughter somewhere for her to explore and play, but now I had to spend all this time keeping her away from other kids’ things. So I do think the attractive nuisance idea has some merit - but i’m not sure it applies in this situation.

What a truly shitty parent you are.

Why? Say you brought your 8-month-old crawling baby to the part of the children’s museum that’s just for little babies, but then you get there and there is an older kid who’s decided to play with marbles in that section. Wouldn’t you be annoyed that you thought your infant would be able to explore freely, and now you just have to keep them away from these shiny marbles they could choke on? Again, it’s really not related to OP’s example. I’m just saying the attractive nuisance idea has merit.

PP again. Plus, I’m not sure why I’m a “shitty parent” - I did/do take the time to keep my daughter away from other kids’ toys/snacks etc in the situations. I’m just saying, it annoyed me to have to do it. And I think it’s unnecessary for other parents to bring open snacks, toys that can’t be shared, etc to an area that’s meant for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a child's bike outside a children's activity class is an "attractive nuisance." Find a better arrangement. Since you dropped off your child, leave the bike in your car, or tell her she can't bike to class.

It's just a silly and irresponsible thing to do. A two year old cannot appreciate the risk or consequences of playing on a bike. And she doesn't have the impulse control to make those decisions rationally.

It would be great if her mom stopped her, but your decision making is poor here. Why would you do this?

BUT HER PARENT SHOULD BE THERE TO MONITOR THIS!

It was not silly and irresponsible. The parent of a 2 year old should be able to monitor a 2 year old and redirect to something else.

X10000000

Parents, the world is not here to cater to your desire to let your child explore it. Do your job and monitpr your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a child's bike outside a children's activity class is an "attractive nuisance." Find a better arrangement. Since you dropped off your child, leave the bike in your car, or tell her she can't bike to class.

It's just a silly and irresponsible thing to do. A two year old cannot appreciate the risk or consequences of playing on a bike. And she doesn't have the impulse control to make those decisions rationally.

It would be great if her mom stopped her, but your decision making is poor here. Why would you do this?

This is what is wrong with society. No one should bike because you have a two year old??
This comment is stunningly off base.

+100

X infinity. I am not responsible for other parents' decision not to parent their child!

[Anonymous]

OP not a quick fix but perhaps you could bring up the need for bike racks at the location? surely there are other people, kids or adults, who ride or would like to ride bike to the venue, and they should have a better option than parking bike inside where it can't be physically secured from tipping. Alternatively, find something outside--an exterior pipe, fence, whatever, to lock the bike to?

Agree that the 2-yo's mother was clueless and sounds like the 2 yo is well on her way to being mistress of her domain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am still confused that your chlld biked there but you were there to drop off. Who were you dropping off it your DD rode her bike?

We biked in together.

How dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a child's bike outside a children's activity class is an "attractive nuisance." Find a better arrangement. Since you dropped off your child, leave the bike in your car, or tell her she can't bike to class.

It's just a silly and irresponsible thing to do. A two year old cannot appreciate the risk or consequences of playing on a bike. And she doesn't have the impulse control to make those decisions rationally.

It would be great if her mom stopped her, but your decision making is poor here. Why would you do this?

So, a mother supervising her own child is a kind of societal extra--"it would be great" but not, like expected?? The primary burden falls to the mom who has zero relation to the 2 yo?