Do you know any moms with 4+ kids who are inspirational?

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Anonymous wrote:Know a ivy-educated doctor with 4 going on 5 whose kids are always put-together, mom looks put together (not some fitness model, but slender and dresses fine), kids are clearly well-cared for and incredibly sweet. No nanny/local family but they manage. Great family.

I actually know several mom's with 4+ kids. Very common in my area. Many well-educated parents, a few that seem to be a little overwhelmed, but most seem to manage their households just fine.

DH is a doctor and I can think of a handful of female doctors with 4 kids. One is a surgeon with a stay at home husband. Another female surgeon we know works at an Ivy League hospital. Academic jobs are often salaried and you have more time for research and administrative work. Third doctor I can think of is very well put together and she got pregnant with first child when she was a teenager so she was in college with a baby. Every one of these female doctors come from good families. I’m fairly certain they all had some family help (time and/or money) during med school and residency.

Two kids seems more common for women able to juggle work and kids. You also need a spouse who does equal or more than you.

DH is a surgeon and works 60 hours per week. He has cut down from 70-80 hrs per week. We have 3 kids and I’m responsible for all drop offs, pick ups and sick days. DH would never cancel surgery for a snow day nor would he cancel clinic because school had a 2 hour delay because it was cold.

For a woman to be able to have 4 kids and an amazing career, you need the husband to be the default parent. Those reverse gender roles aren’t totally accepted yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want them to be good moms or just look pretty?

Right!? Wtf?

[Anonymous]

If you marry someone rich and started having kids young, this isn’t so hard. Stay home. Have a nanny. Personal trainer. Housekeeper.

I have 3 kids and considering a fourth. I’m vain and don’t want to put my body through pregnancy again.

Work full time plus 4 kids and have time to work out and take care of yourself? Very hard. Something is suffering unless you have a stay at home spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nancy Pelosi.

Word!

Finally someone answered the question properly.

The responders who said the inspirational moms were skinny and fit need to grow up and get out of their high school mentality!

[Anonymous]

I know a mom with 4 biological children, 4 adopted children, and up to 4 foster children. They homeschool, dad is federal LEO, and they have a modest house. She’s one of the most energetic people I know and somehow she and her husband get tons of couple time. No idea how they do it.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a mom with 4 biological children, 4 adopted children, and up to 4 foster children. They homeschool, dad is federal LEO, and they have a modest house. She’s one of the most energetic people I know and somehow she and her husband get tons of couple time. No idea how they do it.

She gets a monthly stipend and health care for the 4 adopted if through foster care and gets a monthly stipend, WIC/little kids and health insurance. So, 8 kids getting stipends is how they do it. She's using it as income to stay home. Legally she should not be homeschooling foster kids.

[Anonymous]

Nancy Pelosi

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Well, I'd like to draw inspiration from myself
I am a happy mum with 4 kids and I do my best to raise my children loved and kind.
I also work on my career and I quit successful specialist in my field.
And there is no extraordinary secret, I just really organized.
Especially, for the organization of my family time, I use Fammle, a synchronized family calendar with shared events.
https://fammle.keepsolid.com

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I didn't think you were allowed to homeschool foster kids because of the potential for isolation/abuse.

[Anonymous]

^^^

That’s the thing about all these posts about other families- positive or negative - none of you actually know what you’re talking about.

[Anonymous]

Yea, as another PP said, I think it’s weird that this idea of “inspirational” women/moms keeps coming up.... So now on top of everything else, I have to be inspirational to people?

Anyway, wanted to say that it seems like every older woman I’ve met with a “crazy” number of kids is really pretty and young looking. My theory is that those sustained pregnancy and breastfeeding hormones somehow keep them looking young for longer.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. She’s a neighbor and family friend. The whole family is a bit of a hot mess, but every one of them is incredibly nice and interesting. I’ll take that any day over appearance-oriented and fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a mom with 4 biological children, 4 adopted children, and up to 4 foster children. They homeschool, dad is federal LEO, and they have a modest house. She’s one of the most energetic people I know and somehow she and her husband get tons of couple time. No idea how they do it.

She gets a monthly stipend and health care for the 4 adopted if through foster care and gets a monthly stipend, WIC/little kids and health insurance. So, 8 kids getting stipends is how they do it. She's using it as income to stay home. Legally she should not be homeschooling foster kids.

Maybe they don’t homeschool the foster children? We aren’t that close, but I know their kids are homeschooled.

I didn’t only mean how they do it financially, more how they can manage to do all that and not go crazy. Their house is only 3 or 4 bedrooms, they still manage to have lives outside of their children, she never seems to be lacking sleep, etc. I find it admirable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a mom with 4 biological children, 4 adopted children, and up to 4 foster children. They homeschool, dad is federal LEO, and they have a modest house. She’s one of the most energetic people I know and somehow she and her husband get tons of couple time. No idea how they do it.

She gets a monthly stipend and health care for the 4 adopted if through foster care and gets a monthly stipend, WIC/little kids and health insurance. So, 8 kids getting stipends is how they do it. She's using it as income to stay home. Legally she should not be homeschooling foster kids.

Maybe they don’t homeschool the foster children? We aren’t that close, but I know their kids are homeschooled.

I didn’t only mean how they do it financially, more how they can manage to do all that and not go crazy. Their house is only 3 or 4 bedrooms, they still manage to have lives outside of their children, she never seems to be lacking sleep, etc. I find it admirable.

The house size is not an issue and she's probably only doing minimum for the kids, especially if she has lives outside of them. Or, the kids are parenting each other or they have help. Depending on where they live the stipend/subsity can be anywhere from $400-1200+ per child. Average is about $800 plus health care and WIC (for little ones). With 4 adopted children and up to 4 foster, she's doing pretty well financially as most don't spend that on the kids. If she has that many she probably passes down clothing or gets them free and gets a clothing allowance for the foster kids. So, its basically feeding them. She puts what 3-4 kids per room. That actually sounds pretty selfish given how much money the kids are bringing in - she could easily be getting $5-8K or more a month.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they inspire me to use birth control.