Do you know any moms with 4+ kids who are inspirational?

[Anonymous]

Really depends on the age of the kids and how much help you have. I know plenty of moms who are super fit because that’s what they prioritize — even if it means dragging kids to the gym daycare every day or hiring a sitter. My friend who has four kids has them spread apart age wise so the oldest is self sufficient and the youngest 2 (twins) are already in first grade. When they were younger, she had a nanny despite being a SAHM because her husband makes a load of money.

[Anonymous]

Sure, but just remember that you never know what's going on in anyone else's house. Some of the families that look perfect and inspirational are not … at all.

[Anonymous]

Do you want them to be good moms or just look pretty?

[Anonymous]

no. they are all frazzled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a homeschooling mom of ten who is inspirational. I am not sure what you mean about looking a mess and keeping up with everything. She looks fine, and her kids look fine. She makes meals every day and educates her children, and she is well regarded by friends and neighbors as a kind and cheerful person, but I am pretty sure she doesn’t keep up with politics or have monthly bikini waxes.

What exactly does “keeping up with everything” look like to you, OP?

I’m talking kids a mess, house a mess, everything is sloppy.

[Anonymous]

I guess I rarely find other people's appearances inspirational. Likewise, I'm not impressed by things that people are able to do because they have money to hire help. If you have nice clothes and work out and your house looks nice, but you have the money for childcare and a housekeeper, that's not especially inspirational. I'm more inspired by people who are busy but find ways to contribute to their community, who don't get totally sucked into family obligations.

[Anonymous]

How superficial for you to think that inspirational=done up.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the ages of their kids!

[Anonymous]

I don’t even understand this question. Are moms of any number now supposed to be inspirational, instead of just living their lives?

I’m a mom of a singleton. I constantly feel like a mess, and am living my life on the edge. I guess I must be a great disappointment to people like you,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How superficial for you to think that inspirational=done up.

If you can’t even brush your kids hair, wipe their face, and get them out of pajama pants in the morning then yes I’m judging based on appearances because I assume it’s just the tip of the iceberg of things the parents aren’t keeping up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even understand this question. Are moms of any number now supposed to be inspirational, instead of just living their lives?

I’m a mom of a singleton. I constantly feel like a mess, and am living my life on the edge. I guess I must be a great disappointment to people like you,

No because you realize that you’re a mess and quit while you can instead of adding more and more kids to the mix.

[Anonymous]

No, because I believe in zero population growth, so I find this to be in general kind of a drag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a homeschooling mom of ten who is inspirational. I am not sure what you mean about looking a mess and keeping up with everything. She looks fine, and her kids look fine. She makes meals every day and educates her children, and she is well regarded by friends and neighbors as a kind and cheerful person, but I am pretty sure she doesn’t keep up with politics or have monthly bikini waxes.

What exactly does “keeping up with everything” look like to you, OP?

I’m talking kids a mess, house a mess, everything is sloppy.

Well, on one hand, aren’t we all like that sometimes? Like right after dinner, house is a mess, kids are a mess, etc. But then it’s all clean by morning.
On the other hand, I don’t really know anyone with any number of kids who would invite friends over and just leave the house a mess or who sends kids to school with dirty faces and clothes.

[Anonymous]

The ones I know talk about how they don't have time for anything at all, and write anthologies about this on Facebook while the kids are at school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no. they are all frazzled.

Or they outsource care to nannies/grandparents.