If you are an adult woman-- how often do you speak with your mom on the phone?

[Anonymous]

A few times a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So - I am assume all of you daily callers have smooth, good relationships with your mom?

I did. I miss her every day. Right after she died, I went back to work, and as I left the garage I told Siri to call her because it was my habit. It took me a second to realize she wouldn’t answer. Talking to my father is a chore because he is a pill. We share no interests, he doesn’t get me and everything you say is somehow a dig at him. I see why my parents divorced.

[Anonymous]

About once a week and a few exchanges per week via Facebook. I'm not a phone person, never have been. I recall my parents calling their parents about once a week when I was a kid so this feels about right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents live locally and provide childcare for me. We speak daily. My sister lives 1.5 hours away and probably also speaks to my mom daily.

DHs parents get annoyed that we don’t call more but I feel he should do it.

Ditto. My siblings both live a plane ride away and talk to my parents (call or FaceTime) probably every other day.

[Anonymous]

Frequency does not always equal closeness. I felt very close to my Mom but she was of a generation that didn't call unless there was news, important-ish news, not Seinfeld-like comments on one's day. Instead if I had really wanted to make her happy, I would have sent letters.

If you can't relate to that - it might help w/your relationship with your Grandmother ~

[Anonymous]

I usually speak with my mom 4 or 5 times a week. She calls or I call when I am walking the dog in the morning most days. I am in my 40s and we talk more now than when I was younger (then it was more like once a week). She's had a lot of health problems over the last five years and I live far away, and I feel like my relationship with her is very precious now. I generally hate talking on the phone but I've come to really enjoy those morning conversations.

That said, I don't think there is anything wrong with speaking less frequently. It sounds like you speak as often as you feel you can handle, but that you do speak and see each other pretty often.

[Anonymous]

Every other week for me. My mother will talk for 45 minutes about herself. When it seems like it's my turn to tell her something, she will complain that it's getting late and she is sleep deprived, so she has to go. I've talked to her about it several times, but she doesn't change, so I call her with my earbuds in and fold laundry or organize a drawer during the monologues. Fun times!

My mother-in-law is awesome. We talk/text almost every day.

[Anonymous]

1-2 times per week

[Anonymous]

Maybe once a month. There's not a schedule or anything. We're just not that close, I don't want to share every detail of my life, and my mom is rather self absorbed and bitter.

Once we went 6 months with absolute zero contact.

[Anonymous]

Daily. I started calling daily after my dad died to check in because I worried about her. She found someone else and they live together but if I don’t call daily now I get a big guilt trip. When we go on vacation she gets really upset to miss her daily phone call from me. I wish I could dial it back without the guilt trip.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had called my mom more.....she passed away last year. I miss her.

[Anonymous]

If say daily and sometimes multiple times per day. She also face times kids daily or at least every other day. I love my mom.

[Anonymous]

Only once or twice per month. My mom tends to stay out all day until the evening, and refuses to keep her cell phone turned on. So, it's hard to catch each other. I guess we should make a specific time to check in per week.

[Anonymous]

I call my mom once a week. We are close and have a good relationship but have always spoken on the phone just once a week ever since I left for college. We don’t typically text, email or have any other contact other than our weekly phone conversations. We live 500 miles away from each other and only see each other 4-5 times per year. Our phone calls and visits are very good—we talk about any and everything and feel very close to each other so we really make the most of our time together and have deep, meaningful conversations about all sorts of things. I think our relationship is just fine the way it is but I do wish we got to see each other more often.

I call my dad every week too because he gets his feelings hurt if I call my mom and not him. But talking to him is a chore. He’s not good at phone conversation and will just say nothing unless you ask him specific questions about himself. He’ll listen to me talk but doesn’t seem very interested, won’t ask me any questions or try to carry on the conversation. Our conversations are a lot shorter than those w my mom and our relationship is a lot more distant in person too.

[Anonymous]

Once a week. I'm one of seven children so she gets plenty of calls.