If you are an adult woman-- how often do you speak with your mom on the phone?

[Anonymous]

Once a week, skipping weeks here and there. Visit 3-5 times per year.

What you are doing is fine. My parents would find it very weird to talk to me every day. They have their own lives and raised me to be independent.

I had a friend who spoke with her parents on the phone every day at lunch AND LIVED WITH THEM. Some people take it to another level.

[Anonymous]

Pretty much every day. I talk to both of my sisters every day as well. We are all very close.

[Anonymous]

For years and years, my parents were too busy to speak to me more than once a week. Even then, I would often catch them too busy to speak. But in the past couple of years, my dad got ill and died. So I started much more frequent texting and calling and have continued to do so with my mom. Now it's probably 2-4 calls a week. I like to either get a text, email or phone her daily so I know she is okay now that she is living alone and is in her 80's. But it's circumstance based. Part of the year, my brother is camped out at her home, so it's not necessary. As I said, when things were going well, they really didn't need or want to hear from me that often. I also don't work, so it's not difficult to make contact that often.

[Anonymous]

Between 4-5 times per week and every day. I'm 47 and haven't lived at home since I was 18, and our relationship wasn't great for many years. The frequency has really increased since I had kids.

[Anonymous]

It varied. In college, we talked every other week. Long distance cots money then. Then post college, probably once a week. As we got older and they retired and calling became free, we would talk several times a week. When Facetime came out, we would Facetime or talk daily- my parents were in their 80's.

I would call my grandmother once a week in college too and then after college, several times a week.

They are all gone now, and I wish I could still have my daily chat.

[Anonymous]

After my dad died, once a week.

After a year i call once a month and try to see her every 3 months.

She is in an over 55 community. She is 90.

[Anonymous]

Daily, but she's getting old and is on her own, so I like her to know that I'll call every day just to say "hi" and tell her a few things about my day or share a memory (happy things, she doesn't need to shoulder my burdens). I keep it brief, usually two to three minutes.

[Anonymous]

In general, I call once a week and we have an extended (1hr+) chat. If something is going on we’ll add some short calls. We email a few times a week too.

[Anonymous]

Daily for the most part.

[Anonymous]

Weekly, on average. I’m amazed ar all the “daily” replies! I’m GenX — maybe daily is a Millennial thing?

[Anonymous]

Every 1-2 months on the phone. We email or text once a week or so.

How do you people have enough time to talk DAILY? What on earth do you talk about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I speak to both my parents daily sometimes multiple times a day, we facetime. I cannot imagine not talking to them daily, they are in their 60s and anything can happen. They facetime with grandkids in the weekends and in the mornings before school.

60s are not old unless they have serious health issues. You guys must have all married young because our parents are in their 80s and our none of our kids are married with kids. I think it is nice u talk every day but anything could happen to u too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every 1-2 months on the phone. We email or text once a week or so.

How do you people have enough time to talk DAILY? What on earth do you talk about?

Not everything has to be the most interesting conversation in the world but there are lots to talk about!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weekly, on average. I’m amazed ar all the “daily” replies! I’m GenX — maybe daily is a Millennial thing?

I’m an “older” millenial (1982). I FaceTime with my mom on the phone 2-4 times a week and my dad usually chimes in for one of those calls. I also sometimes call them
Back after Kids go to bed. I text with my mom and sisters every other day or so.

We also FaceTime DH’s family 2-4 times a week.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I each have 4-6 children. We each speak with our mother at least once a day, sometimes more if there is a lot going on. We all live within 2-3 miles of each other. Our mother does not provide day care for either of us although occasionally she or dad will drive a carpool for one of us if we're in a jam. We usually call her because she gets flustered if she calls and we answer on the car speaker phone. She is fine if we call her using the car speaker phone. My sister and I try to stagger our calls so one of us speaks with her in the morning and one if the evening. So, yes, that means that my sister and I speak at least twice a day in addition to us each speaking with mom at least once a day. This is what works for our family. It may not work for others.