Ashamed about dating a younger man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Humble brag. (4 pages and I'm the first to say it?)

OP - you do you. My only concerns, based on what you've said are:
Sex - not sure how slow you mean but that's a big component and you need to see how you match up there before thinking marriage.
Babies - you want them and are feeling your clock. Will your clock line up with his marriage time line? Are you willing to have a child with him outside marriage? Will he feel pressured to move his timeline to meet yours?

Have fun but you need to answer the above questions more than he does

I get so tired of the humble brag accusations. Op doesn’t sound like she’s bragging . She sounds insecure.

The humble brag thing is a joke. Ever watch The Office? It's along the lines of "that's what she said". Relax and breathe, it will help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know the age thing is my hang up and not his. I haven’t had many relationships andjust don’t want to seem desperate.We actually went out last night dinner and he surprised me with tickets to something I really wanted to see. I think I’m falling for him in spite of what my brain says. He has so much of what I want/ need in a relationship... he’s just so young. I’d be less concerned if he was even 4 years older.

As for the cougar/sex teasing we actually haven’t gotten to that part yet. Kid of taking it slow in that arena.

Why aren’t you having sex?

this. Good grief, the whole point of a 24 year guy is the sex. Taking is slow for what? You don't have time on your side OP, he does. You aren't even doing the cougar thing right!

We aren’t having full on sex because sex is a very intimate thing for me and I don’t want to rush it. We are doing other things and the chemistry/ desire is there. Anyway I went out again with him this weekend and I’ve decided to keep seeing him for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but 34 and 24? Don’t his uni friends look at you like a dorm mom?

Not many 24 year olds still live in dorms.

And most schools haven’t had “dorm moms” in several decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are at a stage when your libido is hitting a high...it will be so in all of your 40s. Your guy who is in his 20s will be actually super happy because he will benefit from it. For all you know, he is so thankful that he has a hot woman who wants sex all the time than the girls his own age.

My tip for you is - take care of your health and body and career. Treat your man as a person who is as mature as you. Treat him as a capable person. Don't let your hangups about age ruin it. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed of being with him. Own it!!

Not a given. Odds are just as good that in less than 10 years, he’ll be starting the “Sexless marriage post-menopause” threads. Throw a kid or two and some breastfeeding in there, and he could be looking at a 3-year window on his remaining sex life.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy it and see how it goes. Everyone matures differently. I worked full time all the way through college, and by 25 owned my own house. I matured faster then others my age because I didn't have the luxury of the college party life and basically extending my teen years. If the right woman came along I could have definitely seen myself getting married at that age