Would you want to know if your spouse was having an affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single women who has gone on more than a couple of dates with married men, and was shocked when I found out, i would never tell. I IMMEDIATELY END THE RELATIONSHIP; most don't get past the first date since I use mylife.com, pipl.com, Facebook, zabasearch, and others to do a little sleuthing. It pushes me off to waste an evening on a married fool.

Why would I tell you that your husband is a nasty jacka$@? He is your problem. Most single guys keep themselves clean and are adamant about condom usage. It's the guys that not not used to wearing condoms in their permanent relationships that are the biggest risk for stds, hence married men. They also frequent prostitutes and webcam girls more too.

Why would I want to waste my time informing someone that their husband is cheating when I have just wasted an entire date on someone. Believe the signs when you see them.

OP flew right over your head.

And that is why she is single....

Yes. My wife is in an extra marital affair and she denies it. I can bare the pain but I hope our kids understand her though process a they get older. When there is unfullfillmet in a marriage, an AP is a short fix. Your DH and kids will be impacted greatly. Seek therapy to understand your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Affair? Yes. ONS? No.

Sorry it’s the truth. Not blowing everything up over a ONS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single women who has gone on more than a couple of dates with married men, and was shocked when I found out, i would never tell. I IMMEDIATELY END THE RELATIONSHIP; most don't get past the first date since I use mylife.com, pipl.com, Facebook, zabasearch, and others to do a little sleuthing. It pushes me off to waste an evening on a married fool.

Why would I tell you that your husband is a nasty jacka$@? He is your problem. Most single guys keep themselves clean and are adamant about condom usage. It's the guys that not not used to wearing condoms in their permanent relationships that are the biggest risk for stds, hence married men. They also frequent prostitutes and webcam girls more too.

Why would I want to waste my time informing someone that their husband is cheating when I have just wasted an entire date on someone. Believe the signs when you see them.

OP flew right over your head.

And that is why she is single....

Yes. My wife is in an extra marital affair and she denies it. I can bare the pain but I hope our kids understand her though process a they get older. When there is unfullfillmet in a marriage, an AP is a short fix. Your DH and kids will be impacted greatly. Seek therapy to understand your feelings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does it matter if the person is a stay at home wife? I feel like I need to tell her. No it’s no me or my husband nor will it effect me in any way. I just feel so bad for this person and her husband is a dirtbag for doing this.

I know two WOHMs who got cheated on and subsequently divorced. I also know one SAHM and one WOHM who also cheated on their spouses and got divorced. What does it prove? Nothing. You should not feel compelled to tell the SAHW, unless you and your husband want to start a GOFUNDME in her name. Because no one needs your attitude.

Whoa, what? What attitude? Op here by the way. I just don’t want to ruin her life. Maybe it won’t ruin it. I was just thinking as well that maybe what you don’t know won’t hurt you? She seems happy and is raising the kids and I am not sure I want to drop the hammer on her. No attitude coming from me, I am genuinely concerned what is the right thing to do for her.

Are you involved. How do you know about the affair? What is your relationship? If you are not 100% certain, don't say a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single women who has gone on more than a couple of dates with married men, and was shocked when I found out, i would never tell. I IMMEDIATELY END THE RELATIONSHIP; most don't get past the first date since I use mylife.com, pipl.com, Facebook, zabasearch, and others to do a little sleuthing. It pushes me off to waste an evening on a married fool.

Why would I tell you that your husband is a nasty jacka$@? He is your problem. Most single guys keep themselves clean and are adamant about condom usage. It's the guys that not not used to wearing condoms in their permanent relationships that are the biggest risk for stds, hence married men. They also frequent prostitutes and webcam girls more too.

Why would I want to waste my time informing someone that their husband is cheating when I have just wasted an entire date on someone. Believe the signs when you see them.

OP flew right over your head.

And that is why she is single....

Yes. My wife is in an extra marital affair and she denies it. I can bare the pain but I hope our kids understand her thought process as they get older. When there is unfullfillmet in a marriage, an AP is a short fix. Your DH and kids will be impacted greatly. Seek therapy to understand your feelings.

[Anonymous]

I would want to know. If you were my friend, and I found out that you knew about an affair and you didn’t tell me, I would end the friendship because you were a bystander to the perpetration of abuse.

[Anonymous]

I would not want to know if the spouse who had the affair planned on staying in the marriage. This is coming from someone who was cheated on and wanted to remain married.