What are your deal breaking red flags?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not employed but claims to be a gamer, artist, or entrepreneur selling on eBay/online. This is a hobby not a job.

Living in a group home in their 30s.

Uneducated/poor.

You can add musicians without real jobs to your list. I also steer clear of anybody on online sites who says they’re “self-employed” but doesn’t say in what. He could have an awesome work ethic, or he could be looking for a sugar momma, and I have an unfortunate track record of not being able to spot the difference early on.

[Anonymous]

His place is a shambles with clutter everywhere and dirty dishes in the sink. BTDT for 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have a habit of saying the word "like" practically every other word...

So, like, my friend Julie and I, like, we were like at this fundraising event for, like, dogs and, like, animals that, like, were rescued from the hurricane in Florida and, like, there were sooooo many people there and they raised, like, so much money and it was so good to, like, be able to be a part of that because, like, these poor dogs, like, they, like, really need help finding new homes."

Yeah, if that's your everyday speech pattern...

If I was dating you and found out you made this post it would be a deal breaker for me. Not because I am a fan of the word 'like' but because of your over the top obnoxious method of criticizing someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Homelessness is a deal breaker. I once chatted with a guy I met online, and asked what part of town he lived in. He said depends on the day. Said he couch surfs with different friends, and had been doing that for 3 months since moving to the area. This man was in his 30s and had kids.

What this said to me is that he's broke, immature, and expects others to take care of him. I'm sure I dodged a bullet with that one.

but a guy who does that to a woman is a jerk right

No. No reason to take on that level of issues on day one for either sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Liberals
Smokers
Lives with mom and dad
Not into sports or fitness
No stable job
Plus all the obvious things like drug use or a criminal record beyond like, a DUI or a bar fight in the distant past.

All of those. I would add no cheating in their past, no promiscuous behavior, responsible with their finances, no involvement with exes, and easy going type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me if she has used cocaine more than once that means it is overwhelmingly likely she was having sex with her dealer for drugs

LOL. For some reason no one thinks this about men who have done cocaine more than once. I guess men are just capable of obtaining things without having sex while women mysteriously are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shorter than 6’2

5'2" women represent!

[Anonymous]

40's
Never Married
No kids
Still want kids
Cats
Extreme close-up pics on profile (fat)
Obsession with stupid hobby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cellulite

Lol! Well that rules out about 90%+ of women, even model-thin ones. Hopefully you’re into Dudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A dirty house/apartment. I can take messy if its "re set" every once in awhile but dirty is a deal breaker. I remember dating a guy who made good money and worked 45 hours a week (so had time to either clean or had money to get a cleaner) and his house was SO SO gross. He always looked on point and presentable and clean. I couldn't get how different his presentation was compared to his home. Crazy, I thought they usually correlated.

what about a dirty car? what about for a woman? my guess is no for men but ok for women. i haven't dated for over 20 years so i don't really know, but am curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A dirty house/apartment. I can take messy if its "re set" every once in awhile but dirty is a deal breaker. I remember dating a guy who made good money and worked 45 hours a week (so had time to either clean or had money to get a cleaner) and his house was SO SO gross. He always looked on point and presentable and clean. I couldn't get how different his presentation was compared to his home. Crazy, I thought they usually correlated.

what about a dirty car? what about for a woman? my guess is no for men but ok for women. i haven't dated for over 20 years so i don't really know, but am curious.

You MRA guys have wild imaginations. Why would filth be any more acceptable on a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Small tits

I don’t mind this. Tig old bitties are a mess as they age.

[Anonymous]

Fat, tats, weird piercings, prior stds, having been pregnant before, divorcees, prior drug use, smoker/former smoker, thot/reformed thot, comes from a trashy family (note - this doesn’t mean poor - I don’t care if you come from a poor family, but rich trashy families - no), no intellectual curiosity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me if she has used cocaine more than once that means it is overwhelmingly likely she was having sex with her dealer for drugs

LOL. For some reason no one thinks this about men who have done cocaine more than once. I guess men are just capable of obtaining things without having sex while women mysteriously are not.

I've been married a long time, but I worked in finance/ insurance for years. If a guy has done cocaine multiple times, it usually means there were hookers present at least once. If a guy has sold cocaine, he more than likely exchanged it for sex more than once.

[Anonymous]

Guy here:
Shows no inclination to initiate sex
Shows little interest in what is going on in the world
Inside of car and home are a mess
Smoking and drug use
No ambition except being taken care of
Shows no inclination to initiate sex - oh, did I already mention that?