Wife lashes out at everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
don't confuse asking someone nicely for something repeatedly to no avail and then angrily expressing frustration and need for action with exploding right off the bat.

Nice. Nice. Explode isn't any rational kind of approach.

Nice -Neutral-Irritated-Frustrated-Mad is a more reasonable progression.

Of course you'd think that OP, it supports your narrative and constant sock-puppeting here.

Not OP. My wife is pleasant but doesn't like having sex. So, I'm kind of reverse-OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's concern is that, in his opinion anyway, his wife's communication style becomes impolite before the situation really calls for it. The situations he describes -- at least in the way he describes it -- seem fairly marginal; but, I've seen this in a lot of people. Instead of being direct & firm, but polite, you get this passive aggressive b.s.

"I don't see what's so hard to understand." Presuming or pretending to presume that they don't understand adds an unnecessary, negative dynamic to the conversation and makes her look like an asshole. Something like, "I am frustrated by your lack of response to my previous inquiries" would be more to the point.

+1 It's draining and uncomfortable to be around someone who needs to put others down to "win". There's a middle ground between @sshole and doormat.

+1

Honestly, my wife is like this too. I am by no means a doormat, but when I am assertive, I don't have to be a dick. I can say, "I am frustrated because I have e-mailed you twice about the paint color of the apartment and have not received a response. Can you please get me the color of the paint, or should I come to the office and speak with a manager?" Insinuating someone is incompetent or stupid is certainly not the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's concern is that, in his opinion anyway, his wife's communication style becomes impolite before the situation really calls for it. The situations he describes -- at least in the way he describes it -- seem fairly marginal; but, I've seen this in a lot of people. Instead of being direct & firm, but polite, you get this passive aggressive b.s.

"I don't see what's so hard to understand." Presuming or pretending to presume that they don't understand adds an unnecessary, negative dynamic to the conversation and makes her look like an asshole. Something like, "I am frustrated by your lack of response to my previous inquiries" would be more to the point.

+1 It's draining and uncomfortable to be around someone who needs to put others down to "win". There's a middle ground between @sshole and doormat.

+1

Honestly, my wife is like this too. I am by no means a doormat, but when I am assertive, I don't have to be a dick. I can say, "I am frustrated because I have e-mailed you twice about the paint color of the apartment and have not received a response. Can you please get me the color of the paint, or should I come to the office and speak with a manager?" Insinuating someone is incompetent or stupid is certainly not the way to go.

That's strange because I think threatening to come in person to speak to their manager is a lot more aggressive/dickish than saying "I don't see what's so hard to understand" in the third email on the topic.

[Anonymous]

There is clearly some insane explosive woman accusing everyone who doesn’t think the wife was behaving well of being OP. Um, crazy. —not OP, ask Jeff

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's concern is that, in his opinion anyway, his wife's communication style becomes impolite before the situation really calls for it. The situations he describes -- at least in the way he describes it -- seem fairly marginal; but, I've seen this in a lot of people. Instead of being direct & firm, but polite, you get this passive aggressive b.s.

"I don't see what's so hard to understand." Presuming or pretending to presume that they don't understand adds an unnecessary, negative dynamic to the conversation and makes her look like an asshole. Something like, "I am frustrated by your lack of response to my previous inquiries" would be more to the point.

+1 It's draining and uncomfortable to be around someone who needs to put others down to "win". There's a middle ground between @sshole and doormat.

+1

Honestly, my wife is like this too. I am by no means a doormat, but when I am assertive, I don't have to be a dick. I can say, "I am frustrated because I have e-mailed you twice about the paint color of the apartment and have not received a response. Can you please get me the color of the paint, or should I come to the office and speak with a manager?" Insinuating someone is incompetent or stupid is certainly not the way to go.

[Anonymous]

She must be plain or ugly .

Good lookers don't get ignored. She's angry about her lot in life.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a TNUC

[Anonymous]

The problem is that "I don't know why it's so hard to understand?" does not address the substance of your issue nor does it summarize the allegedly ignored requests to date. It's just an insult, and really that doesn't get you far.

Those of you who can't see that likely have communication issues in your actual lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that "I don't know why it's so hard to understand?" does not address the substance of your issue nor does it summarize the allegedly ignored requests to date. It's just an insult, and really that doesn't get you far.

Those of you who can't see that likely have communication issues in your actual lives.

+1. "I don't know why it's so hard to understand" is gratuitous in a way that, "should I talk to the manager" is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get ready for all of the “feminists” here to shame you for not stepping up and being “the man.”

Why is feminist in quotes? Don't you believe women should be respected and treated equally as men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get ready for all of the “feminists” here to shame you for not stepping up and being “the man.”

Why is feminist in quotes? Don't you believe women should be respected and treated equally as men?

I'm not the PP, but I think it's a gripe about selective feminism. They want to be equal for the good parts of being a man (e.g. pay, power, status) but leave the crummy parts -- like being expected to bear the brunt of antagonistic situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that "I don't know why it's so hard to understand?" does not address the substance of your issue nor does it summarize the allegedly ignored requests to date. It's just an insult, and really that doesn't get you far.

Those of you who can't see that likely have communication issues in your actual lives.

The actual quote was " I don't know why it's so hard to understand? I've asked for the paint color twice." which does both of those things. You're just apparently not good at reading, but accusing others of having communication issues. Typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that "I don't know why it's so hard to understand?" does not address the substance of your issue nor does it summarize the allegedly ignored requests to date. It's just an insult, and really that doesn't get you far.

Those of you who can't see that likely have communication issues in your actual lives.

The actual quote was " I don't know why it's so hard to understand? I've asked for the paint color twice." which does both of those things. You're just apparently not good at reading, but accusing others of having communication issues. Typical.

She could have just said, I asked for the paint color twice. But she didn't. She added unnecessary inventive to the start of her comment. The fact that you can't see that speaks volumes.

[Anonymous]

invective

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that "I don't know why it's so hard to understand?" does not address the substance of your issue nor does it summarize the allegedly ignored requests to date. It's just an insult, and really that doesn't get you far.

Those of you who can't see that likely have communication issues in your actual lives.

The actual quote was " I don't know why it's so hard to understand? I've asked for the paint color twice." which does both of those things. You're just apparently not good at reading, but accusing others of having communication issues. Typical.

She could have just said, I asked for the paint color twice. But she didn't. She added unnecessary inventive to the start of her comment. The fact that you can't see that speaks volumes.

+1. PP couldn't just make her argument and leave it at that. She assumes an inability to read and ends with "typical" to increase the unpleasantness.