DD gained 28 pounds over the summer with Dad.

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Anonymous wrote:My son is 11 and put in a lot of weight last August, in a similar fashion. Completely sedentary and ate lots of McDonald’s. (Don’t ask, long story).

I just banned McDonald’s and focused on making healthy tasty meals. He was also on the school soccer team for the fall. He lost it all in about 2 months. So, about twice as long to take off as to put on. It wasn’t a diet. It was getting back to our regular eating habits.

He hasn’t started puberty yet as far as I can tell.

I don’t know how to address this with the ex. I worry an ex would take it as a personal attack. And I’m not sure how to approach your daughter without giving her issues. I likely would just go back to healthy habits, and maybe help her get access to healthier foods while with Dad?

Maybe she will tell you a little more about what was going on over the summer. Pizza every night? Does she feel comfortable requesting certain foods? would teaching her to cook for herself this winter, in prep for next summer, be helpful? I bet, if your ex is like my husband, unhealthy choices come from not wanting to shop and cook. Take out is easier.

why do people let their kids eat junk food, drink soda, Mcdonald, burger king, pizza hut and ice cream in the first place? They are like poison and are banned in my house. It will cause serious health issues later on.

My oldest is 17 years old and the last time we visited a Mcdonald was 11 years ago. The last time he drank soda or ate ice cream was 2008.

I said don’t ask. Lol. But there’s always someone. My husband suffered a debilitating head injury and I was his primary caregiver. I also was providing part time care for my mother who has cancer and who lives an hour away. I also work ful time. After my husband was placed in a nursing home, it got easier, and I got the house back on normal habits. I’m sure you could have handled it better. But it is what it is.

NP. That is certainly a lot. I'm sorry to hear this story and glad life is a bit easier now, but my condolences to you and your husband on this profound loss.

To the judge poster: The last time your oldest touched anything like that was in 2008? Is your kid by your side all the time? Lactose intolerant and diabetic? Never got caught once somewhere with no healthy alternatives? I'm not buying it,

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why do people let their kids eat junk food, drink soda, Mcdonald, burger king, pizza hut and ice cream in the first place? They are like poison and are banned in my house. It will cause serious health issues later on.

My oldest is 17 years old and the last time we visited a Mcdonald was 11 years ago. The last time he drank soda or ate ice cream was 2008.

That is sad, because ice cream is one of life's small joys.

It is also entirely irrelevant to OP's thread.

And that’s the other extreme. Forbidding your children from ever touching fast food, ice cream or soda isn’t helpful. You have no idea if your 17 yo has had soda in the past 10 years at a party when you haven’t been around. Teach them healthy eating habits and how to have certain foods in moderation. Including McDonalds. I had a sundae there today for the first time in many years and it was good.

Anyone getting flashes of Claudia Kishi?

Janine hasn't touched ice cream since 1985.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’m not shaming my daughter. I haven’t brought it up at all. She didn’t say anything until her check-up when she was weighed. Her pediatrician brought it up to me privately and DD seemed concerned about the weight gain. I reassured her this often happened before puberty but that it was important to continue exercising and eating healthy.

She gained 28 pounds from May 3 to August 2nd. She slang May 18th to July 29th with my ex husband.

My ex husband and I are both overweight. We were both overweight children. I work very hard to stay active and eat well, I’m still about 15-20 pounds overweight. I had lost a significant amount before my daughter was born. My ex does not eat well or stay active. Her step siblings are average weight but both are younger boys (7&9).

DD is very athletic and strong, she has an athletic build that can easily become hefty. The weight gain is apparent and has changed her body pretty significantly. It’s mostly in her stomach, arms and face. Her face changed a lot with the weight.

She’s gotten about 3/4 of an inch taller since her visit in early May.

Again, I’m a realist. This amount of weight gain in 3 months is a lot. I was an overweight teen. I know the stats, it’s harder to stay at a healthy body weight when you struggle with weight as a kid. I want to give my daughter a healthy start, it is a priority. I’m not here to body shame my kid, I’m just concerned from a health standpoint.

OP, I don't blame you and I would be pissed that her dad didn't encourage her to be healthy. Swimming, exercise, healthier meals and snacks. 28 pounds is significant and it does indicate that he had zero expectations for healthy eating and exercise over the summer. Now your DD is starting school and she's overweight, which has health and social implications for her. It's pretty human to upset about this- it's not body shaming. Your ex was irresponsible and your DD is paying the price.

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Anonymous wrote:This was me as a kid. Came back as the class fat kid. My parents didn't make a big deal about it but I never lost the weight. It was always "you'll thin out as you get taller" and it never happened. I'm still over weight as an adult and always wished I wasn't overweight. My parents probably could have subtly helped me get back on track but they are also overweight and didn't have the best food habits.

This is me as well. I think everyone assumed I was about to hit a growth spurt and I never did. I’ve been obese or overweight ever since. Now as an adult, it’s no ones fault but my own, but at that age it really sucked and I wish someone had helped me.

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I think you talk to her about your concern. People treat weight like a taboo subject but if she’d lost 28 lbs you wouldn’t just dance around the subject. Why not discuss with her the need to fuel her body with nutritious and balanced food. Go see a registered dietitian.

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why do people let their kids eat junk food, drink soda, Mcdonald, burger king, pizza hut and ice cream in the first place? They are like poison and are banned in my house. It will cause serious health issues later on.

My oldest is 17 years old and the last time we visited a Mcdonald was 11 years ago. The last time he drank soda or ate ice cream was 2008.

That is sad, because ice cream is one of life's small joys.

It is also entirely irrelevant to OP's thread.

And that’s the other extreme. Forbidding your children from ever touching fast food, ice cream or soda isn’t helpful. You have no idea if your 17 yo has had soda in the past 10 years at a party when you haven’t been around. Teach them healthy eating habits and how to have certain foods in moderation. Including McDonalds. I had a sundae there today for the first time in many years and it was good.

A McDonald's sundae? Gross. At least make the calories some high quality ice cream from a local shop.

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I bought a sundae from a local shop last week and it was very overpriced. Spending $7 on ice cream? McDonald's and fast food in general is fine in moderation.

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Pregnant?

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Anonymous wrote:Pregnant?

. The OP said she was prepubescent.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’m not shaming my daughter. I haven’t brought it up at all. She didn’t say anything until her check-up when she was weighed. Her pediatrician brought it up to me privately and DD seemed concerned about the weight gain. I reassured her this often happened before puberty but that it was important to continue exercising and eating healthy.

She gained 28 pounds from May 3 to August 2nd. She slang May 18th to July 29th with my ex husband.

My ex husband and I are both overweight. We were both overweight children. I work very hard to stay active and eat well, I’m still about 15-20 pounds overweight. I had lost a significant amount before my daughter was born. My ex does not eat well or stay active. Her step siblings are average weight but both are younger boys (7&9).

DD is very athletic and strong, she has an athletic build that can easily become hefty. The weight gain is apparent and has changed her body pretty significantly. It’s mostly in her stomach, arms and face. Her face changed a lot with the weight.

She’s gotten about 3/4 of an inch taller since her visit in early May.

Again, I’m a realist. This amount of weight gain in 3 months is a lot. I was an overweight teen. I know the stats, it’s harder to stay at a healthy body weight when you struggle with weight as a kid. I want to give my daughter a healthy start, it is a priority. I’m not here to body shame my kid, I’m just concerned from a health standpoint.

OP, I don't blame you and I would be pissed that her dad didn't encourage her to be healthy. Swimming, exercise, healthier meals and snacks. 28 pounds is significant and it does indicate that he had zero expectations for healthy eating and exercise over the summer. Now your DD is starting school and she's overweight, which has health and social implications for her. It's pretty human to upset about this- it's not body shaming. Your ex was irresponsible and your DD is paying the price.

Agree. I would be pissed. Irresponsible. And now you have to clean up the mess. Your a good mom. I get your worry. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son is 11 and put in a lot of weight last August, in a similar fashion. Completely sedentary and ate lots of McDonald’s. (Don’t ask, long story).

I just banned McDonald’s and focused on making healthy tasty meals. He was also on the school soccer team for the fall. He lost it all in about 2 months. So, about twice as long to take off as to put on. It wasn’t a diet. It was getting back to our regular eating habits.

He hasn’t started puberty yet as far as I can tell.

I don’t know how to address this with the ex. I worry an ex would take it as a personal attack. And I’m not sure how to approach your daughter without giving her issues. I likely would just go back to healthy habits, and maybe help her get access to healthier foods while with Dad?

Maybe she will tell you a little more about what was going on over the summer. Pizza every night? Does she feel comfortable requesting certain foods? would teaching her to cook for herself this winter, in prep for next summer, be helpful? I bet, if your ex is like my husband, unhealthy choices come from not wanting to shop and cook. Take out is easier.

why do people let their kids eat junk food, drink soda, Mcdonald, burger king, pizza hut and ice cream in the first place? They are like poison and are banned in my house. It will cause serious health issues later on.

My oldest is 17 years old and the last time we visited a Mcdonald was 11 years ago. The last time he drank soda or ate ice cream was 2008.

LOL - that's what you think. That's not the truth.

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Anonymous wrote:And that’s the other extreme. Forbidding your children from ever touching fast food, ice cream or soda isn’t helpful. You have no idea if your 17 yo has had soda in the past 10 years at a party when you haven’t been around. Teach them healthy eating habits and how to have certain foods in moderation. Including McDonalds. I had a sundae there today for the first time in many years and it was good.

My daughter is 16 years old and she has never had soda since she was five years old at a party and she actually spat it out. She said it taste awful. both my son and daughter actually vomit when they smell any food from Mcdonald or KFC. They are athletes but they don't drink gatorade, only water with a little bit of salt and lemon. Anything with processed sugar in it is not good for your body, that means ice cream.

going by your logic, smoking is OK too as long as it is in moderation too, right?

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It probably is since all of my relatives who smoked their entire lives lived until their mid 90s.

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Anonymous wrote:And that’s the other extreme. Forbidding your children from ever touching fast food, ice cream or soda isn’t helpful. You have no idea if your 17 yo has had soda in the past 10 years at a party when you haven’t been around. Teach them healthy eating habits and how to have certain foods in moderation. Including McDonalds. I had a sundae there today for the first time in many years and it was good.

My daughter is 16 years old and she has never had soda since she was five years old at a party and she actually spat it out. She said it taste awful. both my son and daughter actually vomit when they smell any food from Mcdonald or KFC. They are athletes but they don't drink gatorade, only water with a little bit of salt and lemon. Anything with processed sugar in it is not good for your body, that means ice cream.

going by your logic, smoking is OK too as long as it is in moderation too, right?

Sugar is good for you.

http://peatarian.com/46094/have-a-fear-of-white-sugar-get-over-it

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Anonymous wrote:And that’s the other extreme. Forbidding your children from ever touching fast food, ice cream or soda isn’t helpful. You have no idea if your 17 yo has had soda in the past 10 years at a party when you haven’t been around. Teach them healthy eating habits and how to have certain foods in moderation. Including McDonalds. I had a sundae there today for the first time in many years and it was good.

My daughter is 16 years old and she has never had soda since she was five years old at a party and she actually spat it out. She said it taste awful. both my son and daughter actually vomit when they smell any food from Mcdonald or KFC. They are athletes but they don't drink gatorade, only water with a little bit of salt and lemon. Anything with processed sugar in it is not good for your body, that means ice cream.

going by your logic, smoking is OK too as long as it is in moderation too, right?

Your kids are so incapable of coping that they actually vomit at the smell of fast food?

I doubt that.