How often does your spouse curse at you and call you names?

[Anonymous]

Never. Married 29 years, together 37 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is truly amazing what some people will put up with to be married. Healthy relationships should be a requirement.

Not always true. Not even married. I don't want to get married, he does. We don't call each other names, but even when I contemplated leaving, I calculated and I couldn't afford to leave. The kid starts school soon, so migth be able to leave now if thing go bad again.

[Anonymous]

Never.

He curses about THINGS, but never once has he cursed at me or called me names.

[Anonymous]

Never that I can recall in almost 40 years.

[Anonymous]

That isn’t normal in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For instance, if you fight or have a disagreement?

Never!

[Anonymous]

In all of our years together (16) DH has never yelled, called me names, or cursed at me. I can't imagine him ever doing that, it's just not who he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m actually surprised so many people say their spouse never calls them names. My spouse calls me names and insults me almost daily. I’m afraid to talk to him because he will call me stupid or something. I just try to not interact as much as possible or run over what I want to say over and over in my head to see if it is stupid or not and try to gauge what reaction will be. We’ve been together almost 20 years, it only really got like this after we had a kid.

Ugh, I hear ya. It's awful.

[Anonymous]

Never. Married 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:H #1: often. Hence the divorce.

H #2: never.

+1

Didn’t realize until I met my current dh that a relationship can be purely respectful and loving. I would be astonished if dh were to say even a slightly insulting word or even use a condescending tone with me. With xh that was our normal. He threw insults and yelled so often that I assumed everyone dealt with that kind of behavior at home. Not so. Leaving him was the best decision of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:H #1: often. Hence the divorce.

H #2: never.

+1

Didn’t realize until I met my current dh that a relationship can be purely respectful and loving. I would be astonished if dh were to say even a slightly insulting word or even use a condescending tone with me. With xh that was our normal. He threw insults and yelled so often that I assumed everyone dealt with that kind of behavior at home. Not so. Leaving him was the best decision of my life.

How long did you stay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m actually surprised so many people say their spouse never calls them names. My spouse calls me names and insults me almost daily. I’m afraid to talk to him because he will call me stupid or something. I just try to not interact as much as possible or run over what I want to say over and over in my head to see if it is stupid or not and try to gauge what reaction will be. We’ve been together almost 20 years, it only really got like this after we had a kid.

I am saying this in the nicest, most sincere way, speak to a therapist. He doesn’t own you you are equal, for your own good act like it.

[Anonymous]

Has never called me a name. We've cursed at each other a few times, but not in several years. Married 30 years.

[Anonymous]

Never. Not once in 7 years of marriage or 11 years together has my husband ever raised his voice at me or made a personal attack. We do disagree sometimes, but we talk about the issue we disagree on.

[Anonymous]

Never.