Why Don’t you Cheat?

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Anonymous wrote:Because it's too expensive here and doesn't have the value for money unlike in South east Asia.

LOL!

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i can't bear the idea of another person seeing me naked at this point in my life

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Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do.

Happened to my friend her H was ill for 10 years, she chose not to cheat.

An illness is an extenuating circumstance. Before he was ill, how was their sex life?

There are tons of "extenuating circumstances" in this world.

Commitment, integrity, etc don't rank circumstances.

If your unhappy divorce, nobody is asking you to stay married.... if you don't want to be faithful get divorced.

Likewise, if you don't want regular sex with spouse, get divorced: nobody is asking you to stay married.

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Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do.

Happened to my friend her H was ill for 10 years, she chose not to cheat.

An illness is an extenuating circumstance. Before he was ill, how was their sex life?

So you're saying sexual starvation IS tolerable if the circumstances are right?

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Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do.

Happened to my friend her H was ill for 10 years, she chose not to cheat.

An illness is an extenuating circumstance. Before he was ill, how was their sex life?

There are tons of "extenuating circumstances" in this world.

Commitment, integrity, etc don't rank circumstances.

If your unhappy divorce, nobody is asking you to stay married.... if you don't want to be faithful get divorced.

Likewise, if you don't want regular sex with spouse, get divorced: nobody is asking you to stay married.

Why would somebody divorce if they are happy and doing their best. Life is full of all kinds of suffering, some people can withstand it without throwing their children and loved ones under the bus, some can't.

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Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do.

Happened to my friend her H was ill for 10 years, she chose not to cheat.

An illness is an extenuating circumstance. Before he was ill, how was their sex life?

So you're saying sexual starvation IS tolerable if the circumstances are right?

Exactly, these cheaters are always moving the goal posts. They create all kinds of ridiculous "rules" around their "fidelity" and just wait until they can blame somebody else for their own lack of integrity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, by and large, people don't cheat when they lack opportunities, aren't horny, or are attracted to and satisfied by their partners...and then they claim it's their integrity.

Cheaters blame opportunity and circumstances on their cheating.

People with integrity don't cheat even if their spouse become depressed, gains weight, becomes distant, loses their job, <fill in the blank with all the shit that happens in life>.

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Anonymous wrote:So, by and large, people don't cheat when they lack opportunities, aren't horny, or are attracted to and satisfied by their partners...and then they claim it's their integrity.

Cheaters blame opportunity and circumstances on their cheating.

Absolutely perfect people with integrity don't cheat even if their spouse become depressed, gains weight, becomes distant, loses their job, <fill in the blank with all the shit that happens in life>.

Fixed it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:So, by and large, people don't cheat when they lack opportunities, aren't horny, or are attracted to and satisfied by their partners...and then they claim it's their integrity.

Cheaters blame opportunity and circumstances on their cheating.

Absolutely perfect people with integrity don't cheat even if their spouse become depressed, gains weight, becomes distant, loses their job, <fill in the blank with all the shit that happens in life>.

Fixed it for you.

Nope! Nobody is perfect. People with integrity go into life knowing that and are accepting of life and all it's imperfections.

People who expect "perfect" cheat, then blame others.

[Anonymous]

DW here, I've cheated due to the lack of sex DH and I are having.

It's maybe once every two weeks and I need it at least twice a week. I've expressed to DH that I can work with once a week and still nothing.

He doesn't know I'm sleeping around though.

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For what? A few minutes of likely disappointing sex? A revolving door of lies, unexplainable gaps in time and location? A constant atmosphere of suspicion and mistrust?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, dog, but if you like sex then those few stolen moments are not disappointing. They're essential. And a decent-looking woman can get decent sex. We're not men who have to beg.

[Anonymous]

The potential fallout wouldn't be worth the thrill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me it’s purely that I don’t want to disrespect my girlfriend. Nothing else. Not that I love her so much that I don’t want to be with someone else. I just don’t want to give someone else the power over her. This makes me unselfish and therefore unlikely to ever cheat.

Too busy running the whole household myself and my awesome career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i can't bear the idea of another person seeing me naked at this point in my life

I answered before about being married, but this too.