What do you consider a tiger Mom?

[Anonymous]

I am a very good researcher and very well informed about a wide range of things - school, college, curriculum, EC activities, school policy,. I have a knack for navigating bureaucracy for what I need for my kids and an ability to translate the official school-speak into English. This has enabled me to easily connect the dots and create opportunities for my kids. My kids need minimal guidance but the guidance that I do provide is well-researched and deliberate. In the process, I have shared the wealth of my knowledge with others and usually volunteer a lot at the school.

My kids are very bright but also regular kids. They have sleepovers, they occasionally eat junk, they are addicted to video games, they play sports for enjoyment. They love parties, they have their signature moves on the dance floor, they love eating out and trying new food and cuisine, they like cruises, road trips, adventure sports, vacations, travelling. They have a few assigned chores at home (making bed, putting away laundry, cleaning car, recycling, taking out trash) but they live a privileged and pampered life. They have access to our Amazon account and several store accounts and they are free to order what they want. They have never abused this privilege. They are pampered a lot by their dad and extended family members.

They are the very opposite of tiger cubs but thankfully since they do a good job in their academics, EC activities and are generally thoughtful and well mannered at school so they are well liked. Their biggest fans are their teachers and that is very gratifying to me.

If someone wants to call me a tiger mom, I will take it as a compliment. I will call myself an incredibly lucky mom who is also considerably lazy. I could never pull off an Amy Chua, but I admire her a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a very good researcher and very well informed about a wide range of things - school, college, curriculum, EC activities, school policy,. I have a knack for navigating bureaucracy for what I need for my kids and an ability to translate the official school-speak into English. This has enabled me to easily connect the dots and create opportunities for my kids. My kids need minimal guidance but the guidance that I do provide is well-researched and deliberate. In the process, I have shared the wealth of my knowledge with others and usually volunteer a lot at the school.

My kids are very bright but also regular kids. They have sleepovers, they occasionally eat junk, they are addicted to video games, they play sports for enjoyment. They love parties, they have their signature moves on the dance floor, they love eating out and trying new food and cuisine, they like cruises, road trips, adventure sports, vacations, travelling. They have a few assigned chores at home (making bed, putting away laundry, cleaning car, recycling, taking out trash) but they live a privileged and pampered life. They have access to our Amazon account and several store accounts and they are free to order what they want. They have never abused this privilege. They are pampered a lot by their dad and extended family members.

They are the very opposite of tiger cubs but thankfully since they do a good job in their academics, EC activities and are generally thoughtful and well mannered at school so they are well liked. Their biggest fans are their teachers and that is very gratifying to me.

If someone wants to call me a tiger mom, I will take it as a compliment. I will call myself an incredibly lucky mom who is also considerably lazy. I could never pull off an Amy Chua, but I admire her a lot.

hmmmm.

[Anonymous]

all of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A tiger mom is one who pressures her child to get good grades above everything else. She pressures the child to live her dream and her idea of success regardless of the child's happiness and dreams. A tiger moms ego is wrapped up in the child's grades and awards, while the child's ego suffers under the pressure of ignoring his own desires and dreams. The child imagination and true personality is blunted during childhood and they grow into adults who never find their happiness in life because they grew disconnected from it in childhood. A child of a tiger mom suffers from emotional poverty. A tiger mom and stage mom are in the same genre and are negative terms.

I don't think just pushing your kid to do well qualifies as "Tiger Mom" material. The distinctive features are 1) living through your kids's accomplishments instead of your own, and 2) willingness to sacrifice your kids' health -- mental, physical, both -- to satisfy that drive to live through their accomplishments.

Anything else is just range of normal.

[Anonymous]

^^^ PS: was agreeing with PP I quoted

[Anonymous]

I'm Asian and consider myself to be a tiger Mom.

HOWEVER -

I don't expect perfect grades, nor top colleges for my kids. However, I have very high expectations of what they will learn while they are under my roof. I am more strict in terms of most parents I know when it comes down to it. However, I'm not into academics. I am into knowledge. What school they get into isn't of concern to me because it depends on what they want to do professionally. You just can't ask a kid to go to Harvard for the sake of it or get their MBA so they can make $. They have to find their own way but when they do, I believe it's on parents to have prepared them so they can succeed. The strongest emotion I think is love (and fear). If you love what you do and know how to leverage that into making a living then you will be greater than most people. I think they will likely naturally go to a top school for what they want to study without me pushing it if they get what I'm teaching them.


I expect they achieve a number of things including the below before age 18. The below are what wee work on constantly with them and will continue to do. They have daily chores and discipline and responsibility are something we are constantly teaching them.

Learn good manners and strong morals.
Learn discipline and commitment - they follow through on a task. Currently, they just started playing piano (I play) and I don't care if they hate it. They are going to give it a good 2 years before they decide what's what (my kids are in early elementary grades)!
I supplement school work and they will read literature if not from school then assigned by me. They will learn to read, write (ie spell) longhand - not just type on a keyboard.
Learn to have the good attitude of "I will and I can" in trying new things
Learn money management skills and shelve their expectations for instant gratification
They find either a hobby, sport, art, academics, whatever they want but one subject matter they want to explore and commit to long-term whether they become professional at it or not.

[Anonymous]

Do tiger moms send their kids to public or private?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Asian and consider myself to be a tiger Mom.

HOWEVER -

I don't expect perfect grades, nor top colleges for my kids. However, I have very high expectations of what they will learn while they are under my roof. I am more strict in terms of most parents I know when it comes down to it. However, I'm not into academics. I am into knowledge. What school they get into isn't of concern to me because it depends on what they want to do professionally. You just can't ask a kid to go to Harvard for the sake of it or get their MBA so they can make $. They have to find their own way but when they do, I believe it's on parents to have prepared them so they can succeed. The strongest emotion I think is love (and fear). If you love what you do and know how to leverage that into making a living then you will be greater than most people. I think they will likely naturally go to a top school for what they want to study without me pushing it if they get what I'm teaching them.


I expect they achieve a number of things including the below before age 18. The below are what wee work on constantly with them and will continue to do. They have daily chores and discipline and responsibility are something we are constantly teaching them.

Learn good manners and strong morals.
Learn discipline and commitment - they follow through on a task. Currently, they just started playing piano (I play) and I don't care if they hate it. They are going to give it a good 2 years before they decide what's what (my kids are in early elementary grades)!
I supplement school work and they will read literature if not from school then assigned by me. They will learn to read, write (ie spell) longhand - not just type on a keyboard.
Learn to have the good attitude of "I will and I can" in trying new things
Learn money management skills and shelve their expectations for instant gratification
They find either a hobby, sport, art, academics, whatever they want but one subject matter they want to explore and commit to long-term whether they become professional at it or not.

I am like this too. Is this really a tiger mom though? At one point it was just good parenting before everything became child led.