Do I have to tell him? Should I feel guilty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just want to give an update.

The guy would not stop messaging me even after begging him not to. I blocked him and ONE DAY LATER he DMs husband to say Hey how is the weather? So I tell husband everything. He was crying and very upset but after a few days decided to work towards working on forgiveness. Things feel better than ever actually. I have this off my chest and I realize how precious our relationship is. I hope that if the time comes again where I fall into another depression DH has better tools to help me out of it. Thanks DCUM for the advice.

Better for you. That's about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ummm I can block him but I'm worried that will make him angry and he'll message my DH. They are FB friends. You are rude.

Not being rude just being honest. Why would he tell your husband? Would he mentioned that you blocked him? Just say he’s an a**hole so you blocked him. Btw. You are way overthinking thing. Relax, block his number and it’s over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ummm I can block him but I'm worried that will make him angry and he'll message my DH. They are FB friends. You are rude.

Not being rude just being honest. Why would he tell your husband? Would he mentioned that you blocked him? Just say he’s an a**hole so you blocked him. Btw. You are way overthinking thing. Relax, block his number and it’s over.

ya shoulda taken the time to read the last couple of posts before replying....OP updated the situation

[Anonymous]

Nope. Take it to the grave. Nothing good will come from you telling him. Nothing physical happened. Block him.

[Anonymous]

Sorry did not see the update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just want to give an update.

The guy would not stop messaging me even after begging him not to. I blocked him and ONE DAY LATER he DMs husband to say Hey how is the weather? So I tell husband everything. He was crying and very upset but after a few days decided to work towards working on forgiveness. Things feel better than ever actually. I have this off my chest and I realize how precious our relationship is. I hope that if the time comes again where I fall into another depression DH has better tools to help me out of it. Thanks DCUM for the advice.

Life lesson learned from DCUM:

When a man cheats, it's because he is an asshole.

When a woman cheats, it's because her husband is an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Losers all around.

[Anonymous]

Er, if you “fall into another depression”, it’s not entirely on your DH to “help you out of it.” It sounds like you are blaming your DH for your own behavior., but you need to own it, and not put that on him.

Regardless, I’m glad it worked out. That guy sounds like a psychopath though, geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I wouldn't care either way if the situation were flipped, but if you asked me that before this all happened I'd answer differently. I'd be pissed but work through it.

Do you all think this is cheating?

NO. If there were pictures involved, maybe. If you and the groomsman did more than text, yes.

But sexting for less than a week? I agree with others to screenshot texts of you telling him to stop and then, IF your husband finds out, you have proof that you nipped it in the bud before there was a threat to your marriage.

Unless there's more to the story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I wouldn't care either way if the situation were flipped, but if you asked me that before this all happened I'd answer differently. I'd be pissed but work through it.

Do you all think this is cheating?

NO. If there were pictures involved, maybe. If you and the groomsman did more than text, yes.

But sexting for less than a week? I agree with others to screenshot texts of you telling him to stop and then, IF your husband finds out, you have proof that you nipped it in the bud before there was a threat to your marriage.

Unless there's more to the story?

Never mind, I see there is. Carry on!

[Anonymous]

Hey 6:27. I was feeling overwhelmed and needed him to help me around the house more and he would basically tell me tough shit. I think he could have helped me more in that aspect and told me to talk to my doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey 6:27. I was feeling overwhelmed and needed him to help me around the house more and he would basically tell me tough shit. I think he could have helped me more in that aspect and told me to talk to my doctor.

so you started sending naked pictures to another guy? I don't get this logic

[Anonymous]

Do not tell him.
Do block his number for future texts.

He is not going to tell your DH. He has much to lose in it as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey 6:27. I was feeling overwhelmed and needed him to help me around the house more and he would basically tell me tough shit. I think he could have helped me more in that aspect and told me to talk to my doctor.

so you started sending naked pictures to another guy? I don't get this logic

Women love douchebags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey 6:27. I was feeling overwhelmed and needed him to help me around the house more and he would basically tell me tough shit. I think he could have helped me more in that aspect and told me to talk to my doctor.

so you started sending naked pictures to another guy? I don't get this logic

Women love douchebags.

they always have and always will. there's a reason assholes get laid, regularly.