In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
NP here.

Just chiming in to say that spanking doesn't have to be the end of the world, and sometimes solves problems in a less-traumatic way than what parents resort to, ie, yelling, nagging, or enduring months or years of the bad behavior.

Like all parenting, it has to be done judiciously. You have to know your kid. You have to choose your moment, be in control of your emotions, correctly explain what you meant by it later on, etc. It's not the same as randomly hitting your child every time you're feeling lousy.

Of course people who are scared of the world and like to simplify it with black and white thinking will not like this point of view.

No, PP. Disciplining a child by the use of physical pain is always 100% wrong. It is black and white.

Nope, it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
NP here.

Just chiming in to say that spanking doesn't have to be the end of the world, and sometimes solves problems in a less-traumatic way than what parents resort to, ie, yelling, nagging, or enduring months or years of the bad behavior.

Like all parenting, it has to be done judiciously. You have to know your kid. You have to choose your moment, be in control of your emotions, correctly explain what you meant by it later on, etc. It's not the same as randomly hitting your child every time you're feeling lousy.

Of course people who are scared of the world and like to simplify it with black and white thinking will not like this point of view.

No, PP. Disciplining a child by the use of physical pain is always 100% wrong. It is black and white.

Nope, it isn't.

So physical pain no, but emotional pain.. Ok?

[Anonymous]

I didn't spank my kids because I didn't need to. I was really lucky. For the most part my five were just easy kids. But I know plenty of great parents who occasionally spanked their children. My five are smart, college educated, successful, kind young adults. My friends' who spanked have kids who are smart, college educated, successful, kind young adults.

You people are so dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't spank my kids because I didn't need to. I was really lucky. For the most part my five were just easy kids. But I know plenty of great parents who occasionally spanked their children. My five are smart, college educated, successful, kind young adults. My friends' who spanked have kids who are smart, college educated, successful, kind young adults.

You people are so dramatic.

What is with every post you claim 5 perfect kids... yea right.

[Anonymous]

It may be that people are viewing the same term with different meanings. I would never spank my kids the way I was spanked. I got the whole - come over here and bend over and five whacks from my dad (lucky me, family #2 and my mom wouldn’t let him use the belt like he did on my older half sibs). I have (but don’t anymore because it isn’t effective) swatted my kids on the butt when they were doing something unsafe or overly disrespectful and were not responding to more subtle redirection. I have a healthy relationship with my kids and they both love being around me and they both confide in me.

[Anonymous]

There are at least four of us on dcum with five kids. It always surprises me because it's so uncommon in DC. And my kids are far, far, far from perfect. They were just pretty easy when they were little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The concept of hitting a toddler or preschooler with the sole intention of causing that little being physical pain is truly appalling.

To the one poster who condones this barbaric practice - seek help.

It’s more than one, you imbecile. Get over it! People disagree with you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m laughing, because this generation of unspanked, overcoddled children are the ones committing school shootings and mass shootings. The generations raised so “abusively” didn’t.

You're laughing about school shootings and mass shootings...wow, you're a terrible person. BTW, hitting your children doesn't preclude them from physical violence and aggression; on the contrary, it makes them more likely to be physically violent and aggressive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have little faith in politically motivated research and far more faith in the simple fact that attempting to reason with children that are not capable of reason is futility. The majority of the existence of humanity, children were spanked. I don’t think we can improve upon it

No intelligent, compassionate adult can possible justify the "reasoning" that we should teach a child not to hit by hitting them.

You can use this "reasoning" with pretty most widely used disciplinary methods.

So how do you justify taking their belongings from them as a punishment while teaching them not to take other kids' belongings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't know how any loving parent can raise their hand and hit their child - on purpose - with the sole intention of causing that little kid pain.

It is so barbaric and cruel. You want you little ones to be in pain... It is so disturbing.

I was never spanked or physically hurt and I turned out fine. My three children are successful, loving and amazing adults and I never hit or spanked them and none of my children are hitting my grandchildren.

I was spanked and I turned out fine too.

It's okay that you do not understand. My husband thinks it is cruel to ask an upset child to go to their room and therefore isolate the child from the rest of the family. He thinks it is emotional abuse(he doesn't believe in spanking either).

Different folks, different strokes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little faith in politically motivated research and far more faith in the simple fact that attempting to reason with children that are not capable of reason is futility. The majority of the existence of humanity, children were spanked. I don’t think we can improve upon it

No intelligent, compassionate adult can possible justify the "reasoning" that we should teach a child not to hit by hitting them.

You can use this "reasoning" with pretty most widely used disciplinary methods.

So how do you justify taking their belongings from them as a punishment while teaching them not to take other kids' belongings?

+1000 You're being far too reasonable PP and blowing the minds of the DCUM snowflake mothers.

[Anonymous]

It is pretty funny that mothers who resort to disciplining their children with physical pain are calling the mothers who don't names!

[Anonymous]

Luckily I have a triple digit IQ and can think of better, more productive ways to discipline my kids than physically hurting them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know some smart, kind, devoted parents who spank. The difference in attitudes is often cultural or socioeconomic. I try to make my own choices, stand up for them when someone asks, and otherwise try not to judge. Yes, I think I am right (and that the research is right) that spanking is detrimental to development. But I would not say everyone who spanks is vile--that comes down to plain bigotry.

I would also say that some of these friends who believe in spanking are, on a daily basis, far more gentle in their interactions with their children than some other people who are against spanking. To call ALL spanking "abuse" is ridiculous. Some people are trying to use it judiciously as a parenting tool, and that is not abuse. Some people who would never spank drag their kids around by the arm or yell at them to the point that the kids are frightened. That is more abusive and damaging than an occasional smack on the behind.

You are making far too much sense and being way too reasonable for these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Luckily I have a triple digit IQ and can think of better, more productive ways to discipline my kids than physically hurting them.

So when your triple digit IQ fails to help you of think of more productive ways to deal with your rebellious child, what then? You know, the child who starts defying your every request because they can?