Dr. Laura Schlessinger

[Anonymous]

I read her book when I was in my early 20s. I thought she was crazy.

Fifteen years later, I realize that there was some good advice regarding marriage, but it’s predicated on both spouses being decent people and upholding their end of the bargain. If one or both of the partners is exploiting the situation, it’s not going to work. A lot of these very conservative models for relationships are ripe for exploitation, and maybe that’s why you see a lot of bad players flocking to conservative models (or as PP put it “alpha” males and “insecure” women).

With regard to getting remarried, blending families is going to have a lot more challenges than creating the initial family. Unfortunately, we get caught up in love, or biological clocks, or fear of being alone, or the financial benefits of being remarried, or wanting to prove that we were not responsible for the failure of our past marriage, and we don’t make the best decisions for ourselves and our children—we actually usually remarry quicker than we do the first time, because we are “more mature” and “know what we want”.

Most people would be better off if they were more deliberate in choosing a spouse, but it’s especially important the second time around, once you’re blending families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read her book when I was in my early 20s. I thought she was crazy.

Fifteen years later, I realize that there was some good advice regarding marriage, but it’s predicated on both spouses being decent people and upholding their end of the bargain. If one or both of the partners is exploiting the situation, it’s not going to work. A lot of these very conservative models for relationships are ripe for exploitation, and maybe that’s why you see a lot of bad players flocking to conservative models (or as PP put it “alpha” males and “insecure” women).

With regard to getting remarried, blending families is going to have a lot more challenges than creating the initial family. Unfortunately, we get caught up in love, or biological clocks, or fear of being alone, or the financial benefits of being remarried, or wanting to prove that we were not responsible for the failure of our past marriage, and we don’t make the best decisions for ourselves and our children—we actually usually remarry quicker than we do the first time, because we are “more mature” and “know what we want”.

Most people would be better off if they were more deliberate in choosing a spouse, but it’s especially important the second time around, once you’re blending families.

I really agree with this. She gets so many calls from people in 2nd marriages with kids and most of the time it’s a crappy situation with no solution. The solution is not to get remarried when you have young kids, and if you do, don’t marry someone with kids and don’t make new kids with your new spouse. It creates so much pain and drama for the kids. I believe she truly does care about children and that’s why she holds many of the views that she does.

[Anonymous]

She is the worst. She'd love it if we were all 1950 housewives again. And doesn't she hate gay people too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is the worst. She'd love it if we were all 1950 housewives again. And doesn't she hate gay people too?

I think so. Anyone outside of her version of "right." So.... 1950's.

[Anonymous]

I was really turned off to her once the story about her mother came to light. She died alone in her apartment and stayed there for weeks, until a neighbor complained of the stench from the dead body.

I totally understand that some people are toxic, but Dr. Laura was rich and could have cut off all contact with her mom while still at least paying for some sort of end of life care, hospice, nursing home. I mean that seems plain inhumane. After that, I couldn't really justify listening to her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I read her book when I was in my early 20s. I thought she was crazy.

Fifteen years later, I realize that there was some good advice regarding marriage, but it’s predicated on both spouses being decent people and upholding their end of the bargain. If one or both of the partners is exploiting the situation, it’s not going to work. A lot of these very conservative models for relationships are ripe for exploitation, and maybe that’s why you see a lot of bad players flocking to conservative models (or as PP put it “alpha” males and “insecure” women).

With regard to getting remarried, blending families is going to have a lot more challenges than creating the initial family. Unfortunately, we get caught up in love, or biological clocks, or fear of being alone, or the financial benefits of being remarried, or wanting to prove that we were not responsible for the failure of our past marriage, and we don’t make the best decisions for ourselves and our children—we actually usually remarry quicker than we do the first time, because we are “more mature” and “know what we want”.

Most people would be better off if they were more deliberate in choosing a spouse, but it’s especially important the second time around, once you’re blending families.

I really agree with this. She gets so many calls from people in 2nd marriages with kids and most of the time it’s a crappy situation with no solution. The solution is not to get remarried when you have young kids, and if you do, don’t marry someone with kids and don’t make new kids with your new spouse. It creates so much pain and drama for the kids. I believe she truly does care about children and that’s why she holds many of the views that she does.

I take her views as an act only. To create dramatic effect. Shock value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I often wonder about Trump's base. Who ARE these people and what crap got them to this point?

And here we are.....UGH

Read a book.

Well, we have something in common! I too often wonder how we got to this point....only I wonder about Obama's base. Who ARE these hypocrites? So there you are!

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Anonymous wrote:I think she makes people uncomfortable because she forces them to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves about their choices in life.

Yes, she sometimes go over the top and doesn't give people a chance to talk. But in general, I agree with a lot of what she says.

She didn’t follow any of the advice she gave out like being a working mom, being divorced etc.

If you want to actually help people, you don’t need to be a confrontational bully. She and others like her, eg “dr.” Phil are try to create drama and sound bytes to make money. They use the dupes that seek their help.

Has she divorced her husband Lew? If you are referring to her first divorce 35+ years ago., that was before she had the moral views that she espoused later on. I think the criticism of her being a hypocrite is unfair because the divorce, nude pictures taken by boyfriend were years before she developed the moral code that she later adopted. She has always said that she was a different person when she was younger. I think her past experiences is why she developed her moral code. That being said, I do think it's hypocritical for her to slam working moms when she was doing that radio show while her son was growing up. There's no way she was able to limit her working hours to her son's school hours.

Moral code! Ha. Is that what hypocrites call do as I say not as I do?

Her "code" is basically that it was okay for her to make bad choices but she'll ream the hell out of anyone else who does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She's a hypocritical, unhinged hack who some how managed to keep her career going. She's irrelevant today. Her 15 minutes of fame was in the 90s.

My thoughts exactly.

mine too.

[Anonymous]

I think she's a gigantic hypocrite, which makes it hard to take her seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is a hyprocitcal POS who has never met a judgmental thought when didn’t like. I used to hate listen but decided to stop giving her another listener. I hope she exits quickly from this life.

Guessing your life choices and behavior came under her criticism?

I hate her too and I'm almost conservative sexually as you can be. I have only had one partner-- my husband--and we have been married over 25 years.

You know, you CAN recognize that people are being assholes without being the target. I'm so tired of the lame "touched a nerve" response. It's lazy and dismissive.

Then againn, I'm not her core audience-insecure women married to so called alpha males because they can't take care of themselves.

+1

She is always telling women in bad marriages to go home to their mothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read her book when I was in my early 20s. I thought she was crazy.

Fifteen years later, I realize that there was some good advice regarding marriage, but it’s predicated on both spouses being decent people and upholding their end of the bargain. If one or both of the partners is exploiting the situation, it’s not going to work. A lot of these very conservative models for relationships are ripe for exploitation, and maybe that’s why you see a lot of bad players flocking to conservative models (or as PP put it “alpha” males and “insecure” women).

With regard to getting remarried, blending families is going to have a lot more challenges than creating the initial family. Unfortunately, we get caught up in love, or biological clocks, or fear of being alone, or the financial benefits of being remarried, or wanting to prove that we were not responsible for the failure of our past marriage, and we don’t make the best decisions for ourselves and our children—we actually usually remarry quicker than we do the first time, because we are “more mature” and “know what we want”.

Most people would be better off if they were more deliberate in choosing a spouse, but it’s especially important the second time around, once you’re blending families.

I really agree with this. She gets so many calls from people in 2nd marriages with kids and most of the time it’s a crappy situation with no solution. The solution is not to get remarried when you have young kids, and if you do, don’t marry someone with kids and don’t make new kids with your new spouse. It creates so much pain and drama for the kids. I believe she truly does care about children and that’s why she holds many of the views that she does.

+1 to both PPs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think she makes people uncomfortable because she forces them to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves about their choices in life.

Yes, she sometimes go over the top and doesn't give people a chance to talk. But in general, I agree with a lot of what she says.

She didn’t follow any of the advice she gave out like being a working mom, being divorced etc.

If you want to actually help people, you don’t need to be a confrontational bully. She and others like her, eg “dr.” Phil are try to create drama and sound bytes to make money. They use the dupes that seek their help.

Has she divorced her husband Lew? If you are referring to her first divorce 35+ years ago., that was before she had the moral views that she espoused later on. I think the criticism of her being a hypocrite is unfair because the divorce, nude pictures taken by boyfriend were years before she developed the moral code that she later adopted. She has always said that she was a different person when she was younger. I think her past experiences is why she developed her moral code. That being said, I do think it's hypocritical for her to slam working moms when she was doing that radio show while her son was growing up. There's no way she was able to limit her working hours to her son's school hours.

Moral code! Ha. Is that what hypocrites call do as I say not as I do?

Her "code" is basically that it was okay for her to make bad choices but she'll ream the hell out of anyone else who does.

She never said her choices were ok. And she didn't do these things while she was preaching against them. Why don't people get that? When she was younger she had a very different morality, she learned from her mistakes and developed a new moral code.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she makes people uncomfortable because she forces them to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves about their choices in life.

Yes, she sometimes go over the top and doesn't give people a chance to talk. But in general, I agree with a lot of what she says.

She didn’t follow any of the advice she gave out like being a working mom, being divorced etc.

If you want to actually help people, you don’t need to be a confrontational bully. She and others like her, eg “dr.” Phil are try to create drama and sound bytes to make money. They use the dupes that seek their help.

Has she divorced her husband Lew? If you are referring to her first divorce 35+ years ago., that was before she had the moral views that she espoused later on. I think the criticism of her being a hypocrite is unfair because the divorce, nude pictures taken by boyfriend were years before she developed the moral code that she later adopted. She has always said that she was a different person when she was younger. I think her past experiences is why she developed her moral code. That being said, I do think it's hypocritical for her to slam working moms when she was doing that radio show while her son was growing up. There's no way she was able to limit her working hours to her son's school hours.

Moral code! Ha. Is that what hypocrites call do as I say not as I do?

Her "code" is basically that it was okay for her to make bad choices but she'll ream the hell out of anyone else who does.

She never said her choices were ok. And she didn't do these things while she was preaching against them. Why don't people get that? When she was younger she had a very different morality, she learned from her mistakes and developed a new moral code.

She "learned" from her mistakes than balls out other people who make the same mistakes. Yeah, that's hypocrisy and doesn't help anyone learn a new code.

[Anonymous]

She's got lots of good advice for people who want it.