Sibling to move out after parents death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he's been taking care of your father, he should get the house!

If he's living there rent free, he's had quite a deal already. Why should he get the whole house??

NP here. Rent free? The brother has been taking care of the parents! I personally would never do this but my sister would. The brother should not be paying rent if he is caring for the parents. DCUM is crazy. In most major cultures of the world children care for their parents. Multigenenerational families are the norm. In these family structures a child caring for a parent does not pay rent. This is so odd and speaks to attachment issues. Jeez DC area.

Reread from p 2 the OP's own words: "Although he lives with my dad still, he's far from a care giver. If anything he does little to help. I do more and I live miles away. I don't think my 3 other siblings we be money hungry but I think there's a certain amount of frustration that this brother has been living almost scott free in this house for 55 years while the rest of us pay mortgages and property taxes like most adults."

He has not been taking care of the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he's been taking care of your father, he should get the house!

If he's living there rent free, he's had quite a deal already. Why should he get the whole house??

NP here. Rent free? The brother has been taking care of the parents! I personally would never do this but my sister would. The brother should not be paying rent if he is caring for the parents. DCUM is crazy. In most major cultures of the world children care for their parents. Multigenenerational families are the norm. In these family structures a child caring for a parent does not pay rent. This is so odd and speaks to attachment issues. Jeez DC area.

Reread from p 2 the OP's own words: "Although he lives with my dad still, he's far from a care giver. If anything he does little to help. I do more and I live miles away. I don't think my 3 other siblings we be money hungry but I think there's a certain amount of frustration that this brother has been living almost scott free in this house for 55 years while the rest of us pay mortgages and property taxes like most adults."

He has not been taking care of the parents.

All that aside, either taking care of parents = rent or taking care of parents = you are entitled to the house upon passing. Not both!

[Anonymous]

Who on earth cares for a family member and is expected to pay rent to that family member? Only in the DMV. This would never fly in my family and my parents would not accept any payment from me or my siblings for living in their home. At any age.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. OP sounds estranged from her brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he's been taking care of your father, he should get the house!

If he's living there rent free, he's had quite a deal already. Why should he get the whole house??

NP here. Rent free? The brother has been taking care of the parents! I personally would never do this but my sister would. The brother should not be paying rent if he is caring for the parents. DCUM is crazy. In most major cultures of the world children care for their parents. Multigenenerational families are the norm. In these family structures a child caring for a parent does not pay rent. This is so odd and speaks to attachment issues. Jeez DC area.

Reread from p 2 the OP's own words: "Although he lives with my dad still, he's far from a care giver. If anything he does little to help. I do more and I live miles away. I don't think my 3 other siblings we be money hungry but I think there's a certain amount of frustration that this brother has been living almost scott free in this house for 55 years while the rest of us pay mortgages and property taxes like most adults."

He has not been taking care of the parents.

This is her view. I am glad that she stepped up to help, but her perspective may be skewed. I have seen this happen over and over again. Many (if more most) put more weight on what they do and less on what others do. The mere act of living with a parent when they are in decline is doing quite a bit.