All three adolescent children in one family gender non-conforming?

[Anonymous]

I was a teen tomboy who cut my hair short and never wore pink or anything frilly. I'm a happily married mother of two. I'm still not girly but I'm a woman. I'm be very confused in today's atmosphere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to add from a random google search:

Tell Me More About Being Gender Non-Conforming:
Gender non-conforming refers to people who do not adhere to society's rules about dress and activities for people that are based on their biological sex and gender assignment.
A gender non-conforming person may choose to present as neither clearly male, nor clearly female, but rather as a gender-free individual.

I, personally, am a 35 year old woman who conforms to all gender stereotypes: long blonde hair, I wear makeup, I'm quite feminine. But I certainly appreciate that there are gender non-conforming people in the world to remind others that having a vagina does not mean I must wear makeup, and having a penis does not mean I can't. Those are just societal rules we can choose to conform to, or not.

What I find fascinating in *my* family is that my otherwise-gender-conforming nephew has just come out as transgender, even though he looks, behaves, conducts self (think "manspreading" when sitting, hulking gait, interest in male-dominated education fields, no desire to dress "like a girl" and so forth) in ways that would identify as BOY/DUDE. I asked with genuine desire to understand, "what makes you identify as a girl instead of just as a gay man?" And she didn't have an answer. Just says "I just have always felt that I'm a girl."
Has definitely made me look at my own gender (and trans) stereotypes a little more critically! Because I think most people accept that having a vagina doesn't make you want to wear makeup (I know lots of women who don't--gay or straight), but I kind of assumed those born with a penis who later came out as identifying as women do so partly out of motivation to conform to that "other" gender.
But apparently having a penis and identifying as a girl ALSO does not make you want to wear makeup or necessarily "conform" to societal gender norms of the other gender either.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s pretty obvious the parents are encouraging this nonconforming.

It could also be a function of their peer group. I would only hope that they are exploring this in non-permanent ways, like hair and clothing choices rather than hormones and/or surgery.

Fully half my DD's female classmates claim they're bisexual or lesbian. Statistically based on numbers, 2 should be lesbian and 2 or 3 more bisexual. Instead, at least 15 of them claim to be lesbian.

This. It's a fad.

It certainly is to some.

Two years ago a few kids were using opposite sex change rooms. One was in ds's class. At this point it seems like nobody does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend has 2 daughters, one is female-to-male trans and the other is lesbian. Their father is an uninvolved type (divorced from my friend).

If one is female to male transgender (the better way to say this is "Assigned Female at Birth" by the way), then your friend has two queer kids, one is a son (a trans boy) and one is a cisgender lesbian. Fixed it for you.