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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just wanted to add from a random google search:

Tell Me More About Being Gender Non-Conforming:
Gender non-conforming refers to people who do not adhere to society's rules about dress and activities for people that are based on their biological sex and gender assignment.
A gender non-conforming person may choose to present as neither clearly male, nor clearly female, but rather as a gender-free individual.

I, personally, am a 35 year old woman who conforms to all gender stereotypes: long blonde hair, I wear makeup, I'm quite feminine.  But I certainly appreciate that there are gender non-conforming people in the world to remind others that having a vagina does not mean I must wear makeup, and having a penis does not mean I can't.  Those are just societal rules we can choose to conform to, or not.
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What I find fascinating in *my* family is that my otherwise-gender-conforming nephew has just come out as transgender, even though he looks, behaves, conducts self (think "manspreading" when sitting, hulking gait, interest in male-dominated education fields, no desire to dress "like a girl" and so forth) in ways that would identify as BOY/DUDE. I asked with genuine desire to understand, "what makes you identify as a girl instead of just as a gay man?" And she didn't have an answer. Just says "I just have always felt that I'm a girl."
Has definitely made me look at my own gender (and trans) stereotypes a little more critically! Because I think most people accept that having a vagina doesn't make you want to wear makeup (I know lots of women who don't--gay or straight), but I kind of assumed those born with a penis who later came out as identifying as women do so partly out of motivation to conform to that "other" gender.
But apparently having a penis and identifying as a girl ALSO does not make you want to wear makeup or necessarily "conform" to societal gender norms of the other gender either.

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