Second Marriage Qualities: What are you looking for?

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Anonymous wrote:Second marriage? Why? Don't see any need for it. I don't plan to have any more kids.

Are you implying that people only marry for procreation purposes? What about all the people who don't want kids? They should never marry? Or people whose kids are grown and for whatever reason those people are not married - they should be single forever?

People marry for companionship. Come on.

No, I don't see any point in getting married "for companionship". Nor do I see any point in marrying once kids are grown.

You can get companionship without the piece of paper. You are companions the whole time you were dating, right? Nothing about the wedding ceremony makes you more companion-y.

Marriage is a business deal. No point in signing up for that deal without a very compelling reason. Kids are the only compelling reason.

I feel sad for you.

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You didnt read the entire thread and are commenting out of turn.

Am definitely not looking for this woman. LOL.

Oh, be quiet. I started the thread.

Ouch. Definitely not looking for this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. Nice ass.
2. Trim
3. Enthusiastic about sex, giving and receiving. She takes what she wants.
4. No breast implants. I have plenty of tennis balls I can feel.

Really, she could be a total asshole and as long as she was skinny and had real boobs you’d be happy?

NP. I think this is my XH

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1. Loves sex, participates enthusiastically
2. Communicates well
3. Fun-loving, easy going
4. Nice body (not saying 20s figure, but nice body for her age)

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Why get married again ? Surely the lesson learned is that it’s a bad idea.

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Why get married again ? Surely the lesson learned is that it’s a bad idea.

Surely you realize that not everyone agrees with you. On a variety of topics, including this.

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Anonymous wrote:"Attract an equal partner"? Stop looking at this stuff like a corporate merger.

Very often "equal partner" is better, one of the reasons so many women ask where the good ones are or complain about men. They are looking out of their league.

Yeah, they expect to become trophy wives. But aside from that, it's not a business deal. If you're worried that much about protecting what you've got, stay single.

You didnt read the entire thread and are commenting out of turn. It was the guy that was interested in protecting wjat he haas.

And further upthread a couple women are calling marriage a business deal.

marriage IS a business partnership, to a large extent. My DH and are business partners- we discuss all of our resources, incl. money (investments/bills/luxuries/necessities), personnel (our children), hard assets (cars/home) for example. The only real difference is that if I had a business with others, I would not sleep with them. To decide for a SAH partner, you need to jointly decide, if it makes financial/ emotional/ personal sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Loves sex, participates enthusiastically
2. Communicates well
3. Fun-loving, easy going
4. Nice body (not saying 20s figure, but nice body for her age)

Wait, isn't this the exact same list you had for a high school prom date? And a college girlfriend? And your first wife? You mean these are still the most important things you look for in a romantic relationship? And... wait a second... isn't this basically the top men's needs from the classic best-selling book His Needs-Her Needs ? Strange how so women still don't get this! Every divorced guy I know explains how his ex-wife did the exact opposite: stopped having sex; ignored him; always critical; gained alot of weight.

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Why get married again ? Surely the lesson learned is that it’s a bad idea.

Because looooooooove.

Also, so you Pinterest the crap out of your second wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. Loves sex, participates enthusiastically
2. Communicates well
3. Fun-loving, easy going
4. Nice body (not saying 20s figure, but nice body for her age)

Wait, isn't this the exact same list you had for a high school prom date? And a college girlfriend? And your first wife? You mean these are still the most important things you look for in a romantic relationship? And... wait a second... isn't this basically the top men's needs from the classic best-selling book His Needs-Her Needs ? Strange how so women still don't get this! Every divorced guy I know explains how his ex-wife did the exact opposite: stopped having sex; ignored him; always critical; gained alot of weight.

Well, duh. If women expect differently, that's pretty stupid.