Second Marriage Qualities: What are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

1. Good sense of humor
2. Big Penis
3. Physically Fit
4. Extrovert

[Anonymous]

Marriage is a business deal. No point in signing up for that deal without a very compelling reason. Kids are the only compelling reason.

Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone who is not cheap
Someone who has no debt
Someone who likes to travel
Someone who is funny
Someone who is fit and decent looking, with hair!
Good grammar
Good career
Not sloppy

Hopefully your future spouse does not include "Someone who can count" on his/her list...

[Anonymous]

I do not understand why any woman would want to marry a second time. They end up doing the lions’s share of running a household. Being single in an apartment was so much easier. Currently married but I would never ever remarry.

[Anonymous]

1. someone who is motivated and gets excited
2. someone who cleans up after themselves
3. big penis
4. someone strong and protective of me

[Anonymous]

OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. someone who is motivated and gets excited
2. someone who cleans up after themselves
3. big penis
4. someone strong and protective of me

You are the second poster that mentioned number 3. I would amend that to say "a sensual lover" instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Second marriage? Why? Don't see any need for it. I don't plan to have any more kids.

Are you implying that people only marry for procreation purposes? What about all the people who don't want kids? They should never marry? Or people whose kids are grown and for whatever reason those people are not married - they should be single forever?

People marry for companionship. Come on.

No, I don't see any point in getting married "for companionship". Nor do I see any point in marrying once kids are grown.

You can get companionship without the piece of paper. You are companions the whole time you were dating, right? Nothing about the wedding ceremony makes you more companion-y.

Marriage is a business deal. No point in signing up for that deal without a very compelling reason. Kids are the only compelling reason.

Absolutely agree. No reason to get married other than kids if it's not a business deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second marriage? Why? Don't see any need for it. I don't plan to have any more kids.

That's what my husband said.. he also didn't plan to have any more kids. His plan didn't work out to well for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

At some point, child support/child duties are over. Its not life long in less the ex is like my husbands and gets something life long (fortunately it is pretty minimal).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

And a quick note for any male readers, when a woman says "let's live together, we'll save money" she means she will save money, not you. You will pay the mortgage and utilities just like you always did, and she will spend her former mortgage and utility payments on herself. Yay equality!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

And a quick note for any male readers, when a woman says "let's live together, we'll save money" she means she will save money, not you. You will pay the mortgage and utilities just like you always did, and she will spend her former mortgage and utility payments on herself. Yay equality!

This is not true and is a hasty generalization. If you are attracting needy women, then you need to take a serious look at yourself. It's you. Plus, you live together, so you can just leave or refuse to pay the other half of the mortgage. Or better yet, since you bought the house together, then only pay half each month. It will ruin her credit as well as yours. She will not risk ruining her credit and then have to get a new place to live after the relationship falls apart.

See, how that works? When you attract an equal partner, you are not left footing the bill for everything. Stop playing the victim.

[Anonymous]

"Attract an equal partner"? Stop looking at this stuff like a corporate merger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

And a quick note for any male readers, when a woman says "let's live together, we'll save money" she means she will save money, not you. You will pay the mortgage and utilities just like you always did, and she will spend her former mortgage and utility payments on herself. Yay equality!

This is not true and is a hasty generalization. If you are attracting needy women, then you need to take a serious look at yourself. It's you. Plus, you live together, so you can just leave or refuse to pay the other half of the mortgage. Or better yet, since you bought the house together, then only pay half each month. It will ruin her credit as well as yours. She will not risk ruining her credit and then have to get a new place to live after the relationship falls apart.

See, how that works? When you attract an equal partner, you are not left footing the bill for everything. Stop playing the victim.

ALL women are like that. The only way to avoid female parasitism is not to live with them in the first place.

"you can just leave or refuse to pay the other half of the mortgage" or "only pay half each month" <-- this is never going to happen and you know it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. As a single woman, I often wonder if marriage is worth it a second time around. I am not opposed to living with someone to help take the financial burden off of managing two households.

And a quick note for any male readers, when a woman says "let's live together, we'll save money" she means she will save money, not you. You will pay the mortgage and utilities just like you always did, and she will spend her former mortgage and utility payments on herself. Yay equality!

This is not true and is a hasty generalization. If you are attracting needy women, then you need to take a serious look at yourself. It's you. Plus, you live together, so you can just leave or refuse to pay the other half of the mortgage. Or better yet, since you bought the house together, then only pay half each month. It will ruin her credit as well as yours. She will not risk ruining her credit and then have to get a new place to live after the relationship falls apart.

See, how that works? When you attract an equal partner, you are not left footing the bill for everything. Stop playing the victim.

ALL women are like that. The only way to avoid female parasitism is not to live with them in the first place.

"you can just leave or refuse to pay the other half of the mortgage" or "only pay half each month" <-- this is never going to happen and you know it

You have mental health issues. I suggest a good therapist.