She was a sugar baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, what's the difference between a woman who has a relationship with a rich man who gives her money and gifts, and a girl who has a relationship with a man who gives her money and gifts, and it's just established at the beginning that's what he's gonna do?

Well considering they are both in a relationship nothing. Someone paying you for sex isn't a relationship. But you know that and are just the MRA troll on break from college or whatever and trying and failing to argue that all women are prostitutes and owe men sex.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're a hypocrite. There's no supply without demand, so please look at your fellow male species members who perpetuate the sex trade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a hypocrite. There's no supply without demand, so please look at your fellow male species members who perpetuate the sex trade.

Stop. Women have choices and agency. Hundreds of women in her position do not choose to become prostitutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, what's the difference between a woman who has a relationship with a rich man who gives her money and gifts, and a girl who has a relationship with a man who gives her money and gifts, and it's just established at the beginning that's what he's gonna do?

A sugar baby implies sugar daddy, meaning the man was old enough to be her father. The relationship was transactional.

When I young, I lived at home with my parents during college. I worked a part time office job and paid my own way through school. I shared a car with my mother. I met and started dating my boyfriend in college, after we took classes together and knew each other as friends for a year. Our first date was to church for Ash Wednesday because I was a practicing Catholic. He was a sort of Catholic. He had money, and I did not. He drove. He picked me up. He paid for dates. He invited me on family vacations. We weren't even having more than make out sex for months. Do you see the difference? Yes, he had money. I did not. However, our relationship was in our way based on money for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, what's the difference between a woman who has a relationship with a rich man who gives her money and gifts, and a girl who has a relationship with a man who gives her money and gifts, and it's just established at the beginning that's what he's gonna do?

A sugar baby implies sugar daddy, meaning the man was old enough to be her father. The relationship was transactional.

When I was young, I lived at home with my parents during college. I worked a part time office job and paid my own way through school. I shared a car with my mother. I met and started dating my boyfriend in college, after we took classes together and knew each other as friends for a year. Our first date was to church for Ash Wednesday because I was a practicing Catholic. He was a sort of Catholic. He had money, and I did not. He drove. He picked me up. He paid for dates. He invited me on family vacations. We weren't even having more than make out sex for months. Do you see the difference? Yes, he had money. I did not. However, our relationship was in our way NOT based on money for sex.

The reason he liked me and my virginal ways, is because he had been kicked out of his prevous college for bad grades. He was walking on crutches from a motorcycle accident. I took pity on him. He was ready to stop partying and have a real girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the plus side, if she ever tries to deny you sex, all you have to do is throw $200 at her and say, "Get naked, sugar!"

Utterly disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem to very desperately to think this was just a FWB situation. But FWB don't pay to play.

+1. She is not being honest with you or herself if she is not calling it what it was. That's actually a problem because it shows that she can beND her morals just by playing with semantics.

It would actually be less of an issue if she said she was an esort and owned it.

[Anonymous]

In the words of an Instagram meme, Until there is equal pay, there is no such thing as a gold digger.

The question for me is, how did she bring about this situation. If she sought it out, which I bet she did, that kind of changes things from a moral standpoint.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Wow! So much hate for the woman! You guys are putting too much emphasis on the fact that she slept with somebody and benefited from it. If a man could do the same he would; would you judge him equally? Big picture per OP she only slept about five guys. What the OP needs to focus on is the relationship and her. She was forthcoming and honest with him and he has to make a decision, can he accept her as she is or not. If he is wringing his hands so much, my thoughts are that he cannot. He needs to break up with her and move on and let her find somebody who can love her for who she is today

If men had an equal opportunity to sleep with women for money, the world would be such a radically different place, it's tough to say how any of us would judge a person's sexuality. A lot of hate for promiscuous women comes from resentment that women have so much more power in the sexual marketplace. If that structural imbalance went away, OP's girlfriend probably wouldn't be judged so harshly. But you might as well ask what would happen if we all lived on Big Rock Candy Mountain.

Very true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the plus side, if she ever tries to deny you sex, all you have to do is throw $200 at her and say, "Get naked, sugar!"

Utterly disgusting.

Disgusting or not, this girl was OK with a man using that approach on her for 6 months - she can hardly object to it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a hypocrite. There's no supply without demand, so please look at your fellow male species members who perpetuate the sex trade.

Unless he is a sugar daddy himself, he is not a hypocrite. He's not responsible for any man's actions but his own.

[Anonymous]

This is why unless it is about STD's or bisexual tendencies, you do not ask about sexual history. If things are going well, why would you ask for information that could change your opinion of the other person?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:would you rather the party girl who slept with 30 guys and got nothing for it but an std?

Just asking.

There’s sooooo much more in between those two extremes it’s not even funny.

OP, I’m a huge believer in what happens before me is none of my business in terms of body count. All I need to know if any STDs or babies came from your past.

When it comes to sugar babying or other sex work, however, it’s a different story. That’s not just sexual behavior. There’s a whole other mentality that comes with exchanging your body for money and using sex to extrapolate money from men. I’d tread very, very carefully here. That’s not a mentality that’s easily shaken and ends once you get the exact amount for your loans. As a trust fund baby-friend she could’ve petitioned for a loan that was paid back over time. That she’d opt to have sex for money says A LOT.

What happens if you fall on hard times while married?

That's easy!

? He needed money so he put her on the street ?

You joke, but there was a couple on a talkshow today. Can't remember the name. I think it was Robert Irwin. White guy with glasses.

Anyway, this man married a former escort. He lost his job and guess what she did to bring in money? Walked the streets.

There's a MENTALITY associated with sex work. Most women would take out personal loans, call their parents but NEVER sell sex. It takes a 'special type' of person to see that as a viable alternative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is far more common than you think,OP. Look at the white house for an example. That said, if it's not ok for you, move on.

Melania is not a sugar baby, idiot. Or if she is then every woman on DCUM married to a high-income man is actually a whore.

You think Melania married for love? And you called me an idiot?

[Anonymous]

She was a prostitute. That's why it is bothering you. It doesn't bother some, but it bothers you. Do you really want this woman to be the mother of your kids? Move along.