She was a sugar baby

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a whore to me.

[Anonymous]

There are a million people to date in this world. Why would you ever spend your time with someone like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

You asked her number? How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Wow! So much hate for the woman! You guys are putting too much emphasis on the fact that she slept with somebody and benefited from it. If a man could do the same he would; would you judge him equally? Big picture per OP she only slept about five guys. What the OP needs to focus on is the relationship and her. She was forthcoming and honest with him and he has to make a decision, can he accept her as she is or not. If he is wringing his hands so much, my thoughts are that he cannot. He needs to break up with her and move on and let her find somebody who can love her for who she is today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Wow! So much hate for the woman! You guys are putting too much emphasis on the fact that she slept with somebody and benefited from it. If a man could do the same he would; would you judge him equally? Big picture per OP she only slept about five guys. What the OP needs to focus on is the relationship and her. She was forthcoming and honest with him and he has to make a decision, can he accept her as she is or not. If he is wringing his hands so much, my thoughts are that he cannot. He needs to break up with her and move on and let her find somebody who can love her for who she is today

If men had an equal opportunity to sleep with women for money, the world would be such a radically different place, it's tough to say how any of us would judge a person's sexuality. A lot of hate for promiscuous women comes from resentment that women have so much more power in the sexual marketplace. If that structural imbalance went away, OP's girlfriend probably wouldn't be judged so harshly. But you might as well ask what would happen if we all lived on Big Rock Candy Mountain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You realize she's trickle-truthing you. If she says it was one guy, then it was LOTS of guys. If she says it was 6 months, then she spent years being an escort.

But mainly, even if it was exactly as she says, if you're not comfortable with her behavior, you have every right to break up with her and find someone who meets your standards.

A very cogent analysis.

[Anonymous]

Sugar baby = soft prostitution, of course. But candidly so is the "hook up" culture more generally. Cf. Tinder and the Dating Apocalypse. Net-net you might be better off if she was the sugar baby of one quality man and otherwise had a relatively low N count, rather than a more typical dating experience. Sadly just the way our fallen world rolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

You asked her number? How old are you?

Don't be shamed by this, OP, statistically partner count is a hugely relevant divorce predictor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Wow! So much hate for the woman! You guys are putting too much emphasis on the fact that she slept with somebody and benefited from it. If a man could do the same he would; would you judge him equally? Big picture per OP she only slept about five guys. What the OP needs to focus on is the relationship and her. She was forthcoming and honest with him and he has to make a decision, can he accept her as she is or not. If he is wringing his hands so much, my thoughts are that he cannot. He needs to break up with her and move on and let her find somebody who can love her for who she is today

If men had an equal opportunity to sleep with women for money, the world would be such a radically different place, it's tough to say how any of us would judge a person's sexuality. A lot of hate for promiscuous women comes from resentment that women have so much more power in the sexual marketplace. If that structural imbalance went away, OP's girlfriend probably wouldn't be judged so harshly. But you might as well ask what would happen if we all lived on Big Rock Candy Mountain.

Best answers right here. The past is the past. People who want to marry a virgin have to be one too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

You asked her number? How old are you?

Well she does sleep with people for money...oh wait you do the same so no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Wow! So much hate for the woman! You guys are putting too much emphasis on the fact that she slept with somebody and benefited from it. If a man could do the same he would; would you judge him equally? Big picture per OP she only slept about five guys. What the OP needs to focus on is the relationship and her. She was forthcoming and honest with him and he has to make a decision, can he accept her as she is or not. If he is wringing his hands so much, my thoughts are that he cannot. He needs to break up with her and move on and let her find somebody who can love her for who she is today

If men had an equal opportunity to sleep with women for money, the world would be such a radically different place, it's tough to say how any of us would judge a person's sexuality. A lot of hate for promiscuous women comes from resentment that women have so much more power in the sexual marketplace. If that structural imbalance went away, OP's girlfriend probably wouldn't be judged so harshly. But you might as well ask what would happen if we all lived on Big Rock Candy Mountain.

Let's be clear on the facts: men (on average) have FAR greater sex drive than women (on average). This has been scientifically proven in multiple peer-reviewed research based studies. Based upon this fundamental imbalance, standard economic principles of supply/demand ensure that women can profit by providing sex. Although women may have the advantage when it comes to sexual access, men also have many advantages in this life (for example, starting/pacing/ending relationships). Welcome to planet Earth, just accept these principles and move on people!

[Anonymous]

BFD. Look at all the women here who marry and date on the basis of a balance sheet and PL statement. She was just honest.

[Anonymous]

would you rather the party girl who slept with 30 guys and got nothing for it but an std?

Just asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New girlfriend of 3 months told me she used to be a sugar baby. It was with one guy when she was 28. It was more like a fwb relationship but he helped pay off her loan debt for school. It last 6 months. It’s been tough to process. I really like her but knowing this information has taken me back. It’s shocking. It goes against every moral I have. She doesn’t seem like the type to do that. She is a good person and has so much going for her - good career, attractive, good in bed, kind-hearted, respectful, good sense of humor, and good with kids. I’m am unsure of what to do at this point. I like her and see potential, but don’t think is fair to stay with someone if I judge her based on her past.

So, what, you think she's a whore? Come on, be more blunt.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you even have Bitcoins? You can't judge.