Friend didn't invite me to baby shower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's highly unlikely she planned her own baby shower. Accept her apology and move on. Buy her baby a gift and carry on as usual. No need to be dramatic or lose a friendship over it.

This is ridiculous advice. There is no need to get a gift to a party you were not invited to.

OP you can get her a gift after she has her baby and she lets you know about the arrival.

You're gross. Grow up. It's not a gift for her, it's for her good friends BABY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend wasn't invited to my shower. I sent the host the names and addresses, but USPS returned my best friend's as undelivered (address was correct). My friend was pissed about it. I realized she hadn't been invited two weeks before the shower and gave her my invitation and told her she was invited for sure! Best friend still didn't show up to the shower and was upset about it- didn't send a baby gift or mention it. I know this is stupid, but she's still upset and I haven't seen much of her in the 2 years that have passed. Thanks USPS!

The host did give me her invite that had been returned to her (like 3 months later). The address was correct.

Yes, what about RSVP’s? Did she not notice that her good friend hadn’t RSVP’d?
Nowadays everything is electronic, so nothing gets lost in the mail. There’s plenty of time to invitecthose you forgot too.
OP you’re not as good a friend to her as you thought. I’d cultivate new friendships and try to find real friends.

What are you talking about? Who sends evites to a baby shower?! That's a paper invite always.

[Anonymous]

Another way if looking at it is that she lied to you when she said she didn't want a shower because she didn't want you there and the shower was already being planned. You should think carefully, do you guys get along? Do you not get along with her other friends? Do you say rude things?

I might be wrong, but it's telling to me that she only texted you after she knows you found out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's highly unlikely she planned her own baby shower. Accept her apology and move on. Buy her baby a gift and carry on as usual. No need to be dramatic or lose a friendship over it.

This is ridiculous advice. There is no need to get a gift to a party you were not invited to.

OP you can get her a gift after she has her baby and she lets you know about the arrival.

You're gross. Grow up. It's not a gift for her, it's for her good friends BABY.

Hmm why am I gross? My friends kids come after my friendship with my friend. All I am saying is give the gift later seeing how everything goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend wasn't invited to my shower. I sent the host the names and addresses, but USPS returned my best friend's as undelivered (address was correct). My friend was pissed about it. I realized she hadn't been invited two weeks before the shower and gave her my invitation and told her she was invited for sure! Best friend still didn't show up to the shower and was upset about it- didn't send a baby gift or mention it. I know this is stupid, but she's still upset and I haven't seen much of her in the 2 years that have passed. Thanks USPS!

The host did give me her invite that had been returned to her (like 3 months later). The address was correct.

Yes, what about RSVP’s? Did she not notice that her good friend hadn’t RSVP’d?
Nowadays everything is electronic, so nothing gets lost in the mail. There’s plenty of time to invitecthose you forgot too.
OP you’re not as good a friend to her as you thought. I’d cultivate new friendships and try to find real friends.

What are you talking about? Who sends evites to a baby shower?! That's a paper invite always.

I have got only evites to some baby showers. ITs fine.

[Anonymous]

OP, most people don't plan their own baby showers - they ought to be thrown by friends or family. If she gave them a list, she might have forgotten to include you on it. I find it a little odd that you have a "good friend" who was having a baby shower but the topic never came up...do you talk or text often? Do you live near each other? I can't imagine if one of my good friends was having a baby shower that it wouldn't have been something we'd talk about beforehand, unless it was a surprise, in which case the host is the one who left you off. Also, you didn't state how close in time the FB post was to the shower. Some people post pictures while they're actually at an event, in which case she literally didn't have time to apologize. I'd forgive and forget, because life is too short for grudges, but I would also realize that maybe you two aren't as close as you once were. If that upsets you, try to rekindle your friendship. If she doesn't reciprocate, then the baby shower is a red herring and the reality is you've just grown apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another way if looking at it is that she lied to you when she said she didn't want a shower because she didn't want you there and the shower was already being planned. You should think carefully, do you guys get along? Do you not get along with her other friends? Do you say rude things?

I might be wrong, but it's telling to me that she only texted you after she knows you found out.

Really? Do people REALLY think like this? Who has TIME for this type of drama?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So my good friend didn't invite me to her baby shower. I saw a picture on fb from it and was surprised because she originally didn't want to have one. I am deeply hurt. I liked the picture and didn't comment. I got a text from her this evening say that she messed up and is so sorry she forgot to invite me and she doesn't know how that happened and that she was wondering where I was at the party and realized at the end that she didn't invite me. WTF?! I get pregnancy brain and all but really? I'm pretty hurt by this and haven't responded yet. WWYD? WWY say in response? Part of my wonders if I hadn't liked the picture would she have even reached out?

You're her best friend and she forgot to invite you?! If you believe this, I have a bridge in Brooklyn I'd like to sell you.

You, obviously, are not her best friend!

I didn't say she was my best friend. Please read my post again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another way if looking at it is that she lied to you when she said she didn't want a shower because she didn't want you there and the shower was already being planned. You should think carefully, do you guys get along? Do you not get along with her other friends? Do you say rude things?

I might be wrong, but it's telling to me that she only texted you after she knows you found out.

LOL No, I don't think any of this is the case...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another way if looking at it is that she lied to you when she said she didn't want a shower because she didn't want you there and the shower was already being planned. You should think carefully, do you guys get along? Do you not get along with her other friends? Do you say rude things?

I might be wrong, but it's telling to me that she only texted you after she knows you found out.

Really? Do people REALLY think like this? Who has TIME for this type of drama?

No, people don't think like this! -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, most people don't plan their own baby showers - they ought to be thrown by friends or family. If she gave them a list, she might have forgotten to include you on it. I find it a little odd that you have a "good friend" who was having a baby shower but the topic never came up...do you talk or text often? Do you live near each other? I can't imagine if one of my good friends was having a baby shower that it wouldn't have been something we'd talk about beforehand, unless it was a surprise, in which case the host is the one who left you off. Also, you didn't state how close in time the FB post was to the shower. Some people post pictures while they're actually at an event, in which case she literally didn't have time to apologize. I'd forgive and forget, because life is too short for grudges, but I would also realize that maybe you two aren't as close as you once were. If that upsets you, try to rekindle your friendship. If she doesn't reciprocate, then the baby shower is a red herring and the reality is you've just grown apart.

We talk every couple weeks and text about the same. We do live near each other but I haven't talked to her in like 3.5 weeks at least because I went out of town and then when we got back things were hectic with the holidays approaching. Entirely possible the party was planned in November when we didn't talk much. This is her first baby and I already have a child. -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be happy I didn't have to buy a gift. Accept the apology and move on. And since you didn't know about the shower, consider that maybe you think she's a closer friend than she does.

Yes. She doesn't value the friendship the way that you do. It's OK. Don't break off contact, but focus energy on people who value you.