Friend didn't invite me to baby shower

[Anonymous]

Exactly, wtf! Good bye to this friend. I would write something nice in response, but will not reach out first to her after that. Leave it up to her. But, really, find a new friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly, wtf! Good bye to this friend. I would write something nice in response, but will not reach out first to her after that. Leave it up to her. But, really, find a new friend.

I’m sorry to say that I agree. Be nice, but I doubt this was an accident.

[Anonymous]

Good. You just saved yourself at least $50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly, wtf! Good bye to this friend. I would write something nice in response, but will not reach out first to her after that. Leave it up to her. But, really, find a new friend.

I’m sorry to say that I agree. Be nice, but I doubt this was an accident.

+2

I agree with PP's as well who said she felt guilty after the fact when she saw you liked the photo. I am sorry, I would be hurt by something like this as well.

[Anonymous]

I also doubt this was an accident. I think her actions as a friend going forward may prove it. I would maybe respond to the text when you are a little less upset and then the ball is in her court friendship wise. I would be deeply hurt too OP. I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say "Lol, pregnancy brain is so powerful isn't it?! Sorry to have missed your shower - looks beautiful. Can't wait to meet Baby Sophie and see you rocking being a mom!"

Grow up. People make mistakes. People need forgiveness. I like to always assume the best in people, ESPECIALLY those I'm close with. So assume it's an honest mistake, and be gracious.

I like this approach. Have some grace, forgive, take the high road. She might really have forgotten. If she did, you save the friendship by being accepting of the apology. If she didn’t, then you are still the better person.

[Anonymous]

My mil cut some people from my list.

People don't send out their own invitations for a shower.

My friends they were cut called and said they were coming anyway.

I did not find out until after because it was a "surprise" shower.

My H family is huge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say "Lol, pregnancy brain is so powerful isn't it?! Sorry to have missed your shower - looks beautiful. Can't wait to meet Baby Sophie and see you rocking being a mom!"

Grow up. People make mistakes. People need forgiveness. I like to always assume the best in people, ESPECIALLY those I'm close with. So assume it's an honest mistake, and be gracious.

Great answer, but so not DCUM.

[Anonymous]

You should give her the benefit of the doubt. She probably had someone else organize the shower and gave them a list of friends and accidentally left OP off of it. Mistakes happen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say "Lol, pregnancy brain is so powerful isn't it?! Sorry to have missed your shower - looks beautiful. Can't wait to meet Baby Sophie and see you rocking being a mom!"

Grow up. People make mistakes. People need forgiveness. I like to always assume the best in people, ESPECIALLY those I'm close with. So assume it's an honest mistake, and be gracious.

No need to be rude about your advice. Everyone on this board is so fast with the "grow up" bit. I'm a freaking person and I'm allowed to feel hurt by anothers actions! I used most of what you wrote. I realized that it is out of character for her and she was pretty apologetic.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who was disappointed because some of her friends did not showed up at her baby shower. Turned out they were never invited, by the other friend in charge of it, who did not know them.
But pregnant friend did not spent too much time thinking about it after because she was so focused on her upcoming baby.
It can happened, don't loose a friend about something so stupid.

[Anonymous]

She apologized. Let it go. If you are going to hang onto this and other things like this you are going to spend a lot of time being hurt. Believe her.

[Anonymous]

Well, she forgot, it happens.

Unless you think there is something more sinister? Your worst enemy was present, perhaps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good. You just saved yourself at least $50.

Lol. I’d remain acquaintances, just in case you ever need her as a “friend”. This is a good thing OP because now you know where you really stand with her.

[Anonymous]

I'd be happy I didn't have to buy a gift. Accept the apology and move on. And since you didn't know about the shower, consider that maybe you think she's a closer friend than she does.