Why wouldn't a man want just a sexual relationship?

[Anonymous]

A bunch of moralists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I love how people assume it wasn't good sex. This being DCUM with its embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives - how the hell would you remember what good sex is anyway??

Yes, amazingly, people are questioning whether the sex that he is turning down from you was that great for him. If a man showed up and insisted that he was a super-awesome lover and didn't understand why his ex wouldn't have sex with him, he'd get much more mockery than you've received.

OP: Why won't my ex have NSA sex with me? I am incredible in bed.
DCUM: Uh here are some reasons. Also, since men generally love NSA sex and he doesn't want it from you, maybe you're not incredible in bed.
OP: What the hell do you losers know?!?

Lmao sometimes I want to strangle DCUM.

I see you people. I see you! But I will prevail. And by that I mean get laid.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's into someone else and doesn't want to mess it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I love how people assume it wasn't good sex. This being DCUM with its embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives - how the hell would you remember what good sex is anyway??

You got us. It's that we don't know what good sex is. You're right. Sex between the two of you was absolutely breathtaking. Earth-shattering, toe-curling, ground-breaking stuff. That's why he can't get enough.

Oh wait, he could. He did.

Let me let you in on a little surprise. Sex is driven primarily by how much you like a person. If that man adored you, sex with you would have been the best experience of his life. The quality of sex isn't driven by the shape of you or by acrobatics because all women have approximately the same shape, and all the tricks are infinitely replicable. If the guy loves you, then you can just lie there, and he'd be in heaven. If he doesn't like you, your perfect ass and skillful hands won't make a difference. I'm just being honest with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, why does it matter why people don't want what they don't want? Find someone who wants the same thing as you, easy-peasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently ended relationship, on the way out I asked if we could just have sex occasionally (very hot sex, great sexual chemistry). He was offended at my suggestion! Why?

Ask him. Why query the folks on DCUM with its "embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives" as you so animatedly opined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently ended relationship, on the way out I asked if we could just have sex occasionally (very hot sex, great sexual chemistry). He was offended at my suggestion! Why?

Ask him. Why query the folks on DCUM with its "embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives" as you so animatedly opined.

Well, I did ask him, and he said "I'm not just trying to get laid. Love is the most important thing to me." I think he knows we're too enmeshed to have a true effective FWB arrangement anyway.

It's just my vagina talking. I'm horny. And now I have to go track down some new dud/stud. Gah.

[Anonymous]

He wants some strange. New strange is the silver lining to break-ups.

Why stay tied, even casually, to your ex? Most likely he was done dealing with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently ended relationship, on the way out I asked if we could just have sex occasionally (very hot sex, great sexual chemistry). He was offended at my suggestion! Why?

Ask him. Why query the folks on DCUM with its "embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives" as you so animatedly opined.

Well, I did ask him, and he said "I'm not just trying to get laid. Love is the most important thing to me." I think he knows we're too enmeshed to have a true effective FWB arrangement anyway.

It's just my vagina talking. I'm horny. And now I have to go track down some new dud/stud. Gah.

I really have no idea why he doesn't want to spend time with you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently ended relationship, on the way out I asked if we could just have sex occasionally (very hot sex, great sexual chemistry). He was offended at my suggestion! Why?

Ask him. Why query the folks on DCUM with its "embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives" as you so animatedly opined.

Well, I did ask him, and he said "I'm not just trying to get laid. Love is the most important thing to me." I think he knows we're too enmeshed to have a true effective FWB arrangement anyway.

It's just my vagina talking. I'm horny. And now I have to go track down some new dud/stud. Gah.

I really have no idea why he doesn't want to spend time with you...

I'm out.

[Anonymous]

ok, so this guy is out, and OP, you are on the prowl for some new d. so let 's help OP move this along...

what do you look like? what kid of guy gets you hot and wet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I love how people assume it wasn't good sex. This being DCUM with its embarrassment of sexless husbands/wives - how the hell would you remember what good sex is anyway??

You got us. It's that we don't know what good sex is. You're right. Sex between the two of you was absolutely breathtaking. Earth-shattering, toe-curling, ground-breaking stuff. That's why he can't get enough.

Oh wait, he could. He did.

Let me let you in on a little surprise. Sex is driven primarily by how much you like a person. If that man adored you, sex with you would have been the best experience of his life. The quality of sex isn't driven by the shape of you or by acrobatics because all women have approximately the same shape, and all the tricks are infinitely replicable. If the guy loves you, then you can just lie there, and he'd be in heaven. If he doesn't like you, your perfect ass and skillful hands won't make a difference. I'm just being honest with you.

+a million

All this is true true true. Sex with my husband when we are getting along is great. Sex with my husband when we are not getting along is foul. Nothing has changed except my response to him.

[Anonymous]

OP, it just doesn't work that way. Old boyfriends don't make good FWBs. In your case, his wounded pride is probably the best explanation for his refusal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it just doesn't work that way. Old boyfriends don't make good FWBs. In your case, his wounded pride is probably the best explanation for his refusal.

We're sleeping together. It's working out for now.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is cautious and doesn't 100% believe you when you insist that the relationship can be purely sexual. Plus there is the danger of pregnancy. See the other thread by the women who got pregnant and is deciding how to spring the news on the man.

There is so much porn available now that it's easy for men to basically satisfy their sexual urges until they want a relationship.