How important is a woman's career to finding a mate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A long time ago, I used to think it didn't matter one iota and I thought then that I'd prefer a wife who SAH with a kid or two and my dating tendencies matched that...nannies, schoolteachers, and the like. Respectable "motherly" jobs with decent earnings, but not bringing in the big bucks. But then I met my eventual wife whose career matched mine in earnings and things just changed because I finally saw the light. I'm so happy that I found a true equal in a spouse who's on the same page about working, earning, investing, sharing parenting duties/household chores, family time/vacationing, and planning for the future. She simply makes my life easier and she inspires me to work harder to make hers even easier than mine. I'm not saying that every day is perfect (and I wasn't fully prepared for how hard raising babies up to kindergarteners was going to be but we made it), but there's something that's just so satisfying and fulfilling about knowing that my partner in life is ready, willing, and able to shoulder just as much of the burdens in life as I am, whether they be physical, mental, emotional, or financial, and I'm very thankful for that. And I truly believe having that safety net of a fully capable spouse naturally helps me to be the best man that I can be. And on the flipside, thanks to the foundations we laid down years ago, my wife could decide to SAH starting tomorrow and that'd be fine too.

I'll say this to sum it up...in 80% of America between the coasts, a woman's career/earnings doesn't matter much. In HCOL cities, like DC, it matters a lot.

Interesting perspective. I was a PP upthread married to a former lawyer now SAHM DW who doesn't care about her career at all. But then again, we moved from DC to the sunbelt where $250k per year is living on endless riches that you can't spend unless you try. If I was back in DC, struggling to pay bills, I might be a little more energetic about financial contribution.

[Anonymous]

Zero

[Anonymous]

I think it should be important not because of money but moreso because it indicates a level of education and also points to her drive. All things men should think about passing along to their future children.

[Anonymous]

Amb wife who doesn't work but has 3 kids and lots of rep events? My fantasy is to move back to U.S., retrain and work as a teacher. No receptions ever...ahhh!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it should be important not because of money but moreso because it indicates a level of education and also points to her drive. All things men should think about passing along to their future children.

And that's why you may be single, if you're in the dating market. You think in terms of what men should think instead of what they actually think, which is that the number of years of college is relevant in a job interview and not in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

It is not. Plain and simple.