Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not bored at all. I was bored at work, not at home.

Me too. And to the PP, I have a masters degree and had a successful career before staying home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't feel comfortable knowing that my life is made entirely possible by someone else's largesse. I've always felt this way, even as a child when I realized some moms don't work outside the home. It's an uncomfortable feeling.

I've been married 30 years and have been at home all but about six of them. DH and I are both 50. I feel 100% comfortable knowing my life is made entirely possible by my DH's income. He would tell you that his life is made 100% possible by me managing our home. So it works out well in our family.

But if it gives you an uncomfortable feeling, you should definitely continue working.

Fantastic answer and 100% true. I worked for 11 years and have been fortunate enough to be home for 12. I just laugh at the simpletons who can't grasp that marriage is a team effort, not an exercise in bean counting. My husband is my biggest champion, and I am his - no matter which way our "division of duties" is divvied up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

You are not helping you case for intellectual prowess by offering 'I heard it on DCUM so it must be true' as your defense BTW.

DP. You sound extremely defensive. Why is that?

And btw, I don't think PP is the same as the top PP. At any rate, who are you to doubt the top PP's experience? And "as for all over this website," that comment is true. All one has to do is read some of the repulsive posts criticizing SAHMs and calling them any number of names. So, please. Don't pretend that isn't true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't feel comfortable knowing that my life is made entirely possible by someone else's largesse. I've always felt this way, even as a child when I realized some moms don't work outside the home. It's an uncomfortable feeling.

I've been married 30 years and have been at home all but about six of them. DH and I are both 50. I feel 100% comfortable knowing my life is made entirely possible by my DH's income. He would tell you that his life is made 100% possible by me managing our home. So it works out well in our family.

But if it gives you an uncomfortable feeling, you should definitely continue working.

Fantastic answer and 100% true. I worked for 11 years and have been fortunate enough to be home for 12. I just laugh at the simpletons who can't grasp that marriage is a team effort, not an exercise in bean counting. My husband is my biggest champion, and I am his - no matter which way our "division of duties" is divvied up.

PP married at 20? Did you go to college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

But you are the one posting like it actually happened to you. We both work and split schedule as well as have SACC and have no problems managing our kids transport. We do have SAHM falling over themselves to give us rides and play dates, but we don't take them up that often and are careful to reciprocate. But all the working parents I know have SACC or the like so not even sure where your kid and their kid would be collocated for a pickup? I think you are making that's up.

You do know that PP doesn't know you and wasn't posting about you, right? And that your particular situation has nothing to do with the situations of so many other WOHMs that she actually does know? Sounds like she touched a nerve.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

You are not helping you case for intellectual prowess by offering 'I heard it on DCUM so it must be true' as your defense BTW.

DP. You sound extremely defensive. Why is that?

And btw, I don't think PP is the same as the top PP. At any rate, who are you to doubt the top PP's experience? And "as for all over this website," that comment is true. All one has to do is read some of the repulsive posts criticizing SAHMs and calling them any number of names. So, please. Don't pretend that isn't true.

I have never experienced judgment in real life. But the trope about WOHM asking for rides from SAHM PP is making up, bc where would their kids even be in the same place to BE picked up?? WOHM needs a ride everyday, going to go round robin thru her neighborhood SAHM?? That doesn’t happen. Totally made up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)

Not OP, but this was my day today:

I’m a SAHM with a SAC

Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.

Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.

Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.

Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.

I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.

I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.

I find it fascinating that anyone not interested in SAHMs would even click on a thread specifically addressing SAHMs. Don't you? Kind of makes you look... unintelligent, which is unsurprising.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

But you are the one posting like it actually happened to you. We both work and split schedule as well as have SACC and have no problems managing our kids transport. We do have SAHM falling over themselves to give us rides and play dates, but we don't take them up that often and are careful to reciprocate. But all the working parents I know have SACC or the like so not even sure where your kid and their kid would be collocated for a pickup? I think you are making that's up.

You do know that PP doesn't know you and wasn't posting about you, right? And that your particular situation has nothing to do with the situations of so many other WOHMs that she actually does know? Sounds like she touched a nerve.

I asked where she lived. Never heard of such a thing, really can’t even see how it could happen.

Nerve? What does that even mean? Like I actually have asked a SAHM for a favor or something? Again, losticially that would be MORE work for me, working parents have to have their sh*t together, so it just doesn’t make sense. Maybe she lives in a depressed neighborhood and her working class neighbors need some help bc their boss pulled them in for a second shift and they are in a bind, but talking bad about someone in that situation would be gauche.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)

Not OP, but this was my day today:

I’m a SAHM with a SAC

Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.

Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.

Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.

Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.

I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.

I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.

I find it fascinating that anyone not interested in SAHMs would even click on a thread specifically addressing SAHMs. Don't you? Kind of makes you look... unintelligent, which is unsurprising.

Don’t you realize this whole thread was a setup, for SAHM to praise how great it is and will weaken any arguments as to how it is ‘the hardest job in the world’.

100% sure OP is a trolling WOHM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

You are not helping you case for intellectual prowess by offering 'I heard it on DCUM so it must be true' as your defense BTW.

DP. You sound extremely defensive. Why is that?

And btw, I don't think PP is the same as the top PP. At any rate, who are you to doubt the top PP's experience? And "as for all over this website," that comment is true. All one has to do is read some of the repulsive posts criticizing SAHMs and calling them any number of names. So, please. Don't pretend that isn't true.

I have never experienced judgment in real life. But the trope about WOHM asking for rides from SAHM PP is making up, bc where would their kids even be in the same place to BE picked up?? WOHM needs a ride everyday, going to go round robin thru her neighborhood SAHM?? That doesn’t happen. Totally made up.

Ok, exactly who's the one making things up?? Nowhere did PP say there are WOHMs going "round robin through her neighborhood SAHMs," looking for rides every day. You just completely fabricated that, and for what - effect? She stated there are "some working moms" who have asked PP to pick up their kids. Which is absolutely believable - I've encountered this too. And while I don't mind giving the occasional ride to anyone who needs it, there are indeed some WOHMs who assume that their kid is going to be brought home every.single.time. from whatever event - sports, dance, scouts, etc. There are two moms I can think of right off the bat who never, ever participate in carpool to OR from our kids' practices. While it's understandable that they aren't able to take the kids there, they can certainly bring them home on a regular basis, just like all the other parents do.

So hop off your silly soapbox and realize that your experience is not at all the same as everyone else's and PP makes a very valid point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 graduate degrees, education & biology.. Worked 15 years, stayed home with my kids for the past 12 years. I love being SAHM and I am definitely not bored. My husband (and children) appreciate my efforts. I am very creative and love to cook, and do many things DH doesn't particularly like to do, like plan vacations. I spend my time raising (and enjoying) my children and buidling a strong relationship with DH. The only thing I don't like is some of the working moms., particularly those that have asked me to pick-up their kids and then insinuate that I am lazy or stupid for being a SAHM.

Where do you live that the working moms don't have childcare already lined up and judge you like that? Not our experience at all in Arlington.

I mean, it's all over this website.

But you are the one posting like it actually happened to you. We both work and split schedule as well as have SACC and have no problems managing our kids transport. We do have SAHM falling over themselves to give us rides and play dates, but we don't take them up that often and are careful to reciprocate. But all the working parents I know have SACC or the like so not even sure where your kid and their kid would be collocated for a pickup? I think you are making that's up.

You do know that PP doesn't know you and wasn't posting about you, right? And that your particular situation has nothing to do with the situations of so many other WOHMs that she actually does know? Sounds like she touched a nerve.

I asked where she lived. Never heard of such a thing, really can’t even see how it could happen.

Nerve? What does that even mean? Like I actually have asked a SAHM for a favor or something? Again, losticially that would be MORE work for me, working parents have to have their sh*t together, so it just doesn’t make sense. Maybe she lives in a depressed neighborhood and her working class neighbors need some help bc their boss pulled them in for a second shift and they are in a bind, but talking bad about someone in that situation would be gauche.

My SIL is a SAHM and often helps out working parents. She drives two other boys home from sports after school dropping them off on her way home. She also looks after her next door neighbors two kids on snow days (and where we live we get quite a few).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every once in a while, I read threads like this and I feel like taking my husband up on his offer for me to stay home.

And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.

And you're on this thread about SAHMs, why?? Very telling. Should the rest of us go into detail about all the WOHMs we know who are also "in very tough positions" but who are "miserable and trapped" because they're stuck in their dead-end jobs and never see their children?

No, because we realize that our anecdotes are only small samplings of the entire population, and that generalizing about a group of people who make choices we wouldn't isn't very productive. And just makes one look insecure. Right?

[Anonymous]

I am never bored— always plenty to get done or do for fun. But I do get lonely a lot. (kids are 8 & 3. 3 yo is with me all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't feel comfortable knowing that my life is made entirely possible by someone else's largesse. I've always felt this way, even as a child when I realized some moms don't work outside the home. It's an uncomfortable feeling.

It is interesting to read your post.

I have never felt like that at all. I feel that HHI is for the entire family and as an important part of my family, I have not worried about who is financing whom. If my paycheck was as large as my DH, he would probably made a better SAH parent. Of course, as an adult, if my family needs my paycheck I will provide that too, and I guess the same applies if I did not have a family or funds and had to financially support myself. Since my family needs me at home and we do not need my paycheck, I am absolutely fine staying at home. I cannot even imagine feeling as a child that I was living on the largesse of my parents.

My DH works because he likes what he does and he likes his job. My staying at home makes his life easier too and he is thankful for that.

[Anonymous]

I love being a stay at home mom. It is the best feeling in the world for me. I also do not care what others think of my choices so there is that.