I feel like having a baby ruined my marriage

[Anonymous]

Babies are hard work, and those posters who were brought so close together might simply have had easier babies. When your kid doesn't sleep through the night for a year or more, your world can turn upside down and seem really dark. And it's not like you can have date nights to reconnect when you're that tired.

I remember writing a post like this on DCUM when my son was very little. People who responded were so kind! But I was sure my life was over.

He's 7 now. Crazy to think it's been that long. But we are a happy little family today, and my son and husband mean everything to me. Hang in there. Babies aren't babies forever even though it can feel like it.

In general, men are not prone to seek counseling or admit weakness. Just do your part and work on you. If he's like my husband, he'll follow your lead and improve when you improve.

[Anonymous]

"Be nice to each other" and "have sex" will not work when one or both partners are clinically depressed.
People often do not recognize depression/anxiety for what it is. It can manifest as extreme irritability.
You know what worked for me? Medication and counseling