Sex life with DH just not that good

[Anonymous]

I thought DCUM was the place for people with perfect lives to vent about dumb shit. Since when did all you affluent elites stop having Disney fairy tale lives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?


NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

That sound promising. I know it generally takes me on the longer side, so maybe I will ask DH to think about something else so he doesn't get too excited too quickly. Looking forward to trying it.

I'm the DH who suggested the vibe. Typically, I'll go slow and deep while she uses a rabbit mini vibe. She'll have hard shakey O's every time. Give it a try!

I just wanted to give a thumbs up to your approach and say that your wife is a lucky lady!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?


NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

That sound promising. I know it generally takes me on the longer side, so maybe I will ask DH to think about something else so he doesn't get too excited too quickly. Looking forward to trying it.

I'm the DH who suggested the vibe. Typically, I'll go slow and deep while she uses a rabbit mini vibe. She'll have hard shakey O's every time. Give it a try!

I just wanted to give a thumbs up to your approach and say that your wife is a lucky lady!

+1

[Anonymous]

Mine is dull and seemingly unteachable. Sex is not creative. Suspect years of porn deadened his connection. Porny sex is fine, can be fun even, but not noticing or learning your partner is not.

[Anonymous]

My sex life with DH is pretty good but I've never been comfortable being very explicit about what I like, don't like and why. It's crazy given we've been married a long time and we have a very good relationship. I was a virgin until I was 23 and I've never been one to talk about sex with anyone including my GF's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?


NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

That sound promising. I know it generally takes me on the longer side, so maybe I will ask DH to think about something else so he doesn't get too excited too quickly. Looking forward to trying it.

I'm the DH who suggested the vibe. Typically, I'll go slow and deep while she uses a rabbit mini vibe. She'll have hard shakey O's every time. Give it a try!

I just wanted to give a thumbs up to your approach and say that your wife is a lucky lady!

+1

Thanks! Its a lot of fun for the guy too because even though she's using they toy I have control over the intensity. I'm on the large side (humble brag - sorry) and when I go all the way in it pushes the vibe against her. If I pause at the bottom and hold against her she feels the fullness plus the intensified feel from the vibe. You can see it works from her reactions - blinking real big, clinching the sheets in her fist, grimacing, etc. If I want to finish her I only have to do the pause thing a few times before shes On a teip that she can't stop. Its been a great aid for us and I hope the OP gives it a try. Our toy was only like $19 and very worth it. The connection that people feel towards each other after a good session is priceless.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for being honest and expressing your feelings. Reading your post made me think about my husband and how often I focused on the negative and hardly ever thought about the positive. My husband and I have been married for 14 years with three kids but we are now separated. Our sex life was always great, I had no complaints at all. I miss being intimate with him on a level that is more than just physical but spiritual, emotional, etc. The fact that you have a husband who bought a book to try to improve his technique says a lot. My husband had an affair and even though I am not responsible for his actions, I know I did not respect him, show him appreciation for the things he did, or value him. How lucky you are if this is the only area in your marriage that you are having trouble in. The fact that he still wants to have sex with you is great. Try to compliment him on the things he does well. I’ve read it somewhere to treat your spouse the way you want to be treated and often it is reciprocated (this will take time). I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a fulfilling sex life, I’m saying to be patient, loving, and understanding with him. There may be things in his past or things about himself that he doesn’t feel comfortable telling you.

[Anonymous]

Here's a fun tip from me. You know The Man in the Canoe? Well he is wearing a hoodie. If you take two fingers on either side of The Man in the Canoe and pull back the hoodie....you will be very happy.

Sorry hope that is clear without bring explicit.
- Bi chick who has and can give multiple Orgasms via oral

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sex life with DH is pretty good but I've never been comfortable being very explicit about what I like, don't like and why. It's crazy given we've been married a long time and we have a very good relationship. I was a virgin until I was 23 and I've never been one to talk about sex with anyone including my GF's.

Have you tried to change that? Get more comfortable with sex, learn more about it (more than just practice w/ your DH)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that I orgasm easier from oral in the 69 position. It gets me out of my head. (This will only work if your DH isn't quick to orgasm himself.)

This is my absolute fave!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a fun tip from me. You know The Man in the Canoe? Well he is wearing a hoodie. If you take two fingers on either side of The Man in the Canoe and pull back the hoodie....you will be very happy.

Sorry hope that is clear without bring explicit.
- Bi chick who has and can give multiple Orgasms via oral

uhhhhh... I think so? Not op.

[Anonymous]

OP I don't orgasm from oral or penetration with DH and he's a little more vanilla. But between vibe and fingers I orgasm every time. I suggest a powerful bullet vibe, small enough to use while he is inside. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

My DW is the starfish queen. Since I am always on top I can finish but the sex is boooring. Can we swap spouses OP?