Sex life with DH just not that good

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Add a vibe to your sessions. For instance, if him going downtown doesn't get you all the way there, you can use a vibe during doggy. Win-Win!

I should mention that my wife and I have been doing this for years and it NEVER fails. Plus, it takes the pressure off of both of us to perform.

Are you my DH? Another DW here and this is also what we do.

Hmm. Let's see. Did we do it last night? Did we do it Sunday night? And if so, was it before or after Game of Thrones?

Nope, not mine. We got ours fri and sat and he's away this week.

OP: get the hitachi magic wand. It won't disappoint.

Ok, so you're not my DW. We have an HMW also but guess what? She refuses to try it. I think she'd love it if she gave it a shot.

[Anonymous]

For instance, if him going downtown doesn't get you all the way there, you can use a vibe during doggy.

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Add a vibe to your sessions. For instance, if him going downtown doesn't get you all the way there, you can use a vibe during doggy. Win-Win!

I should mention that my wife and I have been doing this for years and it NEVER fails. Plus, it takes the pressure off of both of us to perform.

Are you my DH? Another DW here and this is also what we do.

Hmm. Let's see. Did we do it last night? Did we do it Sunday night? And if so, was it before or after Game of Thrones?

Nope, not mine. We got ours fri and sat and he's away this week.

OP: get the hitachi magic wand. It won't disappoint.

Ok, so you're not my DW. We have an HMW also but guess what? She refuses to try it. I think she'd love it if she gave it a shot.

She's really missing out! It's practically instantaneous. If she ever gets up the nerve, I suggest low setting and using a shirt or small towel as a buffer to avoid direct contact. It is seriously powerful.

[Anonymous]

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For instance, if him going downtown doesn't get you all the way there, you can use a vibe during doggy.

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?

NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

[Anonymous]

I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?


NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

That sound promising. I know it generally takes me on the longer side, so maybe I will ask DH to think about something else so he doesn't get too excited too quickly. Looking forward to trying it.

[Anonymous]

It really does not matter if a man is small or lacks stamina and it does not matter if a woman cannot orgasm by PIV or even orally. If both agree to bring in sex toys in the relationship, encourage masturbation and have open communication, sex will become phenomenal.

[Roar]

So some tips for DH during Doggie... Tell him to grab your hips and pull you towards him, not push towards you. Feels exactly the same for you, but he's not rushing all his blood to his core. Also, avoid all both lying flat positions before he's behind you. Instead cowgirl/RVCG where you can control the pace and keep with the perpendicular positions. Also, little by little, inch by inch will prolong any session with a methodical pace. He'll get the idea!

[Anonymous]

OP try the new Eva vibrator from Dame - it's rechargeable and hands-free. Super effective and easy to use, better than the hand held vibes during intercourse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sounds incredibly selfish in bed.

Buy yourself a present. A big vibrating dong. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Roar wrote:So some tips for DH during DogTe... Tell him to grab your hips and pull you towards him, not push towards you. Feels exactly the same for you, but he's not rushing all his blood to his core. Also, avoid all both lying flat positions before he's behind you. Instead cowgirl/RVCG where you can control the pace and keep with the perpendicular positions. Also, little by little, inch by inch will prolong any session with a methodical pace. He'll get the idea!

Huh? Stupid man.

[Anonymous]

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I'd be interested in trying that. Does the man just try to hold out until the woman is done/ready if it takes her longer?


NP. Honestly for us, I have so many orgasms so quickly when we do this that it doesn't matter how long or short he takes.

That sound promising. I know it generally takes me on the longer side, so maybe I will ask DH to think about something else so he doesn't get too excited too quickly. Looking forward to trying it.

I'm the DH who suggested the vibe. Typically, I'll go slow and deep while she uses a rabbit mini vibe. She'll have hard shakey O's every time. Give it a try!

[Anonymous]

I find that I orgasm easier from oral in the 69 position. It gets me out of my head. (This will only work if your DH isn't quick to orgasm himself.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that I orgasm easier from oral in the 69 position. It gets me out of my head. (This will only work if your DH isn't quick to orgasm himself.)

So what if he does? You just keep lying on top of him until he finishes you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him exactly what you want. Why would you have him buy a book?

If that's the book I'm thinking of, it was very informative! Told me a lot of things I didn't know. I highly doubt that DW would ever have told me to do the things in the book -- but she liked them when I tried them!

what book is that?

Just a guess, but "She Comes First."
https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I apologize if this belongs in explicit, but I don't intend to get to graphic. I've been married for 14 years and have 2 kids in elementary school. DH is a good father, and a reasonably good husband - not the most romantic guy, and sometimes inconsiderate, but mostly good - helps around the house, can be a bit abrupt at times, but by no stretch is he mean or abusive. Our sex life together has never been that great. It's hard for him to make me orgasm through oral, and that's the only way I could ever do it with anyone. Sex is rather quick and just not that satisfying. It was never great, but it is starting to bother me more than it used to. I feel like I deserve to enjoy having sex and am afraid I never will again. I don't think it is anything about DH's looks that is turning me off - he's gained a bit of weight, but nothing terrible, works out, keeps clean, nice hair. I wish he would be more romantic and pay more attention to me outside of sex, but there's really nothing terribly wrong about his personality either. I'm not sure what to do - I want to like sleeping with him, and I don't want to find anyone else. I told him this is bothering me, and he brought a book about how to perform oral sex, but it didn't help him. What can I do to help fix this (and please do not say have an affair or find someone else, because I don't want to)?

I don't think this is about sex at all. DH is a "reasonably good husband" "Not the most romantic" "sometimes inconsiderate" .... "I wish he'd be more romantic and pay more attention to me outside of sex"

So ... I think you need to work on your relationship before you work on the sex.