Intimacy question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

I agree - my wife would stare at me and then check my pulse. After foreplay I will often ask "is there anything special you'd like to do" and she almost always sticks with the basics. I'm not complaining because the basics are darn good but variety is the spice of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

I agree - my wife would stare at me and then check my pulse. After foreplay I will often ask "is there anything special you'd like to do" and she almost always sticks with the basics. I'm not complaining because the basics are darn good but variety is the spice of life.

Ha ha. I see this could be me. I like the basics, and would probably choose those, but maybe should spice it up. What sort of variety (or special) are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

DW here. I'm uncomfortable just reading the quote above. This would pretty much be the biggest turn-off ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

I agree - my wife would stare at me and then check my pulse. After foreplay I will often ask "is there anything special you'd like to do" and she almost always sticks with the basics. I'm not complaining because the basics are darn good but variety is the spice of life.

Ha ha. I see this could be me. I like the basics, and would probably choose those, but maybe should spice it up. What sort of variety (or special) are you looking for?

She does not like to receive oral, but enjoys giving it so I can't complain. It would be fun to try some out of the ordinary and out of bed positions. How about you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

I agree - my wife would stare at me and then check my pulse. After foreplay I will often ask "is there anything special you'd like to do" and she almost always sticks with the basics. I'm not complaining because the basics are darn good but variety is the spice of life.

Ha ha. I see this could be me. I like the basics, and would probably choose those, but maybe should spice it up. What sort of variety (or special) are you looking for?

She does not like to receive oral, but enjoys giving it so I can't complain. It would be fun to try some out of the ordinary and out of bed positions. How about you?

Who are these unicorn women who LOOOVE giving oral and, yet, don't enjoy receiving? Do you men who have this type of woman actually have the ability to pleasure her in this way?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the linked article:

"Do research live on her with a night set aside for learning. Tell her you want nothing in return that night—only to learn how to please her."

I don't know about other folks, but if I told my wife, "I want to set a night aside for learning about what touches you like. I don't want anything in return. I only want to learn how to please you." -- she'd laugh at me and find the situation so awkward she probably wouldn't let me touch her for a month.

I agree - my wife would stare at me and then check my pulse. After foreplay I will often ask "is there anything special you'd like to do" and she almost always sticks with the basics. I'm not complaining because the basics are darn good but variety is the spice of life.

Ha ha. I see this could be me. I like the basics, and would probably choose those, but maybe should spice it up. What sort of variety (or special) are you looking for?

She does not like to receive oral, but enjoys giving it so I can't complain. It would be fun to try some out of the ordinary and out of bed positions. How about you?

Who are these unicorn women who LOOOVE giving oral and, yet, don't enjoy receiving? Do you men who have this type of woman actually have the ability to pleasure her in this way?

A lot of men are bad at oral. I didn't like it either until I met my husband.

[Anonymous]

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Who are these unicorn women who LOOOVE giving oral and, yet, don't enjoy receiving? Do you men who have this type of woman actually have the ability to pleasure her in this way?

I don't think it's that uncommon. I've had LTRs with three different women who gave me more oral than anyone else I've been with and yet all three of them refused to receive. But that was a problem because I really enjoy giving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would be interested if other DW feel that way. Or is my wife the Lone Ranger. Is eye contact that important? I think some is body esteem issues, even though I think she looks great. She's just not very adventurous or outgoing after dark, even though her drive is higher than mine. We always follow the same script, which is probably my main question. Do others have the problem of always following the same script?

DW here. I prefer less eye contact and soft touch. I like it harder and more like "sex" than "making love", the latter of which I get little out of. My DH on the other hand seems to prefer that. Can't win I guess!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Who are these unicorn women who LOOOVE giving oral and, yet, don't enjoy receiving? Do you men who have this type of woman actually have the ability to pleasure her in this way?

I don't think it's that uncommon. I've had LTRs with three different women who gave me more oral than anyone else I've been with and yet all three of them refused to receive. But that was a problem because I really enjoy giving.

It must be what pp said, some men just aren't good at it. Not saying you aren't, but maybe these women don't have it in them to try and be disappointed once again. I suppose I have been very lucky, so much so, that I assumed it is impossible to be bad at it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DW enjoys sex, almost always has an O from PIV, but like OPs wife is a little vanilla.
The other day she did a few things that surprised me and the sex was amazing. So the following day I said I really enjoyed last night. She said she did too, but wished I would love her for who she is... this just left me confused

Did she really enjoy it or just enjoy pleasing you. Different things.

This. And are his sure she's having an orgasm almost every time from PIV?

Yeah. I was over that one...

Trust me if she doesn't orgasm she gets mad. So I make it a point to not get myself to caught up in my own enjoyment until she has one.

[Anonymous]

who are all these men who think women o from piv??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who are all these men who think women o from piv??

Honey don't project your issues on all of us. From that alone? rarely. But add a few things before or during and of course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:who are all these men who think women o from piv??

Honey don't project your issues on all of us. From that alone? rarely. But add a few things before or during and of course.

okay, I'm obviously talking about that alone though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:who are all these men who think women o from piv??

Honey don't project your issues on all of us. From that alone? rarely. But add a few things before or during and of course.

okay, I'm obviously talking about that alone though.

+1 I have never had an o from piv. Of course, I get mine first or it's not happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would be interested if other DW feel that way. Or is my wife the Lone Ranger. Is eye contact that important? I think some is body esteem issues, even though I think she looks great. She's just not very adventurous or outgoing after dark, even though her drive is higher than mine. We always follow the same script, which is probably my main question. Do others have the problem of always following the same script?

DW here. I prefer less eye contact and soft touch. I like it harder and more like "sex" than "making love", the latter of which I get little out of. My DH on the other hand seems to prefer that. Can't win I guess!

My DW hates making love, only likes it hard. She says making love is creepy so you aren't alone.