To a Jewish woman would you be offended?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many Jewish husbands and and agree they do make great husbands and dads. Really outgoing and fun, always up to doing things. BUT do believe that many Jews believe in supporting other Jews, they feel they are dying and need to preserve and keep pure their race. A good Jewish friend whose parents are this way explained it to me, she rebelled against it and married a wonderful Irish guy ad their kids are being raised Catholic to her parents horror.

Religion often sucks because it tears people apart.

Jewish people wrongly insist that their gentile spouses convert to Judais

AND Jewish people want to "keep pure their race".

SMH

[Anonymous]

I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you".

Not everyone is so attached to the religion they were raised with. millons of Americans are "unchurched". Converting is not necessarily a spiritual crisis for the.


Sorry that is not love.

Whatever. Different people have different conditions on getting married. Some insist on children or on wanting to live in the same city.


And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better?


Its not better. People who want their spouse to be Jewish do not expect the people who are not their spouse to become Jewish.

I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.



Possibly because being Jewish is about peoplehood, not strictly a "religion" in the Christian sense. Also because so much of the Jewish religion is centered on home and family.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing

Oy vey iz mir

I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much.

I don't think anyone could express regret that you did thast.

Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

Clearly, no one else has been divorced and left with young children for other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does "typical" Jewish woman mean? Big nose? Close set eyes? Dark hair? It's a very offensive, antisemitic comment.

You know what it means. Don't feign.

If someone said this to me - I'm Jewish - I would think *they* are socially awkward. I might or might not go on the date. I was going to say that it depends on how self-loathing I happened to be feeling, but really who knows what the law partner himself actually thinks. If I were single and looking, and not totally demoralized yet by the horrors of dating, I might go just for the hell of it.

[Anonymous]

That was a dumb thing to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

I beg to differ I think except for the most idiotic clueless bimbo, wanting or expecting someone to assume another religion therefore dishonoromg what her parents gave her iis a HUGE deal- why is it we only hear mostly of this happening with the Jewish faith? Can a Jewish reader shed some light on this? I am really curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

I beg to differ I think except for the most idiotic clueless bimbo, wanting or expecting someone to assume another religion therefore dishonoromg what her parents gave her iis a HUGE deal- why is it we only hear mostly of this happening with the Jewish faith? Can a Jewish reader shed some light on this? I am really curious.

I absolutely have Baptist friends who would only marry a Baptist, Catholic friends who would only marry a Catholic, Lutheran friends who would only marry a Lutheran. How is this any different?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

I disagree, as someone who has friends from many different faiths there is no doubt many more instances of this happening within the Jewish faith .

I beg to differ I think except for the most idiotic clueless bimbo, wanting or expecting someone to assume another religion therefore dishonoromg what her parents gave her iis a HUGE deal- why is it we only hear mostly of this happening with the Jewish faith? Can a Jewish reader shed some light on this? I am really curious.

I absolutely have Baptist friends who would only marry a Baptist, Catholic friends who would only marry a Catholic, Lutheran friends who would only marry a Lutheran. How is this any different?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

I disagree, as someone who has friends from many different faiths there is no doubt many more instances of this happening within the Jewish faith .

I beg to differ I think except for the most idiotic clueless bimbo, wanting or expecting someone to assume another religion therefore dishonoromg what her parents gave her iis a HUGE deal- why is it we only hear mostly of this happening with the Jewish faith? Can a Jewish reader shed some light on this? I am really curious.

I absolutely have Baptist friends who would only marry a Baptist, Catholic friends who would only marry a Catholic, Lutheran friends who would only marry a Lutheran. How is this any different?

Your quote placement is messed up, but I found your reply. I'm a Jewish woman who's married to a non-Jew. We're raising our family Jewish, but we participate in all of DH's family traditions. I know many families like mine, mostly Reform, Reconstructionist, and Seculat/Humanist.

However, many Jews feel the need to marry other Jews because so many of us died in the Holocaust (among other historical attempts to get rid of us). There's a history of persecution and "we" want to make sure "we" survive another few generations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the one thing I could never ever understand is how could a woman convert? I mean I think about myself being born and raised a Protestant my whole life, and suddenly someone expects you to change and wipe that off the map because he purports to "love you". Sorry that is not love. And what makes his religion of Judaism so much better? I cite this because this scenario seems to be the most common one in which a husband expects his wife to convert. You rarely hear this about other religions.

And then to convert to a religion so steeped in wrong doing as they have done with the Palestinians, and a religion widely disliked, why would I want to bring a kid into that?

And I say this not only about Judaism but ANY religion, no man is worth converting for and I would run far far away if anyone asked me for as much. Only know one person who did this and lived to very much regret it, left with 3 young kids to raise.

I mean, just a suggestion - but you probably shouldn't marry one of these guys who wants a shiksa willing to convert if this is how you feel. I think for many people, it's not such a big deal.

I disagree, as someone who has friends from many different faiths there is no doubt many more instances of this happening within the Jewish faith .

I beg to differ I think except for the most idiotic clueless bimbo, wanting or expecting someone to assume another religion therefore dishonoromg what her parents gave her iis a HUGE deal- why is it we only hear mostly of this happening with the Jewish faith? Can a Jewish reader shed some light on this? I am really curious.

I absolutely have Baptist friends who would only marry a Baptist, Catholic friends who would only marry a Catholic, Lutheran friends who would only marry a Lutheran. How is this any different?

Your quote placement is messed up, but I found your reply. I'm a Jewish woman who's married to a non-Jew. We're raising our family Jewish, but we participate in all of DH's family traditions. I know many families like mine, mostly Reform, Reconstructionist, and Seculat/Humanist.

However, many Jews feel the need to marry other Jews because so many of us died in the Holocaust (among other historical attempts to get rid of us). There's a history of persecution and "we" want to make sure "we" survive another few generations.

Thank you for this explanation, I suspected as much and it seems perfectly reasonable. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just let the lady remain single.
Not a lot of good jewish men around. A lot are jerks

Jewish men make the best husbands. My mother used to say that. And no, having Jewish heritage I would not be offended. Jews are like that - kvetchy.

Don't stereotype.

reading this makes me think there are more happy single people than married people

[Anonymous]

Catholics only want their children to marry Catholics or at least bring their children up as Catholics if they marry out. Other religions are the same way. Don't say this is exclusive to Jews. This attitude/practice is pervasive among many religions and cultures. I love how people want to put Jews down for wanting to carry on their religion when this happens across the board. Hell, some Muslims murder people for not being Muslim. That's worse than wanting to marry someone from your own religion. I really don't see a problem with wanting to marry within your own faith.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Catholics only want their children to marry Catholics or at least bring their children up as Catholics if they marry out. Other religions are the same way. Don't say this is exclusive to Jews. This attitude/practice is pervasive among many religions and cultures. I love how people want to put Jews down for wanting to carry on their religion when this happens across the board. Hell, some Muslims murder people for not being Muslim. That's worse than wanting to marry someone from your own religion. I really don't see a problem with wanting to marry within your own faith.

Bull on the Catholic thing- raised and grew up in a Catholic community that is simply untrue. For every Catholic who pressures a non Catholic fiancé to convert rest assured there are 30 Jewish people in that same scenario- where have you been???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does "typical" Jewish woman mean? Big nose? Close set eyes? Dark hair? It's a very offensive, antisemitic comment.

You know what it means. Don't feign.

If someone said this to me - I'm Jewish - I would think *they* are socially awkward. I might or might not go on the date. I was going to say that it depends on how self-loathing I happened to be feeling, but really who knows what the law partner himself actually thinks. If I were single and looking, and not totally demoralized yet by the horrors of dating, I might go just for the hell of it.

Not feigning. I just listed several stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

Easy option: stay single
do not think that every single woman is somehow unhappy about being single. Many are content with their lives