To a Jewish woman would you be offended?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

[Anonymous]

Eh.... as a Jew I find this kind of thing par for the course. It's inappropriate but I would know it wasn't badly meant, just stupidly put

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was fine until right here... "even though he said he is not attracted to a typical looking Jewish woman I think he might like you"

Yup. Awkward, but I think kindly meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh.... as a Jew I find this kind of thing par for the course. It's inappropriate but I would know it wasn't badly meant, just stupidly put

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

We subscribe to weekly alerts on our phones so we will remember to broadcast to all of our friends and acquaintances the need to marry Jewish. Most Jews do it on Sunday's, although the orthodox usually prefer to get it in right before the Shabbas.

Being Jewish is so much easier with the advent of smartphones!

[Anonymous]

slightly awkward but not terrible, imo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

We subscribe to weekly alerts on our phones so we will remember to broadcast to all of our friends and acquaintances the need to marry Jewish. Most Jews do it on Sunday's, although the orthodox usually prefer to get it in right before the Shabbas.

Being Jewish is so much easier with the advent of smartphones!

Lol. And when you become a Jewish grandmother, the alerts go from weekly to daily!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eh.... as a Jew I find this kind of thing par for the course. It's inappropriate but I would know it wasn't badly meant, just stupidly put

+1

+2 and I'm not even stereotypically Jewish looking. (People always say "wait, you're Jewish!?") People say stupid stuff, but if it's kindly meant, that's the main thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

A large percentage of us do marry outside the faith, but are heavily encouraged by our families, even if they are not religious to marry someone inside the faith. Growing up all I heard was to marry Jewish. I didn't and my grandparents and parents love my husband but prior to marriage they would have preferred someone Jewish.

[Anonymous]

Unless it was my bff and we had previously had in depth discussions about looks and jewishness and everything else, I think it's a highly inappropriate thing to say.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh.... as a Jew I find this kind of thing par for the course. It's inappropriate but I would know it wasn't badly meant, just stupidly put

+1

+2 and I'm not even stereotypically Jewish looking. (People always say "wait, you're Jewish!?") People say stupid stuff, but if it's kindly meant, that's the main thing.

? Isn't that f'ed up? Why wouldn't it be kind to say you look Jewish?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh.... as a Jew I find this kind of thing par for the course. It's inappropriate but I would know it wasn't badly meant, just stupidly put

+1

+2 and I'm not even stereotypically Jewish looking. (People always say "wait, you're Jewish!?") People say stupid stuff, but if it's kindly meant, that's the main thing.

? Isn't that f'ed up? Why wouldn't it be kind to say you look Jewish?

Well, maybe it's neutral rather than unkind, but often people saying "oh you don't look Jewish" mean "oh you don't have a huge nose" or some other unflattering thing - frizzy dark hair, etc. It's also just ignorant because although, as a Jew, I admit that there is a Jewish "look" that some Jews have, Jews really do come in all shapes and sizes. I'm a blonde haired, blue eyed Jew - i'm often asked if I'm Russian, actually, so there's always a stereotype somewhere. (My grandparents did come from Russia (and Poland) but of course in those countries would not have been considered ethnically Russian, but Jewish.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing that is somewhat irksome (but not totally) is the assumption that because the law partner is Jewish and the woman in question is Jewish they should be set up. That's such a flimsy basis for matchmaking.

Really? Every Jewish friend I have had told me on a weekly basis how they needed to marry someone Jewish. I dated a Jewish guy for four years and he and his parents told me on a weekly basis how we could only get married if I would convert. I did not.

Well, your Jewish friends are atypical because a very large percentage of us do marry outside the faith.

No. You marry outside the tribe, but you've long since lost the faith.

[Anonymous]

If whatevwr was said came from him, no offense unless you are looking to be offended. Whoever made the nose comment, that's not at all how I read her repeating his comment.

I take it to mean he is looking for a simpler plainer woman rather than a sophisticated dresser. Some men just want a casual jeans and T shirt woman. Mayne he is from an extended family of expensive sophisticated dressers. That's how I took it! I interpret looks as clothes and makeup, not physical features.
OP, I would choose to not be offended. So many here look for reasons to be offended. Do the right thing and don't look for that, and if there's a little ignorance out there, forgive and educate them. These are your friends and they care about you and your feelings. Just let them know if they have said something hurtful. I am sure you would get a quick loving apology. No big deal.