Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

Backpedal, rewrite, deflect, backpedal some more...

Or...just read my post where I said EXACTLY that.

"I don't want to spend my free time helping her out."

That's right, I don't. If you had bothered to read further you will also see why I timed her and it was not to "get her in trouble". I have my own family to take care of. I'm interested in the welfare of the kid, not interested in becoming part of her village, nor is it realistic. I guess the question, since I have to spell it out for dense and obsessive people like yourself is GOING FORWARD should I raise it with her/the center. Since, as previously noted, I cannot time my entire life to meet her at daycare and stand by her car.

You never know, she may have already coordinated with another mom to watch the baby. "You sit in your car and watch while I dash in and I'll do the same for you".

On a side note, after I started to leave my youngest at home (with another adult) while I ran to get my oldest, I had a small group of women inside the preschool stop me one day and involve me in a conversation. There was something a little contrived about the conversation and I remember wondering what on earth had prompted it.....then it dawned on me. They thought I was leaving my youngest out in the car and they had involved me in a lengthy conversation while another mom or staff member went out to check/confirm that my youngest was in the car. Nice.

Of course, that was not the case because my youngest was not in the car. But, yeah, there are people who are chomping at the bit to report these sorts of things. Most preschools/day care centers have rules about not leaving sleeping kids in cars during drop off/pick up. If so, then a reminder to the parents not to leave kids in their cars during drop off/pick up is really all that is needed.

You sound paranoid.

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I'd tell the daycare center. I'm sure THEY could be liable if something happened. Ours have always had a sign that says 'No Kids In Cars' or something to that effect — she is not the first parent to think it would be convenient to leave a child in the car.

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OP, I thought of this while reading your thread:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6Bu96ALOw

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

Backpedal, rewrite, deflect, backpedal some more...

Or...just read my post where I said EXACTLY that.

"I don't want to spend my free time helping her out."

That's right, I don't. If you had bothered to read further you will also see why I timed her and it was not to "get her in trouble". I have my own family to take care of. I'm interested in the welfare of the kid, not interested in becoming part of her village, nor is it realistic. I guess the question, since I have to spell it out for dense and obsessive people like yourself is GOING FORWARD should I raise it with her/the center. Since, as previously noted, I cannot time my entire life to meet her at daycare and stand by her car.

You never know, she may have already coordinated with another mom to watch the baby. "You sit in your car and watch while I dash in and I'll do the same for you".

On a side note, after I started to leave my youngest at home (with another adult) while I ran to get my oldest, I had a small group of women inside the preschool stop me one day and involve me in a conversation. There was something a little contrived about the conversation and I remember wondering what on earth had prompted it.....then it dawned on me. They thought I was leaving my youngest out in the car and they had involved me in a lengthy conversation while another mom or staff member went out to check/confirm that my youngest was in the car. Nice.

Of course, that was not the case because my youngest was not in the car. But, yeah, there are people who are chomping at the bit to report these sorts of things. Most preschools/day care centers have rules about not leaving sleeping kids in cars during drop off/pick up. If so, then a reminder to the parents not to leave kids in their cars during drop off/pick up is really all that is needed.

You sound paranoid.

Maybe. I can see how it might sound like paranoia. All I can say is that you know when something is up...plus the center put out a stern reminder to parents not to leave their kids in vehicles shortly after that experience so I do think that they were out to bust people.

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I'm not a car jacker, but if I ever did get into that line of work, I'd target locked Honda Odysseys with sleeping babies inside. Such a cherry ride.

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Oh FFS. Leave her alone. Busybody.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd tell the daycare center. I'm sure THEY could be liable if something happened. Ours have always had a sign that says 'No Kids In Cars' or something to that effect — she is not the first parent to think it would be convenient to leave a child in the car.

Yes it is 100% foreseeable that a parent is going to do this at some point so daycares/preschools should have clearly stated rules against leaving kids in cars.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS. Leave her alone. Busybody.

+1

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Lots of haters on this thread!

But OP, mind your own business. The child was not in harms way. Maybe the parent is doing something different than you would...THAT'S OKAY.

You don't know what drove the mom to leave her baby in the car that day. You have no idea what is going on with her, the baby, her kid in daycare. Therefore you do not have the whole picture and should not involve yourself.

Leaving a child in the car isn't as dangerous as people (the news, online forums, sanctimommies) make it out to be. I wouldn't leave car running or the keys in the car....but that's me.

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Op I don't necessarily think you are trying to get her into trouble but this is something you should let go. I wouldn't let my kid sit like this woman but it's only because I am afraid of other moms doing exactly what you are doing, not because someone might carjack me.

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Anonymous wrote:Op I don't necessarily think you are trying to get her into trouble but this is something you should let go. I wouldn't let my kid sit like this woman but it's only because I am afraid of other moms doing exactly what you are doing, not because someone might carjack me.

People don't understand statistics. They're worried about the unlikely event of "carjacking" in a daycare parking lot, when they should be worried about completely ruining another person's life.

http://www.salon.com/2014/06/03/the_day_i_left_my_son_in_the_car/

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Anonymous wrote:Op I don't necessarily think you are trying to get her into trouble but this is something you should let go. I wouldn't let my kid sit like this woman but it's only because I am afraid of other moms doing exactly what you are doing, not because someone might carjack me.

Exactly! I'm more afraid of other moms calling the cops and then me having to deal with CPS than having my car and child stolen. I'm dead serious about that. What does that say about our society?!

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OP, you clearly found issue w/this woman's actions so much so that you timed how long she left her baby in the car. My question to you is why you then had to crowdsource your next course of action on DCUM? What was this part of the process going to accomplish? Just do what you think is proper: be it telling the police or the daycare or just talking to the mom.

Otherwise, your inability to come up with a clear solution to the problem is no different than the woman you are concerned with's inability to find a way to pick up her kid from daycare without leaving her baby in the car.

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Anonymous wrote:Op I don't necessarily think you are trying to get her into trouble but this is something you should let go. I wouldn't let my kid sit like this woman but it's only because I am afraid of other moms doing exactly what you are doing, not because someone might carjack me.

People don't understand statistics. They're worried about the unlikely event of "carjacking" in a daycare parking lot, when they should be worried about completely ruining another person's life.

http://www.salon.com/2014/06/03/the_day_i_left_my_son_in_the_car/

Scary as hell.

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As the director of a childcare center, I'm not sure I can do anything about it. It's a decision the praent is making, outside the childcare center. If the child who attended the center shows up with bruises, I'm a mandated reporter. If the child doesn't show up with food day in and day out, I'm a mandated reporter.

But if a child who isn't enrolled in my center is doing something outside the center that I can't see or have proof of, then what can Ii do? I guess if I were told this I'd have to speak with a police officer or someone to see what I could do.

Because speaking with the parent saying "you know that's really not safe" isn't going to change her - she knows it's not 100% safe but is playing the odds.

But I sure wouldn't like what was happening!