What age is it OK to not invite both twins to a party?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since several parents of twins posted that there is no need to invite both twins solely because they are twins, I think they have the last word. We followed that advice recently for my 10 year old. Invited both boy twins from one family because my kid was friends with both. For a different set of twins, invited boy twin from class, but not girl twin because she was in a different class and didn’t hang out with my kid. I checked with the mom before, and she assured me that her daughter wouldn’t have wanted to go, so no need to invite. I agree with the parent of twins who said her kids know when it’s an invite out of obligation.

Did the parent of the twin not being invited post here? No? Then I guess the anecdata does not matter.

I’m pretty sure parents of twins have enough to keep them busy without fretting that one of their twins wasn’t invited to a birthday party. Twins aren’t clones, they shouldn’t be treated as such.

[Anonymous]

Just always be inclusive. I doubt you'll regret it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You always invite both.

Why? Are twins some sort of package deal, as opposed to just general siblings?

Apparently. I didn’t invite the one twin that was not in class with mine and the mom called me to ask about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You always invite both.

Why? Are twins some sort of package deal, as opposed to just general siblings?

Apparently. I didn’t invite the one twin that was not in class with mine and the mom called me to ask about it.

Does your kid hang out with the other twin? Know the other twin even if they’re in different classes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since several parents of twins posted that there is no need to invite both twins solely because they are twins, I think they have the last word. We followed that advice recently for my 10 year old. Invited both boy twins from one family because my kid was friends with both. For a different set of twins, invited boy twin from class, but not girl twin because she was in a different class and didn’t hang out with my kid. I checked with the mom before, and she assured me that her daughter wouldn’t have wanted to go, so no need to invite. I agree with the parent of twins who said her kids know when it’s an invite out of obligation.

Did the parent of the twin not being invited post here? No? Then I guess the anecdata does not matter.

Oh, so you have a randomized controlled trial or a systematic review of cohort studies of twins and their parents’ expectations of being invited to parties as a package deal? Great, please post a link. If not, then all we have are anecdotes. Thanks to the parents of twins who have posted here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have twins this age. Invite only the one your child is friends with. If the family is like any other multiples family I know, they won't think anything of it and would rather the other twin not receive a token invite to a party where he/she isn't really wanted. Especially if they're not all in the same class, it'll be pretty obvious.

They ARE in the same class… OP should invite both.

No, they're not in the same class, but it's moot because this damn party happened 7 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Mom of twins here, I strongly believe in them having separate identities and friend groups. Unless a kid is genuinely friends with both my kids, I absolutely do not expect both to be invited to a party. They're in 3rd grade and regularly have parties where only one is invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg it's one kid! Why are people so cheap about birthday parties!

You missed the point.