What age is it OK to not invite both twins to a party?

[Anonymous]

DD is turning 8 (2nd grade) and we are planning a party with about 10 kids. She's been in school for the last 3 years with a set of twins, one of whom she gets along with much better than the other. The girls invited will be a mix from her current class (which includes the preferred twin) and friends from her aftercare program. Do we still need to invite the other twin to avoid hurt feelings? Haven't discussed the guest list with DD but I know her first reaction will be to invite only one. Is 7/8 too young to exclude when twins are involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 8 (2nd grade) and we are planning a party with about 10 kids. She's been in school for the last 3 years with a set of twins, one of whom she gets along with much better than the other. The girls invited will be a mix from her current class (which includes the preferred twin) and friends from her aftercare program. Do we still need to invite the other twin to avoid hurt feelings? Haven't discussed the guest list with DD but I know her first reaction will be to invite only one. Is 7/8 too young to exclude when twins are involved?

I'd invite both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 8 (2nd grade) and we are planning a party with about 10 kids. She's been in school for the last 3 years with a set of twins, one of whom she gets along with much better than the other. The girls invited will be a mix from her current class (which includes the preferred twin) and friends from her aftercare program. Do we still need to invite the other twin to avoid hurt feelings? Haven't discussed the guest list with DD but I know her first reaction will be to invite only one. Is 7/8 too young to exclude when twins are involved?

I would say it's OK but only if the twins are not in aftercare b/c there is no contact with the other twin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 8 (2nd grade) and we are planning a party with about 10 kids. She's been in school for the last 3 years with a set of twins, one of whom she gets along with much better than the other. The girls invited will be a mix from her current class (which includes the preferred twin) and friends from her aftercare program. Do we still need to invite the other twin to avoid hurt feelings? Haven't discussed the guest list with DD but I know her first reaction will be to invite only one. Is 7/8 too young to exclude when twins are involved?

Is the twin also a girl? If yes, you should invite both.

[Anonymous]

You always invite both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 8 (2nd grade) and we are planning a party with about 10 kids. She's been in school for the last 3 years with a set of twins, one of whom she gets along with much better than the other. The girls invited will be a mix from her current class (which includes the preferred twin) and friends from her aftercare program. Do we still need to invite the other twin to avoid hurt feelings? Haven't discussed the guest list with DD but I know her first reaction will be to invite only one. Is 7/8 too young to exclude when twins are involved?

I would say it's OK but only if the twins are not in aftercare b/c there is no contact with the other twin.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You always invite both.

Why? Are twins some sort of package deal, as opposed to just general siblings?

[Anonymous]

Omg it's one kid! Why are people so cheap about birthday parties!

[Anonymous]

Wow, I disagree with everyone. I'd say as soon as you hit kindergarten you should invite only your own friends. Twins are individual people.

OP, I think 8 is PLENTY old enough to just invite the one twin she's friends with.

[Anonymous]

I have twins this age. Invite only the one your child is friends with. If the family is like any other multiples family I know, they won't think anything of it and would rather the other twin not receive a token invite to a party where he/she isn't really wanted. Especially if they're not all in the same class, it'll be pretty obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg it's one kid! Why are people so cheap about birthday parties!

It's not about cheapness.

[Anonymous]

I have twins - depends on the situation. If you have a history of interacting with both and they are both same gender - I would do both. Otherwise you are likely to cause hard feelings (think about being the invited girl). But if you have a history of a much deeper relationship with one and not much with the other, and it's obvious to all parties involved - then one is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I disagree with everyone. I'd say as soon as you hit kindergarten you should invite only your own friends. Twins are individual people.

OP, I think 8 is PLENTY old enough to just invite the one twin she's friends with.

Exactly. They are not siamese twins and by this age twins appreciate separate friends and outings. The other twin will probably be so happy to do something with her parents without her sibling.

[Anonymous]

High school. You can invite them separately when they are in high school.

Before that they are too young, and you are setting their mother up to deal with hurt feelings and jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High school. You can invite them separately when they are in high school.

Before that they are too young, and you are setting their mother up to deal with hurt feelings and jealousy.

You are ridiculous. By 1st grade my daughter was shrugging her shoulders at finding out she hadn't been invited to a birthday party. Help your kids get some backbone!