How are Mormons so nice?

[Anonymous]

i havent read the whole thread- but the infants on thrones podcast is fascinating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have known a group of Mormon lawyers for almost a decade and not one has ever gossiped, shirked work, boasted, been caught in a lie, or lost their temper to my knowledge. I have been to their houses, met their wives, worked closely with them on miserable cases with long days, late nights, and awful colleagues. I have seen them each under extreme pressure and in unfair situations. Yet, they have been unfailingly kind, patient, calm, and good.

How is this possible?

There is literally no one else I have ever known who has kept up such exemplary behavior for even a week. Not even other religious people I know (who profess to have the "joy of the Lord" and other such nonsense, but are worse than most athiests and agnostics who profess no such moral standards).

I don't have a religious bone in my body, but I would love to learn how to maintain such exemplary behavior. I would also love to teach it to my kids.

Do they promote all lawyers equally or give preference to other Mormons?

My question to OP got buried and I still want to know.

My FIL works with many Mormons. He's been angry in the past because Mormons always try to promote other Mormons. He's very senior in the company and he has to approve almost every promotion. This drives him crazy because he is big on merit. I am glad he is there.

[Anonymous]

I know a lot of people who grew up Mormon but they themselves aren't strict about it, and YES, nicest people ever!!! So friendly and great head on shoulders. Happy idyllic childhoods.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Related to this topic, I am fascinated by the fact that so many successful bloggers are Mormon.

Stephanie Nielson is a Mormon blogger and one of the most shallow, vile people I've come across.

So is the Dooce lady

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have known a group of Mormon lawyers for almost a decade and not one has ever gossiped, shirked work, boasted, been caught in a lie, or lost their temper to my knowledge. I have been to their houses, met their wives, worked closely with them on miserable cases with long days, late nights, and awful colleagues. I have seen them each under extreme pressure and in unfair situations. Yet, they have been unfailingly kind, patient, calm, and good.

How is this possible?

There is literally no one else I have ever known who has kept up such exemplary behavior for even a week. Not even other religious people I know (who profess to have the "joy of the Lord" and other such nonsense, but are worse than most athiests and agnostics who profess no such moral standards).

I don't have a religious bone in my body, but I would love to learn how to maintain such exemplary behavior. I would also love to teach it to my kids.

Do they promote all lawyers equally or give preference to other Mormons?

My question to OP got buried and I still want to know.

My FIL works with many Mormons. He's been angry in the past because Mormons always try to promote other Mormons. He's very senior in the company and he has to approve almost every promotion. This drives him crazy because he is big on merit. I am glad he is there.

Thanks for the answer!

[Anonymous]

Grew up near some Mormons. They weren't perfect.

[Anonymous]

My inlaws are Mormon and my husband dropped it when he was a teenager. They aren't perfect but sure do have a nice and shiny exterior. I'd say that most of his family could be described like your co-workers above but they do have their own problems, just like the rest of us. i think they swallow a lot to come across as positively as they do and that's not necessarily a good thing.

I do wish we had such a nice community sometimes, but kinda have a problem with believing in God...

[Anonymous]

Female students are getting punished for being raped at byu. Not what I'd call exceptional values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have known a group of Mormon lawyers for almost a decade and not one has ever gossiped, shirked work, boasted, been caught in a lie, or lost their temper to my knowledge. I have been to their houses, met their wives, worked closely with them on miserable cases with long days, late nights, and awful colleagues. I have seen them each under extreme pressure and in unfair situations. Yet, they have been unfailingly kind, patient, calm, and good.

How is this possible?

There is literally no one else I have ever known who has kept up such exemplary behavior for even a week. Not even other religious people I know (who profess to have the "joy of the Lord" and other such nonsense, but are worse than most athiests and agnostics who profess no such moral standards).

I don't have a religious bone in my body, but I would love to learn how to maintain such exemplary behavior. I would also love to teach it to my kids.

Do they promote all lawyers equally or give preference to other Mormons?

OP here. You know, these are my peers at other law firms, so I have never dealt with them as bosses. I would guess they are fair to non-Mormons, but go out of their way for fellow Mormons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Related to this topic, I am fascinated by the fact that so many successful bloggers are Mormon.

Stephanie Nielson is a Mormon blogger and one of the most shallow, vile people I've come across.

So is the Dooce lady

She was raised Mormon. She has not been a member for sometime.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is Mormon. If you are a woman, things are super if you get married young and have babies. If you are in your 30s and not married, as she was, it is incredibly isolating and can be hard. She did marry in her mid 30s and now has 3 kids, one after the other, which was really hard on her.

I just read a great article about how one Mormon feminist felt totally alone - if you buck the traditional way of thinking about women and their role, you don't have a lot of support.

I also don't like that they try to convert people. Find that really off-putting. I'm 40 and my faith is personal. I don't want a group of kids, no matter how nice, knocking on my door at dinner telling me how great their religion is.

[Anonymous]

I have been reading this blog (71 toes) for a few years now and I definitely get this vibe from the author, who is a Mormon. Their whole family is so smiley and happy pretty much all the time. She also seems to just LOVE being a mom all the time. Its very interesting and fun to read.

[Anonymous]

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I have no interest in becoming a Mormon but the Mormon families I know are all very close, loving and hard working

from the outside looking in perhaps. Mormons are no different from any other people -- there are lots of skeletons in those closets. Wealth is very important, and smiling through grief is too. I knew kids who were being abused by parents, and the church did nothing to protect those children, but instead protected the parents from law enforcement. Dissent is not tolerated, and everyone has to toe the line or be kicked out.

http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2016/06/10/3787182/navajo-sue-mormon-over-sex-abuse/
http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/03/10/is-the-mormon-church-expanding-the-role-of-women/
http://www.mormonstories.org/john-dehlin/

I was raised Jehovah's Witness, and the story is the same. Oh, they are so nice. Yup, and hiding so much. Lots of child and spouse abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I live in Utah and as a general rule, I don't trust Mormons. Of course there are exceptions. But how could I be friends with someone who sincerely believes I am a heathen?

I can understand not trusting them. I do think that they are always looking to convert you. I don't care though if they think I am a heathen because I think they belong to a cult.

Also did you know they never try to convert Catholics. Catholicism is a-ok to Mormons.

Um, you're kidding, right? Catholicism is not "ok" with Mormons. Joseph Smith taught that Catholics are the "whores of Babylon". Doesn't mean they wouldn't try to convert a Catholic though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Related to this topic, I am fascinated by the fact that so many successful bloggers are Mormon.

Stephanie Nielson is a Mormon blogger and one of the most shallow, vile people I've come across.

So is the Dooce lady

She was raised Mormon. She has not been a member for sometime.

She's also made of crazy, Mormon or not.